ok to flirt?

[Hammer]

there's nothing wrong with a little harmless flirting

 

[ScrapSilicon]

Originally posted by: SnapIT

Originally posted by: ScrapSilicon

Originally posted by: SnapIT

Originally posted by: ohtwell
As long as the flirting is not taken to extremes, I see no problem.

That could be because I am an irrational girl though.

: ) Amanda

You're a girl... and an irrational girl too... but i agreee... does that make me a girlieman... *runs away screaming*

heh

Now THAT was a hmmm... wierd thing to post...

sorry... meant to post this

 

[MonkOnXanax]

Originally posted by: ohtwell
As long as the flirting is not taken to extremes, I see no problem. When my hubby flirts I joke with him about it. I'd never be pissed off at him. That would make me a hypocrit.


: ) Amanda

that still doesnt explain why his gf thinks that its ok for her to flirt, but she'd be pissed if he flirted.

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: ScrapSilicon

Originally posted by: SnapIT

Originally posted by: ScrapSilicon

Originally posted by: SnapIT

Originally posted by: ohtwell
As long as the flirting is not taken to extremes, I see no problem.

That could be because I am an irrational girl though.

: ) Amanda

You're a girl... and an irrational girl too... but i agreee... does that make me a girlieman... *runs away screaming*

heh

Now THAT was a hmmm... wierd thing to post...

sorry... meant to post this

blech... my girlfiend would kick your butt if she saw that... ;-)

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: ohtwell
As long as the flirting is not taken to extremes, I see no problem. When my hubby flirts I joke with him about it. I'd never be pissed off at him. That would make me a hypocrit.


: ) Amanda

Agreed. Flirt all you like. Trying to remember who said this first ...

"I don't care where he works up his appetite, as long as he's coming home for dinner."

Flirting is fine. Cheating is not.

- M4H

 

[ThePresence]

? Why are women so irrational sometimes?

Because they are from Venus.

 

[HomeBrewerDude]

I wouldn't be threatened if my wife had a little flirt session with some guy on the internet, assuming it was just a one time thing.

 

"Her bf of course found out and got pissed off. However, neither my gf nor her friend think that she did anything wrong."

And your reason is?

I'll flirt all I want. And no one's gonna stop me. Flirt but don't act on it or touch. Simple as that. If you don't like it, then leave me 'cuz I'll keep flirting. Now, if I were married, then flirting won't really be something that I would do. It might cross the line if I did that. Perhaps a very mild flirting here and there wouldn't be bad.

 

[BoberFett]

If your girlfriend flirts with another guy, you have no recourse but to beat her severely. Some men really need to learn how to keep their women in line.

 

[Isla]

Originally posted by: BoberFett
If your girlfriend flirts with another guy, you have no recourse but to beat her severely. Some men really need to learn how to keep their women in line.

You crack me up, Bober.

 

[MastaTam]

Ok, so I guess the general opinion I got from all of you is that flirting is fine. But as MonkOnXanax said, that doesn't explain why it's ok for her to flirt but not for me. Does it come down to a security issue? Is she so insecure about herself that she needs to validate her beauty and desirability by flirting with other people? Yes, I know flirting is fun and all, but at what point does it become too much? For everyone who believes that flirting is fine while in a relationship, how would you feel if you found out that your SO had been flirting with someone you thought was way hotter than you (this one is especially for the ladies here ). There's so much grey area here which is why I tend to not flirt at all while in a relationship.

 

[Que-TiP]

I have always lived by this rule:

"you can get hungry wherever you want, as long as you eat at home"

EDIT: dammit, MercenaryForHire beat me too it, i should really read the entire post before replying

 

[Moonbeam]

You crack me up, Bober.
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He makes you fly upside down?

Just be careful you don't get accused of doing something more than flirting, Isla. Lots of people today are familiar with Chinese philosophy.

 

[MonkOnXanax]

Originally posted by: luvly
"Her bf of course found out and got pissed off. However, neither my gf nor her friend think that she did anything wrong."

And your reason is?

