Maybe i'm just bitchy today, but this often sounds a bad and unpersuasive argument.
You love FF7 and it blew you away, yet it relies on that spiky haired androgynous character. In fact, Cloud fits that description the best, all the way through his blithering "watch me get amnesia and knocked out" phase. The other characters, from Squall to (skipping over Zidane) Tidus were atleast more dynamic and didn't reach as 'emo' of a status that Cloud was (and that is saying a lot considering we are comparing him to Squall).
You also seem to not enjoy the 'high tech' stuff from FF8....yet FF7 was about Mako Reactors, driving in a car, cloud pimping off his motocycle, with a big ass fucking cannon in Junon, and genetic engineering up the wazoo. Cait Sith was a robotic droid doll controlled by the Turks, Cid Highwind had his own fucking rocket and was in training as an astronaut for Shinra at one point....and all those guys run around with guns! Hell the intro video started off with a fly by of the technological marvel of Midgar and having the Cloud leap off a mako powered train....You sure that FF8 was the one to add a lot of 'high tech' stuff? I'd say FF7 was the one to do it, yet people beat up on ff8.
And let us not even talk about cheesy love ballads LOL! Yeahhh the Tifa/Aerith question was not cheesy at all! Watch Cloud go for both, oh wait, there goes Aerith...and once he understands that Aerith and Zack were for eachother, he goes back to Tifa rediscovering his 'true love'. But none of this was after Aerith dies of course. And of course, you can't take either on a date, right? Nothinng was corny at alllllllllllllllll...at alllllllllllllllll. At least in FF8, at the very least, you could say that Squall's relationship, at the minimum, appeared more realistic - having no interest in a person, beginning to care for him/her but trying to deny those feelings because you don't want to get too close, and finally just becoming open and clear about what you want once you realize you are about to lose the person.
And if we want to talk about corny and ridiculous....FF9 "Oh watch now we care about crystals in the very last minute when it comes flying out of left field!" comes to mind. And as great as FF9 was, I ultimately remember way more details from 7 and 8. FF9 has way more haze, which makes me say "how memorable was it really, especially when people in the past have talked about how FF9 did a good job by taking one back to the roots?"
It seems there are quite a bit of 'generalizations' there...to where it breaks down your whole argument.
I don't know why people treat FF7 so much more different when it is actually very similar to the other FF games. I'm not a Ff7 hater, I like it very much as well, but let us be evenhanded about these things rather than setup a double standard because everyone imagines FF7 was something more than it really was.