in that case i say take a few days away from each other so you two can sort out your own personal feelings on the matter without interference from the other. itll make it easier to be honest with yourself, and each other.
in that case i say take a few days away from each other so you two can sort out your own personal feelings on the matter without interference from the other. itll make it easier to be honest with yourself, and each other.
they are admittedly young and dumb and know little of love, life, relationships and themselves. Bringing a baby into the mix would have been a recipe for disaster.
First you said you discovered that you prefered being single, then you said you wanted to be with her but your parents don't like it. Make up your mind about what you want. Do you want to be with her or not? Also try to talk with your parents more. At 25 you should be pretty mature and should be making decisions on your own, but since this is your first serious relationship you parents might have some sound advice.
BS, I have been with my GF for 5 Months this Saturday coming up. I have never been happier, we are both very much in love and I am proposing on Saturday. I am 24 my GF is 23.
My parents love my GF, they didnt care for the ex and they saw things I didnt... So did all my friends... Sometimes people can see things in someone that you cannot see... However, I still believe that you should do what you want regardless of what your parents say or think.
If you can't see yourself spending the rest of your life with her, then don't. And at your young ages, more her, you'll find other problems along the way, not to mention this event will always haunt you.
I'd move on, but that's just me. I've been with women who didn't like my family or vice versa, and I think the person you are meant to be with will be accepted and welcome by both families. It's important to me.
and in love after 5 months... I dunno about that. I think tv has downplayed what truely loving someone is all about.
I'd move on, but that's just me. I've been with women who didn't like my family or vice versa, and I think the person you are meant to be with will be accepted and welcome by both families. It's important to me.
and in love after 5 months... I dunno about that. I think tv has downplayed what truely loving someone is all about.
The Stigenator
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- Oct 9, 1999
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you are an idiot.. first off YOU NEVER HAVE SEX without a condom.. even if she is on the pill.. women can get off the pill and not tell you so to safegaurd yourself.. you need to wear one too.
Secondly.. now that she had a miscarraige... I say DTB her.. that means dump that bitch. She is trying to latch on to you. Your parents are right.
Plus at your age.. if you're under 25.. no use having a gf.. women are flaky and all.
Take your good fortune and run.. she aint worth it!
edit: if you are going to stay in it with her.. i suggest you wrap your tool up.. or get snipped!
Secondly.. now that she had a miscarraige... I say DTB her.. that means dump that bitch. She is trying to latch on to you. Your parents are right.
Plus at your age.. if you're under 25.. no use having a gf.. women are flaky and all.
Take your good fortune and run.. she aint worth it!
edit: if you are going to stay in it with her.. i suggest you wrap your tool up.. or get snipped!
if you really love each other there is no need to rush into marriage and family. Any RATIONAL adult can tell you that. At the very least live with each other before having kids. There are enough broken homes in this country its not necessary to create more because you've survived college and now you know everything about life.
I've never claimed to know everything about life and i know how i got to this point wasn't the smartest of moves but that at this time is water under the bridge...trust me lesson learned. I don't let my parents run my life but at the present time i am under there roof (dec 16th i finally get my apartment). So its not that i let them run my life its more that i have to listen to just about everything they say without being the outcast.
Oh and yes. I know that during this time i thought how much easier it is to be single but that is when i was stressing probably the most i ever have in my life. I really enjoy this girls company and feel she enjoys mine as well. I can see myself with her for a very long time.
jeeez no wonder your parents were/are on your ass......you You havent even experienced the real world yet buddy...forget marriage and kids, responsibility is gonna be all the excitement you need for a while.
ColdFusion718
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- Mar 4, 2000
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If you truly love her, stick by her through thick or thin. However, if she cheats on you, that gives you a free pass to dump her. Don't let people make you feel like you have to forgive infidelity (most things can be forgiven, I just think this is one of those that cannot, under any circumstance).
Does she love you as you love her? If all signs point to yes, tough this one out and everything will be ok. Btw, use protection next time (it'll a be a loooong time before she'll give you an pvssy hehe). Good luck.
Does she love you as you love her? If all signs point to yes, tough this one out and everything will be ok. Btw, use protection next time (it'll a be a loooong time before she'll give you an pvssy hehe). Good luck.
I had a whole debate about this typed out but it's not worth causing any trouble. I know in my heart that this is it and I am happy. I know she is happy. Her parents and my parents know we are happy and agree that this is a good thing (are they not ratioanl?). I love her, her family and her daughter very much and they love me also. I have a good steady job, a house and my finances are all in order. I know you might never be able to look at it from my pov and vice versa, but I can assure you that I know in my heart that this is what I want and this is forever. Nothing more to be said there
I do appreciate your oppinon though, and I do agree that in most cases you would be correct in saying so however as with most things there are exceptions to everything.
Love... It's a funny thing
Trust me you will enjoy being on your own so much more... Just learn to keep your finances in order
well me and the folks got in to it again yesterday. They feel that my g/f staged the whole pregnancy for one reason or another and the reason for this is that my g/f didn't want me to go with her when she was having the miscarriage. They found this to be strange (which i won't say i don't think it was either) but respect that its a womanly thing and to her she lost her baby and didn't want anyone around. My mother told me that my g/f is not welcome in her house which means I either spend christmas with my g/f or my family which imo is a really messed up spot to be put in. I just wish there was an easy answer to this.....
sixone
Lifer
- May 3, 2004
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That is very odd - if she loves you as much as she says she does, she'd naturally lean on you in an emotional crisis. It's not a 'womanly thing' to handle that alone.
That's also an odd assumption for your parents to make, so I'm inclined to think she'd already given them reason to be suspicious. What happened?
PingSpike
Lifer
- Feb 25, 2004
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I think you should probably just be there for her for awhile, and then move on, and move out of your parents house.
How did she end up pregnant anyway? I know BC isn't perfect and things happen...but more often then not, some one allowed them to happen rather then the BC failing. Not saying thats the case here or anything...just that its something to think about.
How did she end up pregnant anyway? I know BC isn't perfect and things happen...but more often then not, some one allowed them to happen rather then the BC failing. Not saying thats the case here or anything...just that its something to think about.
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