Not getting married now

[Hammer]

Did you live with her for 5 years? Did you mix funds? Did you sign your current lease together? Depending on you state, you may already be married. Check with lawyer to see what you can do because you pay her way for school and then her calling it off just isn't right. She needs to pay back all the money she owes you.

 

[Azraele]

I'm so sorry. The only thing I can say is that sometimes things happen for the best, even if it doesn't seem like it at the time.


<< It was her frckin' idea to get married. I was just playing by her wants. What the hell did I do wrong? >>


Nothing, try not to spend a lot of time wondering where you went wrong. Chances are good that you didn't. This sounds like it is something that's bothering her and that she needs to sort out for herself.

 

[Instagib]

am sorry...hang in there bud...

 

[Geekbabe]

<< that really sucks.... i hope things work out with her again.

the problem here is that stupid bitch that's your fiancee's friend. I bet you she had a hand in this.
she think she knows what's best for her and clouded her judgement. I hate people like that.

a time-out right now is good.... perhaps your fiancee will change her mind. good luck >>




Ah yes, the third party BS !!!! real friends stay the hell out of your romantic affairs !

 

[PlatinumGold]

<< Did you live with her for 5 years? Did you mix funds? Did you sign your current lease together? Depending on you state, you may already be married. Check with lawyer to see what you can do because you pay her way for school and then her calling it off just isn't right. She needs to pay back all the money she owes you.
>>



i thought of that too, common law marriage, but if they lived together for 5 yrs and they are 20 and 21 than they started living together at 15 and 16. only years after they both turned 18 would count towards common law marriage. hence only 2 yrs. i don't think 2 yrs qualifies in any state.

 

[dhans1]

You may be better off this way. My wife and I were married when I was 21 and she was 19. We were together for years in High School and wanted to live together while going to college and we loved each other so we got married. Just two months ago, after 7 1/2 years of marriage, my wife decided we were married to young and she moved into her own apartment and is having a rebound relationship with a "close friend" who was playing her the whole time. Talk about sh!ty. But, like some have said in this thread, it IS really about yourself and taking this opportunity to work on things about yourself that need work (you know what they are). There is always hope that you will get back together with her after several months or even years.

The first month is so tough but it does get better. Get out of the house and hang with friends. Go to school if you can (student loans aren't that bad of an option). Keep in mind that eventually you will get over this. Put yourself in that place sooner rather than later. You have pleanty of life left.

 

[Spike]

oh man.... There is nothing I could say that has not been said all-ready by other members. So instead I will just say that I'm sorry, and that I will pray for you. I can't even imagine how hard it is, I know that if it happened to me I would be devestated. hang in there

-spike

 

[Beau]

<< Did you live with her for 5 years? Did you mix funds? Did you sign your current lease together? Depending on you state, you may already be married. Check with lawyer to see what you can do because you pay her way for school and then her calling it off just isn't right. She needs to pay back all the money she owes you. >>




No, we've lived together of the past 2 years. The lease has expired, but I will still live here. Yeah, we mixed funds, but I have complete controll over them, so I will do the fair thing. She doesn't even have a checkbook, so she can't (not that she would anyway) do anything drastic. We've already figured out all the ins-n-outs of what were going to do with our common posessions as well. I guess it's just the emotional baggage that I have to deal with now. But I figure that I can either invest/waste more energy and emotion in being mad and dwelling on the bad, or I can say "fvck it" and move on -- deal with the situation. I can't say that I am very mad at her, more just the situation. And I'd be lying if I said that I haven't had the same thoughts, I just was able to reason with myself better I guess. Oh well, c'est la vie I guess.

Red Dawn - Life is a bitch, but I don't hold her at that level. I still love her. It took a lot of courage to do what she did, and it needed to happen. Things will work out in the end, they always do.

 

[Nightfall]

Since you helped put her through school, it is only fair to ask her to repay you part of what you put in. I find it coincidential that she used you to pay for her schooling and when the roles were reversed, she backed out.

 

[reitz]

<< What the hell did I do wrong? >>



<< It was her frckin' idea to get married. I was just playing by her wants. >>

 

[Beau]

<< Since you helped put her through school, it is only fair to ask her to repay you part of what you put in. I find it coincidential that she used you to pay for her schooling and when the roles were reversed, she backed out. >>



LEMME MAKE A CLEAR POINT! I WILL NOT BE SEEKING FINANCIAL REIMBURSMENT. There is no point in doing so. It just causes more pain than it is worth. I don't want to do that.

 

[SCSIfreek]

I'm sorry to hear things when down hill for you. Think positively and hang out with some of your friends. Chances are it is for the better that this happened. I for one when through something like that not long ago but not to your extend. For the first 2 weeks, I couldn't eat nor sleep. <--- Stupid me was trying to get her heart back. Finally, I realized there is a whole new world out there waiting for me to exlpore. I forced myself to stop calling her and go on with my life. Here is the fun part, she wanted me back after 1 week. girls never figure out what the hell they want until its too late. Believe in yourself and improve yourself.

P.S. Forget about the pass and don't even go on with the lawyer sh!t. It'll just make you look like a freakin moron.

--Scsi

 

[Viper GTS]

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<< Since you helped put her through school, it is only fair to ask her to repay you part of what you put in. I find it coincidential that she used you to pay for her schooling and when the roles were reversed, she backed out. >>



LEMME MAKE A CLEAR POINT! I WILL NOT BE SEEKING FINANCIAL REIMBURSMENT. There is no point in doing so. It just causes more pain than it is worth. I don't want to do that. >>



As much as the entire situation sucks, you have my respect for that.

What has happened does not affect the past, or the reasons you had for paying for her education, etc.

Viper GTS

 

[GermyBoy]

<< Been there, done that. Caught my fiancee in bed with another guy two weeks after I gave her the ring. Learn this lesson well: Women suck! I feel for you man. Took me years to get over what she did to me. >>



Same thing happened to me. I however, killed them both and am still walking free.

 

[Geekbabe]

<<

<< Been there, done that. Caught my fiancee in bed with another guy two weeks after I gave her the ring. Learn this lesson well: Women suck! I feel for you man. Took me years to get over what she did to me. >>



Same thing happened to me. I however, killed them both and am still walking free. >>




Somehow I don't think killing off a couple Simm's characters counts...