Not sure if im lucky or unlucky on this one

[Syrch]

I found a girl that I really love with all my heart and our relationship is as solid as can be. It has been 5 months since we have started. I have honestly never been happier in my life then the last 5 months. Well the day after thanksgiving i found out that she is pregnant. Now this was a natural shock to me much like it would be to any guy. We (her and I) went through all options but she ended up be very set on keeping the baby and raising it and told me that if I dont' want to then its over and thats it. Well we ended up breaking up twice over the weekend before I let my morals and my heart do my thinking and told her that I love her and will be there with her throughout this. My parents were not too thrilled about this as they do not see us ever being able to get married and living a good life together as we are opposite people and come from different back grounds. Well to try to make this not as long as it can be yesterday at about 10am she started spotting. I rushed her home from work and let her relax as she did not want to go to the doctor but at around 9pm she started blotching (sp?) and at 2am est she lost the baby. Now I know that the relationship is young but I have certainly found out who I am the last few days. And during this whole ordeal i thought how much easier life was without a SO in my life and that if i somehow got out of this situation I would return to the single status. My parents seem to really be pushing for this to happen as my mom thinks that my g/f purposly got pregnant and that she is trying to seal the deal with me or whatever and just doesn't seem to like her at all. So here I am trying to comfort my SO as best as I can as this is a very trying time for her (as well as me) and my parents are breathing down my back saying to back off and count my loses. I guess what im trying to ask is what would you guys do. It breaks my heart to think of not being with her but it also breaks my heart to "let my parents down" by sticking with her.

Cliffs:

got a g/f
fell in love
g/f got pregnant
g/f had a miscarriage
we broke up a few times in one weekend
parents hate g/f (well the mother does)
I love her and want to stay with her
dont' know what to do.

 

[sixone]

How old are you?

 

[HN]

How old are you?

 

[MrChad]

NM, you left out the "losing the baby" part in your cliff notes.

 

[gigapet]

age of you and girl?

 

[sixone]

TY

 

[leftyman]

how old are you, teenager? or older?

 

[Syrch]

im 25 and shes 20....and there is no more kid. Yesterday she got "cleaned" out and has a miscarriage.

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: Syrch
im 25 and shes 20....and there is no more kid. Yesterday she got "cleaned" out and has a miscarriage.

first real "relationship" and "love" ?


Did you lose your virginity to her?

 

[MrChad]

Originally posted by: Syrch
im 25 and shes 20....and there is no more kid. Yesterday she got "cleaned" out and has a miscarriage.

You're old enough to make your own decisions regarding your relationships. Don't let your parents dictate to you who you can/should date.

 

[sixone]

You need to stand by your gf, and tell your parents to back off. She needs you right now, more than you'll ever know.

 

[leftyman]

well your parents shouldnt be "telling" you anything, let them offer advice but leave that as that, advice. if you think you are better off alone than you owe it to your gf to tell her, however try to support her as much as you can right now as you both just went thru something truamatic.
if you love her and you want to be with her than do just that.

 

[Syrch]

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: Syrch
im 25 and shes 20....and there is no more kid. Yesterday she got "cleaned" out and has a miscarriage.

first real "relationship" and "love" ?


Did you lose your virginity to her?

first real real serious relationship

no i did not lose it to her

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: Syrch

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: Syrch
im 25 and shes 20....and there is no more kid. Yesterday she got "cleaned" out and has a miscarriage.

first real "relationship" and "love" ?


Did you lose your virginity to her?

first real real serious relationship

no i did not lose it to her

I thought so. I'd consider yourself lucky in this case. Next time dont get blindsided because your getting laid regularly and forget about birth control. Im pretty sure 5 months is not enough time to really love someone enough for marriage and family especially at your ages her especailly. That is what your parents were wise enough to know and were trying to communicate.

 

[BobDaMenkey]

Stick with her, but don't get her knocked up again. Lay off the sex a bit. Try and make sure that you really are ready for everything that was just about to happen.

I'm a big fan of loooong engagements. I was engaged this time last year, to my g/f, we had been together for 9 months. The holiday season rolled around and my job in retail got massive busy so I had little time for her. She ended up splitting up with me and screwing a co-worker. I was ready to spend the rest of my life with her, but apperently she wasn't. You have to make sure that you really know who you're with. Make sure they aren't going to come back around and supprise you with sheet. Take it slow, there's no rush, you both have the rest of your lives ahead of you.

 

[Saint Nick]

Originally posted by: sixone
You need to stand by your gf, and tell your parents to back off. She needs you right now, more than you'll ever know.

qft.

stay stay stay with her k thx

 

[rgwalt]

You don't necessarily have to define your relationship with her right now, but she still needs your support and caring right now. Just let things happen. You are 25. Your parents don't run your life, or at least they shouldn't.

R

 

[AnyMal]

Originally posted by: Syrch
Well the day after thanksgiving i found out that she is pregnant. Now this was a natural shock to me much like it would be to any guy.

Shock? You two had unprotected sex, right? Where is the surprise part?

 

[shimsham]

did she ever go to the doctor? are you 100% sure she was pregnant?

 

[Leper Messiah]

tell your parents to go fvck themselves (nicely. They are your parents after all.)

 

[Papagayo]

Grow some balls and make your own decision.. You pvssy..

 

[JS80]

You mom is evil.

Do you not have any remorse that your child just died?

I don't think you know what "love" is. As someone mentioned, you don't fall in love with someone after 5 months. It's evident in your getting her pregnant, that it was more "lust" than "love."

 

[Syrch]

Originally posted by: shimsham
did she ever go to the doctor? are you 100% sure she was pregnant?

Yes she went last night when she thought something was wrong and found out she was having a miscarriage

 

[AnyMal]

Originally posted by: JS80
You mom is evil.

Do you not have any remorse that your child just died?

I don't think you know what "love" is. As someone mentioned, you don't fall in love with someone after 5 months. It's evident in your getting her pregnant, that it was more "lust" than "love."

what child?

 

[Accipiter22]

you're 25 and still letting your parents boss you around? wow.....

you say you love her. waht's the question?


Losing a baby results int he end of a relationship/marriage 75% of the time it happens...some people say it's liek a chance to start over, breaking up after such a thing, and no one can blame you because of what happened.

But if you two love each other, what's the question?