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AreaCode707

Lifer
Sep 21, 2001
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Originally posted by: blazert40
Originally posted by: HotChic
Originally posted by: blazert40
Wow, now I wonder if she has any clue about the different colors and their meanings?

I gave her a red one before when we were out with a large group and some guy walked by selling single roses, she was all giddy about it.

Other time was more of a pink color I believe.

Single red rose is more on the romantic/sweet side of things. Kinda traditionally so.

[edit] For anyone who says don't do it because you're setting her up to be spoiled or setting yourself up to fail, none of that stuff should be true if the girl is sensible. If she's not, you don't want her anyway. So there shouldn't be anything to fear.

It's nice to have the input of a lady, thank you HotChic!

BTW we're not some teen kids, I'm 25, she's 29 if that matters at all?

Superficial bitches can be any age. ;) If she's a classy lady, she's going to appreciate the gifts you bring and not expect more.
 

lokiju

Lifer
May 29, 2003
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Originally posted by: HotChic
Originally posted by: blazert40
Originally posted by: HotChic
Originally posted by: blazert40
Wow, now I wonder if she has any clue about the different colors and their meanings?

I gave her a red one before when we were out with a large group and some guy walked by selling single roses, she was all giddy about it.

Other time was more of a pink color I believe.

Single red rose is more on the romantic/sweet side of things. Kinda traditionally so.

[edit] For anyone who says don't do it because you're setting her up to be spoiled or setting yourself up to fail, none of that stuff should be true if the girl is sensible. If she's not, you don't want her anyway. So there shouldn't be anything to fear.

It's nice to have the input of a lady, thank you HotChic!

BTW we're not some teen kids, I'm 25, she's 29 if that matters at all?

Superficial bitches can be any age. ;) If she's a classy lady, she's going to appreciate the gifts you bring and not expect more.

I sure as shyte hope thats the case!


 

b0mbrman

Lifer
Jun 1, 2001
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Originally posted by: blazert40
Going on date tonight, just wondering if a dozen roses is a bit excessive for a first date?

Right down the road is a guy that sells roses on the side of the road, 12 for $10 and doesn't sell smaller amounts.

Do you think 12 roses is a bit much for a first date, is that something more reserved for couples that celebrate holidays and anniversary together?


Help me ATOT, you're my only hope!


I'm gonna buy the dozen either way, just not sure about if I want to give her like 6 or the whole thing.


:confused:

A dozen roses? Are you crazy?

Even a long-time girlfriend might be a little shocked at receiving a dozen rozes...
 

StormRider

Diamond Member
Mar 12, 2000
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Originally posted by: Amol
Originally posted by: blazert40
Originally posted by: HotChic
Go ahead and get the flowers if you want to. A dozen roses for $10 is fine, but don't get red ones. White are a little overly fancy too.

Why not red?

Color matters?:confused:

red = love
yellow = friendship

i forgot the other colors

edit: link


I think I learned about the yellow color meaning from watching Lois & Clark!
 

lokiju

Lifer
May 29, 2003
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Originally posted by: platinumike
Cool. Well i was thinking, this was the 1st date, and you had only just met her before. I would get her 1 single rose in this case. Lemme know where you end up going, and how it turns out.

Will do.

We should do a Ft. Lauderdale/Miami meet one of these days, seems like there are a lot of folks in the area on this forum.

 

lokiju

Lifer
May 29, 2003
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Originally posted by: b0mbrman
Originally posted by: blazert40
Going on date tonight, just wondering if a dozen roses is a bit excessive for a first date?

Right down the road is a guy that sells roses on the side of the road, 12 for $10 and doesn't sell smaller amounts.

Do you think 12 roses is a bit much for a first date, is that something more reserved for couples that celebrate holidays and anniversary together?


Help me ATOT, you're my only hope!


I'm gonna buy the dozen either way, just not sure about if I want to give her like 6 or the whole thing.


:confused:

A dozen roses? Are you crazy?

Even a long-time girlfriend might be a little shocked at receiving a dozen rozes...

That's why I'm asking, trying to figure this out, but there are different POV's on the subject apparently.

 

AreaCode707

Lifer
Sep 21, 2001
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Originally posted by: blazert40
Originally posted by: b0mbrman
Originally posted by: blazert40
Going on date tonight, just wondering if a dozen roses is a bit excessive for a first date?

Right down the road is a guy that sells roses on the side of the road, 12 for $10 and doesn't sell smaller amounts.

Do you think 12 roses is a bit much for a first date, is that something more reserved for couples that celebrate holidays and anniversary together?


Help me ATOT, you're my only hope!


I'm gonna buy the dozen either way, just not sure about if I want to give her like 6 or the whole thing.


:confused:

A dozen roses? Are you crazy?

Even a long-time girlfriend might be a little shocked at receiving a dozen rozes...

