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Poll: Do you think I did the right thing?

I haven't seen my friend Eric in 8 months he called me up and wanted to come hang out at my house and go see Time Machine later. We agreed he should pick up our mutual friend Matt whom I have not seen in 1.5 years. Anyway they showed up at my house before I got home from work, my wife and mother-in-law were there. Eric brought Matt along with two of his friends from the city. I'd met them before but did not know them real well, all was cool. I was going to grab a bite to eat, my mother-in-law was going to watch the kids and my wife and I were going to head out to the movie.

Well it comes to my attention that one of the guy's Eric brought with him has gone out to his car and is sitting out there smokin' a bowl. In front of my house. The other guy goes out to join him. They're gone for half an hour and show no signs of coming back in.... At this point I tell Eric, "Maybe we should do this another night. I want to see you and Matt but to be honest I don't want to hang out with anyone who would come to my house and do what they've done. You and Matt are welcome to come over anytime but don't bring those guys with. If you need a ride give me a call and I'll come get you." At this point feeling my irritation and being embarrased he left.

Here's the deal, I smoked up plenty in high school and college but quit some time ago. I don't give a rat's ass that they're smoking up. But (and it's THE but) These two a$$holes came to my house, rejected mine and my wife's hospitality and disrespected my mother-in-law. If anyone had realted this story to me I would have said "why didn't you kick the fvckers out?". I will not be made a hypocrite by anyone... I really had no choice but to kick them out.

I've known Eric since I was 16, we used to be very close. It's upsetting to find that I've grown away from him and changed in a way he seemingly does not understand and can not relate to. Such is the doom of responsibility.

Personally I feel there was nothing else I could have done. Perhaps I am seeking a little validation. What do you think.
 
Those guys suck big time. How old are you just curious. I am wondering why your mother inlaw was over.
 


<< Those guys suck big time. How old are you just curious. I am wondering why your mother inlaw was over. >>



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<< I was going to grab a bite to eat, my mother-in-law was going to watch the kids and my wife and I were going to head out to the movie. >>

 
Wow, I've never seen a poll make it past twenty votes with complete unanimity. I guess the masses have spoken. 🙂
 
you did the right thing. They certainly disrespected you. They could have waited and smoked somewhere else when you guys were out...........
 
you were definately right.
those guys had no manners
if they want to do that sh!t, then they can do
it at their place!
 
Yes, you made the right decision.

When I began reading your post I wondered why you would meet with friends whom you have not seen for that long at your house and all. Maybe it's just me. . . . Anyway, after that time apart, it is most likely that your friend has changed or you have changed.

I think your decision was prudent here. 🙂
 
No, You've turned in to an a-hole, pedantic, up-tight PARENT


This is what you have become my friend.
 
You didnt necessarily do the "right" thing.. but it certainly wasnt the wrong thing.. its your choice.. and honestly thats quite pathetic, and probably what i woulda done too.
 

I'd have tipped the police, had my video camera rolling, and hummed "bad boy, bad boy, what's ya gonna do when they come for you."
😱:|😀
 
I would have gone out and ripped them a new one, and stuffed their "bowls" up the old one. :|

So yes, I suppose you were along the right track. 🙂
 
happy w/ the results of the poll so far?? you should be, i think you did the right thing too... good for you, shows maturity and responsiblity.. and you should do a good job raising your kids.... good luck with them....
 
Yep, you did the right thing. They showed nothing but disrespect to you and your family.
 
I think what's happened is that you've grown up and they haven't.

I haven't grown up yet, and if I end up over at someone's house and I don't like the company I'm with or I find it oppressive, I'm liable to go down to the gas station to buy cigarettes or something, even though I don't smoke. I consider my time far too valuable to spend it in a fashion that I don't enjoy.

However, your house is different from most of the places I go, in that there is a kid and a mother-in-law. These sorts of things demand a certain respect, and you've come to a point in your life where it's important that those you interact with lend you respect.

I think that those guys were in the right, but so were you. I said whatever.
 
What did Eric have to say? They were his friends, what, if anything did he say to them?
You did the right thing for the most part. I would have called the cops.
 
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