Obligated to drive gf home from work

[pandego]

We live close, and she works reasonably close too.

Am I obliged to pick her up from work when ever she calls at the end of the day (usually every day)?

I have to drop what I am doing and go get her usually.

What do you guys think? Should I leave my cell turned off?

 

[PlatinumGold]

obliged? or obligated?

 

[PlatinumGold]

i looked them up and i guess obliged works to. hmmm.

 

[pandego]

Should I be expected to drive her home & run errands 'cause I have a car and she doesn't?

 

[PunDogg]

does she end near the same time you end? if so let her to wait till u are finished then both go home at the same time.
DOgg

 

[pandego]

She's usually done in the evening, and I am long gone from work and doing stuff at home...

 

[PlatinumGold]

hehehehe

i remember this one old gf of mine, we would met at a park (both of us drove) she got in my car, we went out, dinner and so forth, then i dropped her off at her car and went home.

next day she was sooo pissed at me because i didn't follow her home.

but she did have nice titties. oh well.

 

[hdeck]

seems like that is something you would do "just because"

 

[TheCorm]

As her for a favour on the way home..... concentrate on the road too though! :Q < O face.

 

[ndee]

Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
hehehehe

i remember this one old gf of mine, we would met at a park (both of us drove) she got in my car, we went out, dinner and so forth, then i dropped her off at her car and went home.

next day she was sooo pissed at me because i didn't follow her home.

but she did have nice titties. oh well.

lol

 

[pandego]

 

[PunDogg]

Originally posted by: pandego
She's usually done in the evening, and I am long gone from work and doing stuff at home...

i see, well i would polity ask her to find a ride, and if she can't then pick her up, not really a big deal

ohh yeah how long have you guys been going out??

Dogg

 

[TwinkleToes77]

I wouldnt just shut your phone off.. but maybe tell her before she goes to work or the night before that you cant pick her up that night because you are doing something else. That way you dont leave her hanging. And anyways.. If you live close whats the big deal. How long does it take you to do the round trip?

 

[Hammer]

what would she do if you didn't? walk? bus?

 

[pandego]

 

[hdeck]

Originally posted by: pandego
Just because we're dating, you mean? Does it come with the territory?

out of courtesy really. if i had a friend that needed a ride home from work and it was close to me i wouldn't mind as long as i wasn't in the middle of something really important that i couldn't put off until later. granted, i wouldn't do it every day if i wasn't getting any back

 

[isaacmacdonald]

I pick my girl up every night (~18 minutes each way).

 

[pandego]

Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77
I wouldnt just shut your phone off.. but maybe tell her before she goes to work or the night before that you cant pick her up that night because you are doing something else. That way you dont leave her hanging. And anyways.. If you live close whats the big deal. How long does it take you to do the round trip?

Oh, maybe 10 minutes round trip. It's not the time that matters. Just wondering if it's something a gf reasonably expects from her guy, or if I'm being taken advantage of.

 

[pandego]

Originally posted by: PunDogg

Originally posted by: pandego
She's usually done in the evening, and I am long gone from work and doing stuff at home...

i see, well i would polity ask her to find a ride, and if she can't then pick her up, not really a big deal

ohh yeah how long have you guys been going out??

Dogg

Just three or four months, is all.

 

[PlatinumGold]

Originally posted by: pandego

Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77
I wouldnt just shut your phone off.. but maybe tell her before she goes to work or the night before that you cant pick her up that night because you are doing something else. That way you dont leave her hanging. And anyways.. If you live close whats the big deal. How long does it take you to do the round trip?

Oh, maybe 10 minutes round trip. It's not the time that matters. Just wondering if it's something a gf reasonably expects from her guy, or if I'm being taken advantage of.

Son, if you have to ask. . .

you are not obligated or obliged to do ANYTHING in a relationship. You do what you feel you must do to maintain a healthy relationship.

mostly it should be about communication and not asking other people what they do.

 

[pandego]

Originally posted by: Hammer
what would she do if you didn't? walk? bus?

It's a fair walk to her job in Burnaby from the house... maybe 20-30 mins.

 

[TwinkleToes77]

Originally posted by: pandego

Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77
I wouldnt just shut your phone off.. but maybe tell her before she goes to work or the night before that you cant pick her up that night because you are doing something else. That way you dont leave her hanging. And anyways.. If you live close whats the big deal. How long does it take you to do the round trip?

Oh, maybe 10 minutes round trip. It's not the time that matters. Just wondering if it's something a gf reasonably expects from her guy, or if I'm being taken advantage of.

How would she normally get home otherwise?


and no i dont think its being taken advantage of. Maybe she thinks that you dont mind doing it because youve never actually said to her that you have to drop whatever you are doing to come get her for a whole 10 minutes.

 

[pandego]

Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77

Originally posted by: pandego

Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77
I wouldnt just shut your phone off.. but maybe tell her before she goes to work or the night before that you cant pick her up that night because you are doing something else. That way you dont leave her hanging. And anyways.. If you live close whats the big deal. How long does it take you to do the round trip?

Oh, maybe 10 minutes round trip. It's not the time that matters. Just wondering if it's something a gf reasonably expects from her guy, or if I'm being taken advantage of.

How would she normally get home otherwise?

Usually walk, but it's a fair hike.

 

[TwinkleToes77]

You'd let your gf walk home alone in the dark? Thats just wrong.

 

[Ernieb]

pandego you are not man enough for her
you sound selfish