POLL: Do parents have the right to discipline their kids by spanking them?

[Ranger X]

Yes. Asking and using kind words fall upon deaf ears!

 

[jagec]

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: torpid
They have the right to, but that doesn't mean it is the best thing to do in most cases, if ever. I think that parents who spank kids do it way too often. Doing it often will teach kids a warped sense of justice and morality since they will habitually associate doing something wrong with violent retalliation.

Wasn't this question asked quite recently here?

Oh and timeouts in thier room with books, TVs, Toys etc.. work oh so well...

screw that hippy make your kid pick his own Hickory Switch from the tree...
those freaking things HURT and I never did that crap again that casued me to get beat with that...

MY parents were hippies, and they still spanked me a couple times. I kind of wish they'd spanked me more often though. I really could have used more discipline...it cost me in high school.

 

[blakeatwork]

Yes... I have nothing wrong with a swat on the butt if a kid misbehaves... I wasn't beaten as a chilkd, but I did get the occasional smack for doing something i shouldn't have..

 

[cavemanmoron]

Originally posted by: Freejack2
I think most of the time a child can be punished using time outs, groundings, etc. However there are times when a kid has to be spanked to bring them under control. A spanking when used appropriately can be a very effective child rearing technique. Just ask my parents. 😛

A spanking when used appropriately can be a very effective child rearing technique. Just ask my parents. 😛[/quote]

 

[PlatinumGold]

Originally posted by: waggy
yes.

When used sparianly it is a usefull tool. BUT it is not something that can/should be used for every little thing.


I got spanked 3 times. once for shoplifting, once for busting windows out of a church (yeah im going to hell) and once for calling my mother a b!tch.

one could argue that you wouldn't of done any of those things had you been spanked more often.

i spanked my kids when they were very young, from about 5 months of age (don't go compulsive, i never beat any of my kids, it was no more than a stern word and a light slap, enough to get a point accross) and i rarely spanked them.

now my youngest is 4 1/2 and i haven't spanked any of them in over 1 year.

it's about communication.

 

[imported_Salvatore]

Originally posted by: Viper GTS
Absolutely.

You can't use logic with a small child but they CAN understand "When I do that my ass hurts for a few minutes."

Viper GTS

The only thing I learned from spanking was, "Never get caught." I still live by those words.

But I voted yes.

 

[MithShrike]

Just don't go berserk. When you discipline your children DO NOT do so in anger.

 

[imported_Hi]

Originally posted by: daniel1113
Hell yes.

i knew someone was going to post that

 

[KK]

People that don't spank are poor parents. These would be the same ones that would pawn there kids of to school and treat it as day care, then get all pissed off that the school has to punish their fvcked up kids. All because the parents can't parent. What fvckin losers.

 

[meltdown75]

Yes.

 

[FoBoT]

for sure, but you have to understand when it is effective and when it isn't. spanking them because you are pissed off/spanking when it is not working isn't a good thing

 

[rh71]

do they have the right ? No ... and they legally shouldn't...

But they can do anything they like in the privacy of their own home... don't ask... don't tell.

 

[amol]

Yeah, as long as they don't leave bruises or seriously hurt the kid

I have Indian parents . . .

Indian parents aren't afraid to KILL their children. Their philosophy is "If I kill one, I'll just make another one!! And I'll tell the new one what an idiot that old one was!"

:laugh:

 

[Vic]

Originally posted by: KK
People that don't spank are poor parents. These would be the same ones that would pawn there kids of to school and treat it as day care, then get all pissed off that the school has to punish their fvcked up kids. All because the parents can't parent. What fvckin losers.

Bingo. Or they send them to "time out" in their room with their Xbox and internet connected PC as "punishment". :roll:

That isn't parenting. It's avoidance. It demostrates to the child that the parent does not care if the child does right or wrong. And the result is an unloved undisciplined child, the kind we see everywhere today. But when used properly and mildly, without anger or malice, spanking can be the most effective of all forms of discipline.

To clarify, the Bible (which frequently brings the wisdom of the ancients without the mention of or need for God, despite the lies of its naysayers) does not say, "Spare the rod, spoil the child". What it does say is, "He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him." Proverbs 13:24 (NIV). Which is absolutely true.

 

[KarenMarie]

ya know... it is usually the parents that are against spanking that are the ones with the kids that are running around, screeching at the top of thier lungs in public.

