relationships are about give and take. I don't think a 10 minute drive is a big deal, but make sure you're not bending over backwards to do stuff for her if she's not doing anything for you.
I think it's more than reasonable, but if it really interferes with your evenings you should be up front about it. I used to pick my guy up from work at midnight (40 minute r/t) several times a week before he had a license and, quite frankly, I was always happy to do so.
Hahaha, its so wrong but i know how you feel. You get home, get undressed and relaxed but then halfway through the evening you have to get dressed again and go out. This totally breaks the flow of the evening.
There are two things you need to consider:
1) If the situation was reversed, would you want her to pick you up or let you walk?
2) If she was the hottest girl alive, would you even think twice about picking her up?
There are two things you need to consider:
1) If the situation was reversed, would you want her to pick you up or let you walk?
2) If she was the hottest girl alive, would you even think twice about picking her up?
You should be happy to do it for her. If you feel obligated then ....
If it happens everyday and you have stuff to do then just tell her you will be busy ahead of time so she won't expect you to pick her up.
If it happens everyday and you have stuff to do then just tell her you will be busy ahead of time so she won't expect you to pick her up.
Chivalry is indeed dead. 
what kind of guy would even CONSIDER letting his GF walk home in the dark?? 25 minute walk at night??
what kind of guy would even CONSIDER letting his GF walk home in the dark?? 25 minute walk at night??
Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
Chivalry is indeed dead.
what kind of guy would even CONSIDER letting his GF walk home in the dark?? 25 minute walk at night??
I feel like a sh!t. /* walks over to corner with tail between legs and lies down */
Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
Chivalry is indeed dead.
what kind of guy would even CONSIDER letting his GF walk home in the dark?? 25 minute walk at night??
The kind of guy who knows that his girlfriend is a second-degree blackbelt in Taekwondo. (Not me but a friend's girlfriend)
Originally posted by: MadCowDisease
Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
Chivalry is indeed dead.
what kind of guy would even CONSIDER letting his GF walk home in the dark?? 25 minute walk at night??
The kind of guy who knows that his girlfriend is a second-degree blackbelt in Taekwondo. (Not me but a friend's girlfriend)
She can take care of herself. She has army training and can kick me in the ass 100 feet away.
Originally posted by: pandego
Originally posted by: MadCowDisease
Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
Chivalry is indeed dead.
what kind of guy would even CONSIDER letting his GF walk home in the dark?? 25 minute walk at night??
The kind of guy who knows that his girlfriend is a second-degree blackbelt in Taekwondo. (Not me but a friend's girlfriend)
She can take care of herself. She has army training and can kick me in the ass 100 feet away.
She probably will, too, if you make her walk
I used to do that before we got married... of course we also lived together so it doesn't really relate to your situation.... but between her walking 25+ mins in the dark and a 10 min disruption in your evening, there is only one obvious option.... anyway, you can always use the opportunity to do someting else, like get your groceries, get gas, say hi to friends...etc...
I know how you feel. Dump her. Seriously. I stuck out relationships for 2-3 years feeling like this.
Now I am with a girl whom I truly love, there is nothing too far out of the way for me to do for her.
Now I am with a girl whom I truly love, there is nothing too far out of the way for me to do for her.
Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
Chivalry is indeed dead.
what kind of guy would even CONSIDER letting his GF walk home in the dark?? 25 minute walk at night??
THANK YOU.
i would work until 6ish at night and my boyfriend ALWAYS came to pick me up. it was about a ten minute drive each way. i mean i would take the bus in the morning, but after work he ALWAYS came to pick me up at night. and it was still bright out since it was daylight savings time, so at 6pm it'd still be hecka sunny outside but he still came to pick me up.
it was nice on his part that he didn't want me to ride the crazy bus on the way home which was usually packed and all i had to do was wait for him at a point where it would be easy for him to turn around so we could drive back.
Originally posted by: freesia39
Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
Chivalry is indeed dead.
what kind of guy would even CONSIDER letting his GF walk home in the dark?? 25 minute walk at night??
THANK YOU.
i would work until 6ish at night and my boyfriend ALWAYS came to pick me up. it was about a ten minute drive each way. i mean i would take the bus in the morning, but after work he ALWAYS came to pick me up at night. and it was still bright out since it was daylight savings time, so at 6pm it'd still be hecka sunny outside but he still came to pick me up.
it was nice on his part that he didn't want me to ride the crazy bus on the way home which was usually packed and all i had to do was wait for him at a point where it would be easy for him to turn around so we could drive back.
Well after reading the responses I concur with the general consensus that
a) she really appreciates it
b) it's not too much out of my way
c) i'd only be surfing on ATOT
d) she'd do the same for me.
So, goin' to pick her up tonite.
Originally posted by: pandego
Originally posted by: freesia39
Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
Chivalry is indeed dead.
what kind of guy would even CONSIDER letting his GF walk home in the dark?? 25 minute walk at night??
THANK YOU.
i would work until 6ish at night and my boyfriend ALWAYS came to pick me up. it was about a ten minute drive each way. i mean i would take the bus in the morning, but after work he ALWAYS came to pick me up at night. and it was still bright out since it was daylight savings time, so at 6pm it'd still be hecka sunny outside but he still came to pick me up.
it was nice on his part that he didn't want me to ride the crazy bus on the way home which was usually packed and all i had to do was wait for him at a point where it would be easy for him to turn around so we could drive back.