That's why I'm asking, trying to figure this out, but there are different POV's on the subject apparently.

You say shock like it's a bad thing.

It's $10 guys, and he's gonna get the dozen anyway. What's the point in not giving them to her? What are you guys afraid of? Setting a too-serious precendent? If they're not red roses, there's not too much chance of that. Setting the spoiled bitch precedent? Giving flowers doesn't make a girl a spoiled bitch - she's like that on her own.

There's no obligation to get anything, but there also isn't any restriction on what he can give if he wants to. So really, get her whatever you want.
 

Aimster

Lifer
Jan 5, 2003
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I usually bring flowers on my first date and then go see a movie and after that I take them to school and we just walk around campus.

I usually don't make it to the school part but when I do I know I got me a winnar!
 

b0mbrman

Lifer
Jun 1, 2001
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Originally posted by: HotChic
Originally posted by: blazert40
Originally posted by: b0mbrman
Originally posted by: blazert40
Going on date tonight, just wondering if a dozen roses is a bit excessive for a first date?

Right down the road is a guy that sells roses on the side of the road, 12 for $10 and doesn't sell smaller amounts.

Do you think 12 roses is a bit much for a first date, is that something more reserved for couples that celebrate holidays and anniversary together?


Help me ATOT, you're my only hope!


I'm gonna buy the dozen either way, just not sure about if I want to give her like 6 or the whole thing.


:confused:

A dozen roses? Are you crazy?

Even a long-time girlfriend might be a little shocked at receiving a dozen rozes...

That's why I'm asking, trying to figure this out, but there are different POV's on the subject apparently.

You say shock like it's a bad thing.

It's $10 guys, and he's gonna get the dozen anyway. What's the point in not giving them to her? What are you guys afraid of? Setting a too-serious precendent? If they're not red roses, there's not too much chance of that. Setting the spoiled bitch precedent? Giving flowers doesn't make a girl a spoiled bitch - she's like that on her own.

There's no obligation to get anything, but there also isn't any restriction on what he can give if he wants to. So really, get her whatever you want.

It has less to do with the roses as a material gift and more to do with the signal they send...

And a dozen roses is more likely to send the signal of "I'm ready to co-sign a mortgage with you" rather than the "Let's have an enjoyable no-pressure evening" that I'm sure he's going for.

If it were me and I really wanted to get flowers, I'd do something like irises or tulips
 

lokiju

Lifer
May 29, 2003
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Originally posted by: HotChic
Originally posted by: blazert40
Originally posted by: b0mbrman
Originally posted by: blazert40
Going on date tonight, just wondering if a dozen roses is a bit excessive for a first date?

Right down the road is a guy that sells roses on the side of the road, 12 for $10 and doesn't sell smaller amounts.

Do you think 12 roses is a bit much for a first date, is that something more reserved for couples that celebrate holidays and anniversary together?


Help me ATOT, you're my only hope!


I'm gonna buy the dozen either way, just not sure about if I want to give her like 6 or the whole thing.


:confused:

A dozen roses? Are you crazy?

Even a long-time girlfriend might be a little shocked at receiving a dozen rozes...

That's why I'm asking, trying to figure this out, but there are different POV's on the subject apparently.

You say shock like it's a bad thing.

It's $10 guys, and he's gonna get the dozen anyway. What's the point in not giving them to her? What are you guys afraid of? Setting a too-serious precendent? If they're not red roses, there's not too much chance of that. Setting the spoiled bitch precedent? Giving flowers doesn't make a girl a spoiled bitch - she's like that on her own.

There's no obligation to get anything, but there also isn't any restriction on what he can give if he wants to. So really, get her whatever you want.

Damn, the guy only has red ones come to think of it.

I think I'm just gonna get them and just give her a few.

I don't want to over kill it, but I don't see the harm in giving her some, right?

 

AreaCode707

Lifer
Sep 21, 2001
18,447
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Originally posted by: blazert40
Originally posted by: HotChic
Originally posted by: blazert40
Originally posted by: b0mbrman
Originally posted by: blazert40
Going on date tonight, just wondering if a dozen roses is a bit excessive for a first date?

Right down the road is a guy that sells roses on the side of the road, 12 for $10 and doesn't sell smaller amounts.

Do you think 12 roses is a bit much for a first date, is that something more reserved for couples that celebrate holidays and anniversary together?


Help me ATOT, you're my only hope!


I'm gonna buy the dozen either way, just not sure about if I want to give her like 6 or the whole thing.


:confused:

A dozen roses? Are you crazy?

Even a long-time girlfriend might be a little shocked at receiving a dozen rozes...

That's why I'm asking, trying to figure this out, but there are different POV's on the subject apparently.

You say shock like it's a bad thing.

