Need some help with a chick friend

[EightySix Four]

Anorexia would not come from nowhere though would it. This is the first time I've ever heard her talk bad about her body...

 

[eXx08]

That's the first time you've heard it.

 

[Greyd]

Originally posted by: crazySOB297
Anorexia would not come from nowhere though would it. This is the first time I've ever heard her talk bad about her body...

Anorexia is a MENTAL disorder. It comes from the BRAIN. Mental disroders are not present from birth. :roll:

 

[EightySix Four]

Nah, I'd have noticed a steady weight decline... she's held quite steady on her weight since I've known her (8months) though gaining slightly as she er... fills out.

What would cause this sudden MENTAL disorder?

 

[Greyd]

Originally posted by: crazySOB297
Nah, I'd have noticed a steady weight decline... she's held quite steady on her weight since I've known her (8months) though gaining slightly as she er... fills out.

What would cause this sudden MENTAL disorder?

EDIT: My mistake. SOME disorders are present from birth (neurological). Disorders like anorexia are so far not labeled as such.

 

[imported_Snagle]

Originally posted by: crazySOB297
Nah, I'd have noticed a steady weight decline... she's held quite steady on her weight since I've known her (8months) though gaining slightly as she er... fills out.

What would cause this sudden MENTAL disorder?

Are you an expert on eating disorders?

That's what I thought. Get her some help.

 

[Greyd]

Originally posted by: crazySOB297
Nah, I'd have noticed a steady weight decline... she's held quite steady on her weight since I've known her (8months) though gaining slightly as she er... fills out.

What would cause this sudden MENTAL disorder?

Don't think its really been discovered. Some people say hormones..some say social stuff,etc.

 

[HombrePequeno]

Give her a black eye. That'll make her think twice when she wants to skip dinner. And if she still decides not to eat, symmetry is always nice.

 

[ucdbiendog]

yeah man. talk to her parents about it and try to get her to see a support group or therapist for that. my sister had/has bulemia and the support group was all that really helped her. no one person is going to 'cure' her. good luck dude.

 

[HombrePequeno]

Anyway, on a more serious note: She's not going to listen to you telling her that her body is perfect. What she sees in the mirror is different from what you see. You may look at her overall appearance and think she's really hot but she looks at her body every day and notices everything that's wrong with it. She's become obsessed with the fact that she's not satisfied with her weight. Nothing you can say will help that. Talk to her parents. You risk growing distant with your friend but it's for her health so it's for the best.

 

[Dragoon42]

dude, your gf is just a sissy. She just wants some attention. You should dump her while you can. You can't fix crazy

 

[Whoozyerdaddy]

She obviously has issues. 5'7" and 127 sounds like near perfection to me.

You almost have to wonder about sexual abuse in cases like this. Women with extreme insecurities like this often have negative views of their outward appearance (regardless of that appearance) because of how they view themselves from the inside.

I have no clue about this girl's life. But every time I hear about things like this the bells start going off and I usually turn out to be right.

 

[EmperorIQ]

Originally posted by: crazySOB297
She's 5'7 127, and she wants to lose 12 pounds... which will leave her with her ribs sticking out and all... Please help me get her to realise that her body is perfect as it is.

maybe she's pretending to try to fish for compliments from you?

 

[EightySix Four]

All of these are possibilities, it wouldn't be the first time she's pulled some BS for attention. And on the having a bad past, I'm not going to t go into detail but she has had a rough past, not sexual abuse, but a rough past still...

 

[arcenite]

just start getting a boner everytime you see her

 

[Lonyo]

Tell her to go up to random blokes and ask if they think she's fat.

 

[BriGy86]

be blunt, tell her she is an ignorant misguided bitch if she thinks she is fat... "you don't want to be an ignorant misguided bitch do you?"

oh and i'd rather have a girl with a lil extra rather than some girl who has teeth being eaten away by stomach acid and who has puke on her breath 24/7

 

[meltdown75]

i don't know many women who don't have the distotred body image issue.

just tell her she looks great and try to change the subject.

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: crazySOB297
I will rejuvinate it tomorrow, she's horribly pissed at me now and told me that I need to let her do whatever she wants to her own body... and that it's none of my business and she shouldn't have let me find out in the first place.

She's not going to change without professional help. Please talk with her parents, who can get her some counselling, or hospitalize her if she is risking her health - which is highly likely.

And she's 16 - she has a lot of physical changes going on right now, which could be why this has 'shown up out of the blue.' Don't wait until it gets worse.

 

[Pepsi90919]

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[vi edit]

Originally posted by: meltdown75
i don't know many women who don't have the distotred body image issue.

just tell her she looks great and try to change the subject.

Best response yet. :thumbsup:

 

[Steve]

Show her before and after pics of Lindsay Lohan.

 

[dugweb]

Sounds like she is fishing for compliments.

If it is actually threatening her health she needs to see a psychiatrist. She shouldn't be fainting at 130lbs unless she hasn't eaten in days/has been binge eating for weeks. That is cause for worry.

Originally posted by: thekillerjks
Is she your actualy "Girl Friend" or is it just your friend?

I'd seriously sit down and talk with her about it. She may actually listen to you. Just be like:

<YOU> Look we nned to talk
<HER> About what?
<YOU> Well you seriously should not loos any more weight I think if you do you will look worse than you do now.
<HER> I don't think I look good enough.
<YOU> Listen to me and trust me. Comming from us guys we don't dig the super skinny women.
<HER> Well I guess I'll keep my weight.

Then your happy.

seriously... worst advice ever! LOL

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: vi_edit

Originally posted by: meltdown75
i don't know many women who don't have the distotred body image issue.

just tell her she looks great and try to change the subject.

Best response yet. :thumbsup:

Definately agree with that.

Koing

 

[Shadowknight]

I had a distorted body image once; went down to 165, where I literally was unable to lose anymore weight. It took seeing a professional nutritionist to realize I was underweight. I recommend the same deal; get a professional to tell her to stop losing weight, she might even need to GAIN weight. They can do a body weight test and tell her what her ideal/maximum weight is. It doesn't matter what YOU think, a lot of people might think they're fatter than they are, sometimes they need someone who can professionally tell them to stop losing it.