I'll flirt all I want. And no one's gonna stop me. Flirt but don't act on it or touch. Simple as that. If you don't like it, then leave me 'cuz I'll keep flirting. Now, if I were married, then flirting won't really be something that I would do. It might cross the line if I did that. Perhaps a very mild flirting here and there wouldn't be bad.

that still doesnt explain why his gf thinks that its ok for her to flirt, but she'd be pissed if he flirted.

 

[Sealy]

I love flirting! As long as you make it clear to the other party that that's all it is! Teasing is not cool...where the other person thinks he may have a chance but gets shut down when push comes to shove. If both people are having fun and nothing more comes of it...what's wrong with that! The difference of whether it is right or wrong would be if one person is hiding the flirting from their mate. For example you flirt with someone when your mate is not around but when they are around you act completely different towards the person you were flirting with. If it's all innocent then it should'nt matter who's around when you do it!

 

[Stifko]

Flirting is my hobby. It can be a lot of fun. I love to flirt and check out women's body English.

 

[MonkOnXanax]

Originally posted by: Sealy
I love flirting! As long as you make it clear to the other party that that's all it is! Teasing is not cool...where the other person thinks he may have a chance but gets shut down when push comes to shove. If both people are having fun and nothing more comes of it...what's wrong with that! The difference of whether it is right or wrong would be if one person is hiding the flirting from their mate. For example you flirt with someone when your mate is not around but when they are around you act completely different towards the person you were flirting with. If it's all innocent then it should'nt matter who's around when you do it!

that still doesnt explain why his gf thinks that its ok for her to flirt, but she'd be pissed if he flirted.

 

[Sealy]

Originally posted by: Stifko
Flirting is my hobby. It can be a lot of fun. I love to flirt and check out women's body English.

Haha well put!

 

[CrazyDe1]

Who cares if they flirt? Everyones gonna flirt a little...the problem is when they decide they want to act on it becuase if they're really into the relationship they're not gonna want to act on it. The only thing that would make me mad is if they did it in front of me...then it'd be a pride thing...but if I'm not around and theres a guy go for it flirt w/ him I don't care

 

[Ciber]

Girls flirting is not a good thing for the simple reason that men get excited really fast and think the girl is crazy about them(just look at the girl threads here). Next thing you know the guy is grabbing your gf or trying to kiss her because he thinks she wants him, then the girl wonders what in the world happened here and why this guy did this blah blah blah. It Happens all the time.

 

[AreaCode707]

I'd say that, if flirting makes you uncomfortable, she should respect that and not flirt. It's a self-control issue. Flirting is a natural behavior, IMO, and learning to harness that when you're in a relationship takes some work. The girl shouldn't be trying to justify it if the guy doesn't like it; that's a lame excuse for not controlling one's own behavior. If both parties are fine with it, then that's between them and it sounds like life's all well and good.

In the case of you and your girlfriend, she's not being irrational to confess that she'd feel pissed off if you were flirting. It would be irrational if she said it was okay for her to flirt and not okay for you to. Being honest about how she feels about it isn't the same as regulating your behavior by different standards. Will she admit that it's okay for you to flirt, same as her, but that she just doesn't like it?

 

[Ameesh]

flirting is harmless.

 

[dirtboy]

I think it's okay to flirt.

 

[Sealy]

Originally posted by: MonkOnXanax

Originally posted by: Sealy
I love flirting! As long as you make it clear to the other party that that's all it is! Teasing is not cool...where the other person thinks he may have a chance but gets shut down when push comes to shove. If both people are having fun and nothing more comes of it...what's wrong with that! The difference of whether it is right or wrong would be if one person is hiding the flirting from their mate. For example you flirt with someone when your mate is not around but when they are around you act completely different towards the person you were flirting with. If it's all innocent then it should'nt matter who's around when you do it!

that still doesnt explain why his gf thinks that its ok for her to flirt, but she'd be pissed if he flirted.

Does masta tam mean his personal girlfriend thinks it's okay for herself to flirt and not masta tam or does masta tam mean his personal girlfriend thinks it's okay for masta tam's friend's girlfriend to flirt but not for masta tam to flirt?

 

Men flirt, women flirt. Just don't do it in someone's face. The difference is, guys do it in their significant other's presence. That's plain rude. And it is more likely to mean more than it is when a woman flirts with a guy and in the presence of her significant other.