It's $10 guys, and he's gonna get the dozen anyway. What's the point in not giving them to her? What are you guys afraid of? Setting a too-serious precendent? If they're not red roses, there's not too much chance of that. Setting the spoiled bitch precedent? Giving flowers doesn't make a girl a spoiled bitch - she's like that on her own.

There's no obligation to get anything, but there also isn't any restriction on what he can give if he wants to. So really, get her whatever you want.

Damn, the guy only has red ones come to think of it.

I think I'm just gonna get them and just give her a few.

I don't want to over kill it, but I don't see the harm in giving her some, right?

Grocery store? Same price, wider variety (including non-rose boquets)
 

mwmorph

Diamond Member
Dec 27, 2004
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Originally posted by: blazert40
Originally posted by: HotChic
Originally posted by: blazert40
Originally posted by: b0mbrman
Originally posted by: blazert40
Going on date tonight, just wondering if a dozen roses is a bit excessive for a first date?

Right down the road is a guy that sells roses on the side of the road, 12 for $10 and doesn't sell smaller amounts.

Do you think 12 roses is a bit much for a first date, is that something more reserved for couples that celebrate holidays and anniversary together?


Help me ATOT, you're my only hope!


I'm gonna buy the dozen either way, just not sure about if I want to give her like 6 or the whole thing.


:confused:

A dozen roses? Are you crazy?

Even a long-time girlfriend might be a little shocked at receiving a dozen rozes...

That's why I'm asking, trying to figure this out, but there are different POV's on the subject apparently.

You say shock like it's a bad thing.

It's $10 guys, and he's gonna get the dozen anyway. What's the point in not giving them to her? What are you guys afraid of? Setting a too-serious precendent? If they're not red roses, there's not too much chance of that. Setting the spoiled bitch precedent? Giving flowers doesn't make a girl a spoiled bitch - she's like that on her own.

There's no obligation to get anything, but there also isn't any restriction on what he can give if he wants to. So really, get her whatever you want.

Damn, the guy only has red ones come to think of it.

I think I'm just gonna get them and just give her a few.

I don't want to over kill it, but I don't see the harm in giving her some, right?


meh, jsut do what you feel is right. either way.
12: she'll think youre sweet, nice
1 means you're classy(what i would do)
0 she really wont overthink it too much or care that much if you dont mention you could've bought her roses.
 

n7

Elite Member
Jan 4, 2004
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Originally posted by: HomeBrewerDude
give her 6 up front, and tell her she'll get the rest in the morning.


I'm sure that'll work beautifully...:roll::laugh:
 

yllus

Elite Member & Lifer
Aug 20, 2000
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Don't do it.

For the first couple of outings in the mating dance, you both are faking some level of aloofness about how into each other you are. To present her with flowers, especially on the first date, is all but saying, "I worship you, thus please treat me like dirt." If this date goes well and you two are clearly into each other, a single rose at dinner date #2 is acceptable.

Edit:
We've had a lunch date and have kissed a few times already.
Hmm, then a single rose might not be so bad. Definitely not more than one though.
 

lokiju

Lifer
May 29, 2003
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Originally posted by: yllus
Don't do it.

For the first couple of outings in the mating dance, you both are faking some level of aloofness about how into each other you are. To present her with flowers, especially on the first date, is all but saying, "I worship you, thus please treat me like dirt." If this date goes well and you two are clearly into each other, a single rose at dinner date #2 is acceptable.

Edit:
We've had a lunch date and have kissed a few times already.
Hmm, then a single rose might not be so bad. Definitely not more than one though.

You are a wise man. :p
 

lokiju

Lifer
May 29, 2003
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So the votes say 9 for 0, 9 for 1, 1 for 12 and 1 for 6, I'm surprised theres none for 3. I guess I'll just get her one, was kind of thinking of 3 though, but I don't know how that would come across?
 

TheLonelyPhoenix

Diamond Member
Feb 15, 2004
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Jesus Christ, you people think way too much.

I bought a dozen roses for a girl on my first date with her, and she loved it. I did not debate what each particular number of roses said about the status of our relationship.
 

lokiju

Lifer
May 29, 2003
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Originally posted by: TheLonelyPhoenix
Jesus Christ, you people think way too much.

I bought a dozen roses for a girl on my first date with her, and she loved it. I did not debate what each particular number of roses said about the status of our relationship.

LOL, so what color were they?


:p
 

TheLonelyPhoenix

Diamond Member
Feb 15, 2004
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Originally posted by: blazert40
Originally posted by: TheLonelyPhoenix
Jesus Christ, you people think way too much.

I bought a dozen roses for a girl on my first date with her, and she loved it. I did not debate what each particular number of roses said about the status of our relationship.

LOL, so what color were they?


:p

Red. :p
 

notfred

Lifer
Feb 12, 2001
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How is it a first date if you've been giving her flowers before going out of town? It sounds like you've been seeing her for weeks or months already.

The fact that you've never gone out to dinner is pretty irrelevant.