😉

 

[MX2]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
ya know... it is usually the parents that are against spanking that are the ones with the kids that are running around, screeching at the top of thier lungs in public.

😉

Negative. My kids are well behaved as well as polite and friendly.

 

[hdeck]

knock the crap out of the little bastards

 

[Toastedlightly]

I was punished with swats. I distinctly remember throwing things down the stairs at my grandma's house, a bad pain, a wooden spoon, and a timeout. I never threw things down the stiars. People who dont' punish their kids (punish != beat) have spoiled kids. I know a person like that now, and she is all me me me and doesn't think about what her actions do. I am glad I was swatted (multiple times).

Heck, my grandpa made a wooden paddle with speed holes on the tip as a reminder not to misbehave. Worked well.

 

[Philippine Mango]

Originally posted by: Specop 007
My kids have been known to catch an ass whippin a time or two.
Most notably, when coloring on the walls (After the thrid time I lost patience, and they got a spankin), and another notable time was when my son was trying to stick a knife into an electrical outlet. Naturally, holding the knive in his mouth to do so. :roll:

And for those preachers, it was a butter knive, he couldnt have cut himself if he tried.

Did it have a tiny little serrated blade? Was it a TRUE butter knife? I've cut my self with a butter knife and it was pretty deep..

 

[Vic]

Originally posted by: MX2times

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
ya know... it is usually the parents that are against spanking that are the ones with the kids that are running around, screeching at the top of thier lungs in public.

😉

Negative. My kids are well behaved as well as polite and friendly.

Or so you like to believe. People rarely tell their friends and family what they think of their children. For example, my sister does not believe in spanking, and my entire family (I have 5 siblings, plus parents, step-parents, etc.) dislikes going her to her house because her daughter (my niece) is such an unholy spoiled terror. No one tells my sister this though...

 

[PlatinumGold]

some of you are missing the point.

Question:

DO PARENTS HAVE THE RIGHT TO SPANK THEIR KIDS?

answer:

YES


SHOULD they spank their kids, perhaps sparingly. definitely should not beat their kids.

 

[Wallydraigle]

Originally posted by: Philippine Mango

Originally posted by: Specop 007
My kids have been known to catch an ass whippin a time or two.
Most notably, when coloring on the walls (After the thrid time I lost patience, and they got a spankin), and another notable time was when my son was trying to stick a knife into an electrical outlet. Naturally, holding the knive in his mouth to do so. :roll:

And for those preachers, it was a butter knive, he couldnt have cut himself if he tried.

Did it have a tiny little serrated blade? Was it a TRUE butter knife? I've cut my self with a butter knife and it was pretty deep..

Actually, I believe you could do that.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Absolutely. Why wouldn't they?

 

[Philippine Mango]

Originally posted by: DougK62

Originally posted by: MadCowDisease
You'd be surprised. Four year olds understand more than people give them credit for. Part of the problem is that people think they're completely clueless. Besides, I don't quite understand the logic behind this. If they aren't capable of "logical reasoning" as you claim, what makes you think they'll be able to draw a link between pain and something they did?

LOL - not wanting pain has NOTHING to do with logic. Any mammal will respond to pain. A stupid lab rat will learn to not do something if you shock it when it does. Does that mean the lab rat is capable of logical reasoning?

Yes, I actually think they ARE capable of LOGICAL reasoning. My cat when looking outside, if he sees something move to the left (out of site from the first window) he will run to the next window in the direction the object moved which requires....LOGIC!

The majority of child misbehavior isn't from the kids but from the people around them. The best way to stop it is not to hit but to look at yourself and see what sort of example you're setting. That said, my mom smacked me around for a few years and to this day, I don't appreciate it one bit.

You're exactly right. You have to look at what kind of example you set. What does that have to do with spanking? It's being a good parent when you aren't spanking that has the lasting effects. Maybe that's where your mom failed.[/quote]

There are kids out there who have parents that don't beat them and they aren't wild and crazy... There are also parents who don't beat their kids and ARE CRAZY. I think children act the way they act because of environmental effects.. For example if one kid sees a kid getting away with being retarded in public and acting stupid, screaming etc then that kid will try to emulate that too and if the parent doesn't try to correct this then this kid will too act that way (domino effect).

 

[Kadarin]

Spank? Sure! Sometimes phyiscal discipline is the only thing that will work on a child. However, "spank" is most definitely not the same thing as "beat the crap out of".