When?in what context? I don't give a fuck who you are... if you are white, at some point in your life you have said or will drop the n-bomb either in anger, in a joke or singing along with a song. You just may not have the balls to admit it.
Now that I've 'reconnected' with a bunch of people from my hometown, many of whom I went to school with (25 ~ 27 years ago), occasionally I see one leaving a comment or post about a topic or issue such as drunk driving, basically having the tone there is absolutely no excuse for drunk driving and that anyone who does it gets what they deserve. And I'm like thinking to myself, "Ummm, did you forget that time" or "those other two times when...?" At least one in recent memory had even wrecked their car driving while drunk, back in the day. I don't say anything, but sometimes I really want to.
I mean, I've dropped the N-bomb. I was raised in a nearly all-white community, and by that I mean there were probably three or four blacks in my high school over a 10 year period. Even though some people didn't use it, or thought it was inappropriate, there was basically nobody who would stand-up and strongly oppose or admonish anyone for using it, except for maybe teachers when it was used within earshot at school or in their classroom. Sorta like the F-bomb. Some people don't like it, some people don't think its appropriate and don't use it themselves, but how often have you ever seen anyone stand-up and really admonish someone else for using it?
I was young and insensitive. Who wasn't in some way or another. Once I grew-up, got out into the world (beyond WhiteyVille USA hometown) became aware of how insensitive and hurtful this word was, and more knowledgeable about the history of racism in our country, I stopped using it. When I am Paula Deen's age, I will be able to say "it was decades ago since I last used that word."
Lotta hypocrites in the world. Even blacks, who in their own BlackVille USA communities, use offensive, insensitive, derogatory, or racial slurs for everyone else (Asians, hispanics/latinos, whites, Jews, you name it).