'Nother girl question... *last update*

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Lifer
Dec 26, 2001
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Originally posted by: Migroo
Good, you seem to be taking this logically, but try to enjoy yourself! ;)

Good luck
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Quick update... still talking to her, haven't made an official decision.

Whatever happens, I'm glad to have this girl as a friend... she's an amazing young woman. :)
 
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Lifer
Dec 26, 2001
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A'ight, final update.

We've agreed that the relationship could be something someday, but won't be for a while... she's decided against school on the west coast, so that pretty much rules it out for me.

It's gotten more and more difficult for me to keep talking to her. It's become a significant emotional burden for me to talk to her, simply for the reason that we talk so much... it's not fair to either of us to keep this thing going.

We talked tonight, and I told her I thought the best thing for her to do would be to completely cut off contact with her old home, including me; let us go, so to speak, and see where we are in a couple years. Doesn't mean that we won't talk every now and then, but the "talking on the phone every other day" thing should end, for both of our's sakes.

It's funny... I think this is what it should be. As much as we could try to have together, that wouldn't be feasible, realistically, for many years from now. Until then, I'm single, free to date, and enjoying my life.

Hopefully she'll do the same.
 
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Lifer
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Cool.......... I hope to see another post in say............. 3-4 years about how your going to marry the girl ;)

Cheers,
Aquaman <<<<<<<< maybe getting a little to far ahead of the topic ;)
 
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joohang

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On a more serious note, just do what you want. Follow what your heart wants. Rather than asking for general help around here, you should think deeply within yourself, and ask for help on more specific issues.

Ideally, loving others should be an extension of loving yourself. The only thing that stops you from pursuing this relationship is ultimately yourself.
 
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Pepsei

Lifer
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cool update.... glad you two came to an agreement of sort.

this relationship will be stronger if it is formed later. for now... go out and experience life...
 
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Cattlegod

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Originally posted by: Zakath15
A'ight, final update.

We've agreed that the relationship could be something someday, but won't be for a while... she's decided against school on the west coast, so that pretty much rules it out for me.

It's gotten more and more difficult for me to keep talking to her. It's become a significant emotional burden for me to talk to her, simply for the reason that we talk so much... it's not fair to either of us to keep this thing going.

We talked tonight, and I told her I thought the best thing for her to do would be to completely cut off contact with her old home, including me; let us go, so to speak, and see where we are in a couple years. Doesn't mean that we won't talk every now and then, but the "talking on the phone every other day" thing should end, for both of our's sakes.

It's funny... I think this is what it should be. As much as we could try to have together, that wouldn't be feasible, realistically, for many years from now. Until then, I'm single, free to date, and enjoying my life.

Hopefully she'll do the same.
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coming from a fellow RA and a person with experience in long distance relationships and observer of 17-20 year old women, you made the correct decision.

1. the long distance relationship would not have worked. think how awkward it would be when you finally got to see each other after you have been dating electronically for 3 months.

2. long distance relationships aren't worth it unless you are in it for the long haul ( i have about a year wrapped up in long distance relationships that have failed ). just too much emotional separation, you grow apart into two different people.

3. going with the long haul idea, most girls at the age of 17 are not in it for the long haul. they may say that they are and truly believe it, but 1-4 years down the line, it will be over, both of you will need to try something different. the decision that must be made is this: is 1-4 years of your dating life worth a few novels of text?

 
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obiwaynekenobi

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Originally posted by: baffled2
LOL,I was going to give you my thoughts but realised that for the last yr all that's asked me out are dweebs,dorks and lesbians,maybe I'll leave the advice giving to those who have actual romantic lives
as I appear to have become just another geek loser !
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HEY there is NOTHING wrong with being a Geek Loser! :D
 
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Lifer
Dec 26, 2001
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Originally posted by: obiwaynekenobi
Originally posted by: baffled2
LOL,I was going to give you my thoughts but realised that for the last yr all that's asked me out are dweebs,dorks and lesbians,maybe I'll leave the advice giving to those who have actual romantic lives
as I appear to have become just another geek loser !
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HEY there is NOTHING wrong with being a Geek Loser! :D
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Damn straight! :p
 
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