Nitemare is sad...

[LookingGlass]

Originally posted by: SuperSix
< puts hand up

I'm in the middle of a divorce - together for 16 years, married for 12.

I got tired of changing and the ultimatums.

When men marry - they are content with what they get.
When women marry, they expect to mold their hubbys into the perfect husband.

Although I am lonely at times, hated having to learn how to do basic domestic chores - I feel I am better off without her.

We?re still friends, and actually still have occasional sex (It's phenomenal now that we are separated), I think she wants to reconcile, but I?m done.

I do hope you are kidding when you think women want to mold their husbands into the perfect man. Please......no one is perfect. I can't believe you would even think that, let alone say that. I know some women try to change their men, but, to say to mold into the perfect man, not going to happen, and is set-up for failure.

You *hated* learning how to do basic domestic chores? So she had to teach you? Or she did it for you. Either way, you have to be responsible enough to take care of yourself, and pick up after yourself sometimes.

 

[Brutuskend]

Sorry man.

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: TNM93

Originally posted by: archcommus

Originally posted by: TNM93

Originally posted by: Nitemare

Originally posted by: archcommus
You sound to be doing fine! Good to hear, you must've been ready for this for awhile.

Yes, but it still hurts. I just have to remain positive about it and try not and dwell on the past. As long as I keep my mind busy I will be ok.

Exactly. Let time run its course. All you can do is focus on today.

LOL, sorry if I sound like Dr. Phil. But, keeping your mind busy is a must, especially since it's so recent.

Hmm...guess I'm the only one who doesn't like to ignore the deep down feelings.

I'm in touch with my inner child.

I touch myself at night....


damn that's going to be true for awhile...

 

[classy]

I am coming up on 10 years. Few weeks ago I just walked out. Cussed her out and walked out. We have been having our moments for more than year. But I love her and came back. But since coming back we have done a lot lot better. I think when I just snapped I just got all that stuff off my chest. I didn't hit her or anything like that, had to put some new drywall though, lol. As a young dude I was quite aggressive and truthfully violent. But I learned how to control my anger, mainly through weight lifting, but I still have my moments. But I know exactly what your going through. They say if you can make that 10 years your good, but typically around that 7-10 year mark the pressure builds. I would give it a little time, but do whatever it takes not throw away that time, 8 years is something worth while and worth being proud of and building on. I can relate and will definately be pulling for you and her.

 

[DainBramaged]

I can't imagine saying "goodbye" to the one I love. Must hurt dude.

 

[kalster]

sorry to hear

hope you feel better soon and move on with your life