Well after reading the responses I concur with the general consensus that
a) she really appreciates it
b) it's not too much out of my way
c) i'd only be surfing on ATOT
d) she'd do the same for me.
So, goin' to pick her up tonite.
HAHAHAHAH
what a fvcking wuss.
you let people here sway you?? it saddens me that it took this thread to get you to do something that should NEVER have even been questioned.
you said you thought she might be taking advantage of you. HOW do you stay in a relationship where you don't TRUST the other person??
mb it's just me, mb i'm the stupid one here, but if i'm in a relationship i'm commited until she proves to me beyond a shadow of a doubt that she is cheating on me etc OR we both decide that it JUST isn't working out.
i must be naive.
Originally posted by: freesia39
Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
Chivalry is indeed dead.
what kind of guy would even CONSIDER letting his GF walk home in the dark?? 25 minute walk at night??
THANK YOU.
i would work until 6ish at night and my boyfriend ALWAYS came to pick me up. it was about a ten minute drive each way. i mean i would take the bus in the morning, but after work he ALWAYS came to pick me up at night. and it was still bright out since it was daylight savings time, so at 6pm it'd still be hecka sunny outside but he still came to pick me up.
it was nice on his part that he didn't want me to ride the crazy bus on the way home which was usually packed and all i had to do was wait for him at a point where it would be easy for him to turn around so we could drive back.
I don't know. I'm all for being nice and helping out (I would be happy to pick up my gf from work--I drove her to class every day last year), but I can't figure out why the original poster has to be the sole means of getting her home. Can't she find she find a couple other options so he doesn't have to do it every night? What happens if he can't make it, is he supposed to feel guilty that she had to walk home in the dark? That's not fair. If she wants/needs to work, then it is her responsibility to find a way home. Can't she get a ride home from her parents, friends, roommate, coworker once in a while? Maybe bike or bus home?
The bottom line is if the original poster feels like it's an obligation, then it will only cause problems in the future. You should only do it if you want to do it. There is no reason to feel guilty for not wanting to. If you weren't there, then she'd have to find another way to get home. (IMO though, if you don't want to drive 10 minutes roundtrip to see her, then maybe this isn't the girl for you). But I do believe you need to be wary of being used in this situation. If it isn't a two way street where she does little things like this for you, then look out.
Originally posted by: Izzo
Originally posted by: freesia39
Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
Chivalry is indeed dead.
what kind of guy would even CONSIDER letting his GF walk home in the dark?? 25 minute walk at night??
THANK YOU.
i would work until 6ish at night and my boyfriend ALWAYS came to pick me up. it was about a ten minute drive each way. i mean i would take the bus in the morning, but after work he ALWAYS came to pick me up at night. and it was still bright out since it was daylight savings time, so at 6pm it'd still be hecka sunny outside but he still came to pick me up.
it was nice on his part that he didn't want me to ride the crazy bus on the way home which was usually packed and all i had to do was wait for him at a point where it would be easy for him to turn around so we could drive back.
I don't know. I'm all for being nice and helping out (I would be happy to pick up my gf from work--I drove her to class every day last year), but I can't figure out why the original poster has to be the sole means of getting her home. Can't she find she find a couple other options so he doesn't have to do it every night? What happens if he can't make it, is he supposed to feel guilty that she had to walk home in the dark? That's not fair. If she wants/needs to work, then it is her responsibility to find a way home. Can't she get a ride home from her parents, friends, roommate, coworker once in a while? Maybe bike or bus home?
The bottom line is if the original poster feels like it's an obligation, then it will only cause problems in the future. You should only do it if you want to do it. There is no reason to feel guilty for not wanting to. If you weren't there, then she'd have to find another way to get home. (IMO though, if you don't want to drive 10 minutes roundtrip to see her, then maybe this isn't the girl for you). But I do believe you need to be wary of being used in this situation. If it isn't a two way street where she does little things like this for you, then look out.
you're probably right and i'm being naive. but if i've been "dating" someone for 3 to 4 months and I think doing stuff like this for her is an "obligation" and i'm not sure if she is "using" me or not, then in my opinion, there is something seriously wrong with the relationship.
the fact that he capitulates after reading this thread and says that he will pick her up now, says even more about his character.
that's just me of course.
If you don't want to..just say so.
you don't HAVE to do anything. if she throws a fit...tell her to get her own car.
you don't HAVE to do anything. if she throws a fit...tell her to get her own car.
I am just looking for a reasonable middle-ground solution.
If the majority do not find picking her up that great an inconvenience, then I shall perform this duty for her whenever she asks.
Some nights I will be unable to pick her up due to other committments, and she will have to get home herself.
If anyone would care to judge my character because I am asking ATOT for advice can do so privately. PM me.
Thank you for your time,
If the majority do not find picking her up that great an inconvenience, then I shall perform this duty for her whenever she asks.
Some nights I will be unable to pick her up due to other committments, and she will have to get home herself.
If anyone would care to judge my character because I am asking ATOT for advice can do so privately. PM me.
Thank you for your time,
Originally posted by: Skoorb
Where's the fun in private judgements?
Ok, flame on. <grabs fire extinguisher>
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