Plus one required for those in bridal party?

[erub]

My friend and I are having a debate. She says that if you are groomsman or bridesmaid, you should always get a plus one, regardless of how serious a relationship you may be in. You should be allowed to take a friend if you want. Thoughts?

Edit: The argument that another friend (the bride) was making was that if the bridal party member is in a relationship, they are obviously allowed to bring the person, provided that they (bride and groom) have met them. Since we are all close friends this isn't a problem for those couples amongst us. The bride didn't want the bridal party member to be forced to "baby-sit" a friend/new date who doesn't know anyone else when the bridal party member could be off having fun themselves/with the other guests.

The friend who is making the argument that it is required has in the past brought a friend (not a SO) to a wedding, where their date didn't know anyone else (including the bride and groom)..at the least in my book that is inconsiderate, not everybody has unlimited space at their venue or funds..

 

[Jeff7]

A plus one?

???

 

[erub]

Originally posted by: Jeff7
A plus one?

???

Allow them to choose their own guest

 

[MagnusTheBrewer]

Why wouldn't you allow a bridesmaid or groomsman to invite whomever they wanted?

 

[xSauronx]

Originally posted by: MagnusTheBrewer
Why wouldn't you allow a bridesmaid or groomsman to invite whomever they wanted?

OP is a cheapskate?

 

[slsmnaz]

I would view it as bad form to ask someone to be a part of your wedding but not let them bring someone.

 

[shopbruin]

You should be able to bring one, as it would be kinda bad form to ask someone to be a part of your wedding, shelling out a ton of money to stand up there with you.

On the other hand, if you're not married to your guest or if your guest isn't already friends with other people there, they are going to wind up pretty bored during the wedding and reception if they have no one else they know, since the bridesmaid/groomsman will be semi-busy with wedding related items, and may not even sit with their guest during the reception.

 

[Drakkon]

How is there any debate? I mean what is your argument for not allowing the bridal party to bring someone even if it is only a friend?

 

[fstime]

WTF LOL.

Any groomsman or bridesmaid should be allowed to invite someone, whether it be a SO or their family.

Shit, if he/she is taking part in your wedding, you should know them well enough to also know who they decide to bring.

 

[LilPima]

Every adult guest should be allowed a plus one (some will not bring a guest) but especially a member of the wedding party.

 

[IronWing]

No. The bridesmaids and groomsmen are there to prodive filler around the couple during photoshoots and to get drunk and make the otherwise boring reception memorable. If they bring their SO then chances are that they will be distracted during the photoshoots and likely behave themselves, thus making for a boring wedding.

 

[sao123]

Originally posted by: erub
My friend and I are having a debate. She says that if you are groomsman or bridesmaid, you should always get a plus one, regardless of how serious a relationship you may be in. You should be allowed to take a friend if you want. Thoughts?

your friend is correct.

 

[finite automaton]

Originally posted by: erub
My friend and I are having a debate. She says that if you are groomsman or bridesmaid, you should always get a plus one, regardless of how serious a relationship you may be in. You should be allowed to take a friend if you want. Thoughts?

Why does the relationship of the person you invited and the person they bring matter?

 

[RaistlinZ]

Originally posted by: finite automaton

Originally posted by: erub
My friend and I are having a debate. She says that if you are groomsman or bridesmaid, you should always get a plus one, regardless of how serious a relationship you may be in. You should be allowed to take a friend if you want. Thoughts?

Why does the relationship of the person you invited and the person they bring matter?

Yeah, I was wondering the same thing. The OP has some wierd ideas about weddings.

Your friend is right, but it should be common sense that if you invite someone to your wedding they're going to come someone. I'm surprised you're even debating this.

 

[nageov3t]

Originally posted by: LilPima
Every adult guest should be allowed a plus one (some will not bring a guest) but especially a member of the wedding party.

/absolutely agree

I was invited to my friends wedding two summers ago and wasn't allowed to bring a plus one. I was insulted enough that I gave them less of a wedding gift than I would have otherwise.

at my sister's wedding I was in the wedding party... I had a partner among the bridesmaids, but at the reception, the bridesmaids and and groomsmen were at separate tables with their respective dates.

 

[mugs]

Originally posted by: loki8481

Originally posted by: LilPima
Every adult guest should be allowed a plus one (some will not bring a guest) but especially a member of the wedding party.

/absolutely agree

I was invited to my friends wedding two summers ago and wasn't allowed to bring a plus one. I was insulted enough that I gave them less of a wedding gift than I would have otherwise.

at my sister's wedding I was in the wedding party... I had a partner among the bridesmaids, but at the reception, the bridesmaids and and groomsmen were at separate tables with their respective dates.

I too agree.