Nowadays, what's the point of getting married?

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alkemyst

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I wouldn't say exceptionally polygamous at any time in man's journey through time as a whole, barring some cultures or the uber wealthy and even then they tended to collect a harem more or less.

Many people just take guesses rather than have ever read up on it...much like religion too.
 

rbV5

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so as an investment, it's fucking ludicrous

I disagree completely. It's the best investment I've ever made, and the one I'm most proud of.

However, when you make yourself the center of the universe, it's very easy to see that there is no future in marriage;)
 

ruu

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Originally posted by: ja1484
Originally posted by: ruu

Well, I think I worded it a bit too hastily---I should have put more emphasis on the word "primarily." Humans are PRIMARILY monogamous, but we've actually evolved tendencies to cheat. So what I meant was that we've evolved to live in pairs but to cheat as often as we can get away with it.

What the fuck are you talking about? Marriage didn't even exist as an institution until monotheistic religions rolled in around 2000 years back.

Until then, we were EXCEPTIONALLY polygamous.

Our chemistry wants us to still be. That's why men get tired of the same set of holes after about 6 months and start looking for some variety.

The 1) concept of marriage and what we as a social species have construed as our 2) biological tendency to mate and mate-select are two different things.

My bad for bringing in a biological tangent when the original discussion was purely about the social tangent.

Though I do believe that polygamy is primarily a social construct, seen as a way to display status and power. Polyandry is rarer, but it also has to do with a display of status and power. Monogamy or primarily-monogamous pair-bonding is less a social construct and more biologically imprinted, hence my opinion of why marriage or a concept akin to marriage is so firmly entrenched in almost every culture around the world.

Anyway, to directly address the OP topic---the "point" of getting married is just like the point of being alive---what you make of it. Different societies have different financial rewards/benefits re marriage, cohabitation, parenting, singledom, and whatever, so the point of getting married is really between you and whomever you're looking at to marry.

In the U.S., the legal/socioeconomic status/benefits of "marriage" could use some updating and tweaking, that's for sure.
 

alkemyst

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Originally posted by: rbV5
so as an investment, it's fucking ludicrous

I disagree completely. It's the best investment I've ever made, and the one I'm most proud of.

However, when you make yourself the center of the universe, it's very easy to see that there is no future in marriage;)

So the investment is it's harder for her to leave you? I don't get what marriage brings to the table over a committed relationship outside a marriage.
 

rbV5

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Originally posted by: alkemyst
Originally posted by: rbV5
so as an investment, it's fucking ludicrous

I disagree completely. It's the best investment I've ever made, and the one I'm most proud of.

However, when you make yourself the center of the universe, it's very easy to see that there is no future in marriage;)

So the investment is it's harder for her to leave you? I don't get what marriage brings to the table over a committed relationship outside a marriage.

I guess it's all in what marriage means to you. My investment is my heart and soul...something I don't want to squander.

Me and my wife aren't religious at all, but being young and broke....all the wedding planning and bringing our families and friends together. The ceremony we had in that little brick church in that little town at the beach. Seeing her in her gown that day, and standing in front of everyone and exchanging our vows, walking outside after the ceremony...getting pelted with rice and looking up, seeing the plane skywrite the "heart" in the sky......man that shit is priceless.

I guess it's kinda like getting your degree online vs attending a University. Technically, they may offer the same benefit and logically, it may make more sense to go the cheaper/faster route, but I dunno, "I graduated from Harvard, class of 1982" just sounds "more" than "I got my degree from the University of Phoenix...sitting in my underwear...at home"

 

rbV5

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Originally posted by: alkemyst
damn why you young and broke being class of '82 Harvard?

Well my education is closer to "I got my degree from the University of Phoenix...sitting in my underwear...at home" ;)



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