This is really odd, cause I did not realize I had gotten a whole page full of comments today :laugh:...
Basically how it turned out:
- They bluffed taking me off the car insurance, but took my car away (expected and reasonable)
- To counter that, I have to take a different bus route to get to school which the best time occurs at 7:40 in the morning, reasonable.
- They weren't bluffing about changing the security code to the house.
- They were bluffing about changing the locks
- I am now taking out a "loan" with them until I can apply for a Stafford loan
- I'm applying like hell for a job to move out.
- No more free $$ (spoiled there..), so whatever I buy is coming from my bank account.
- My older sister did come home, moved out the first day I left, and isn't coming back (can't stay with her, she won't allow it).
Before I came home, I set up a meeting with my father to negotiate outside the home, but he went back on his word and never showed up. Instead he took that time to sleep. At the same time, all my friends had told me that the best option was to go back. Basically... a lot of people heard what I was saying and went with the shocked face, we're here for you. etc etc. I learned the hard way, there will always be limitations to friendships, and some things you got to keep to yourself. I spent the whole week trying to figure out how to approach the situation, and so I didn't really have fun over spring break. I did turn down a lot of events to just have time to think, because that was more important to me than ever.
What did happen was that my older sister did come home to grab her passport, but it's "missing [as in my mother might have it]." So therefore my mom didn't like how I was backing up my older sister and actually being rational about it. But, I got my older sister out of the house without any problems since she was machine-gunning "I want my passport" which got her nowhere.
They tried to make me to sign a "contract," that my dad would keep, and attempted to trick me into signing it. I'm not really sure as to the credibility of a contract like that, because it basically enforcing the same rules that I had originally left from. While that was occurring, my mom tried to see who I called, and took the car key from me while I was talking with my dad. No trust from her. She also tried taking anything that she considered valuable, until I figured out and talked to her about it. In the end she gave it back.
My little sister on the other hand I tried to help out for I thought she wanted change. Turns out there is no change there. I stood up for her a few times, and she came back siding with my parents to coerce me into doing things against my will. I'm disappointed with it, so in the end I'm the only one that will take a stand.
Because I backed up my little sister, my mom tried to persuade me to giving me $40 bimonthly as an allowance if I stopped helping my little sister. Originally my dad was saying he was willing to give me $40 bimonthly because he wanted things to return to normal. Since I needed to save money too, I thought... why not. Hugged my mom cause it was part of the deal and said thanks. Yeah, no. There it goes. So, I stood up for it, there goes the $40, but to hell with it, I don't need it.
My father is willing to allow me to drive the car again for going to internships. But... to hell with that. If I have to learn about being independent it's now. The car will be my last resort if there is no bus that will go to where I need to go. I haven't driven in the past 4 weeks. It kind of feels like me being in high school again, but if they're willing to give rides, that's a privilege that I wouldn't mind having for a while.
The new thing that is going on to say is that for now, it seems I can go out a bit more? I'm not sure, since my main excuse was to work with my lab group on my EE lab. I'll have to see about that later. I asked my friends to drive me home to pick up my tennis gear, and my father said okay, but then talked to the friends to assure that I'd be home at a certain time (6-9, and 3-7). Reasonable, yet it feels like I'm being babysitted. I'll probably have to get used to it. I did tell them in advance what I was doing and they agreed with it. But, it still feels as if there is a leash that they're trying to tighten again, so I'll have to be sure to tell them "NO."
But, less drama, more studying, routine but with sun. Haven't asked for anything that I didn't need, which was basically the textbook that I would have to pay them back for. I'm glad my girlfriend was willing to help me out through the tough times though
. I'm also glad for my friend willing to be rational and talk about it with me. Although in the end I guess I can say... I just took a break?...... yeah...
There are no cliffs. lol.
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