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Gl4di4tor

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Hey Guys, I really need some girl advice. There?s this girl at work that I have a crush on. She looks a little emo and has these really sexy Tina Fey type glasses, the thing is I really never felt so attracted to a girl before. A few weeks ago we were in the elevator alone and we took it the same floor, I really wanted to say something and maybe ask her out, but I just couldn?t get myself to even open my mouth. I?m so afraid of her shooting me down that my subconscious won?t even let me approach her. Last time at work, we finally locked eyes and she smiled at me and I smiled back, it was magical, at least to me. On one hand I feel she?s out of my league but on the other, she dresses in really plain clothes and doesn?t really doll her self up like most women do. I hear her talking to others in the office and she seems really nice, she seems like the perfect girl. I feel like I could probably get her if I lost some weight and gained some muscle tone, but I keeping thinking that maybe my sense of humor might be attractive to her. I really don?t know what to do, I feel so self conscious and afraid that she?ll shoot me down, and then we?ll feel really awkward when we see each other at work. What should I do ATOT?

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1. We're both college students, working part time at the office. There is no interaction business wise, so its not like I have to actually work with her directly.
2. For those asking for a pic, the best I can do is describe her to you guys; she's about 5'8" 130 lbs (rough est) Brunette; really short hair like W Ryder in Alien Resurrection except she wears it in a more emo style , tina fey glasses, prob C bra, nice curves, her faces looks really beautiful from the profile view.
 
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iron crotch

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go out for coffee and see if it leads anywhere. Office relationships can get tricky though, so dont be surprised if she wants to just keep it a friendship.
 
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mundane

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Now that Jim has left the Scranton branch and Pam called off the wedding, she's fair game. Go for it! Just don't listen to any of Michael's advice.
 
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Goosemaster

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I?m so afraid of her shooting me down that my subconscious won?t even let me approach her.
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You have nothing to fear but fear itself.

If you fail it will be a trivial moment in your life and will hopefully survive barring any elevator cable snaps + combo brake failure.
If you succeed, well then....

 
AbAbber2k

AbAbber2k

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Originally posted by: Gl4di4tor
Hey Guys, I really need some girl advice. There?s this girl at work that I have a crush on. She looks a little emo and has these really sexy Tina Fey type glasses, the thing is I really never felt so attracted to a girl before. A few weeks ago we were in the elevator alone and we took it the same floor, I really wanted to say something and maybe ask her out, but I just couldn?t get myself to even open my mouth. I?m so afraid of her shooting me down that my subconscious won?t even let me approach her. Last time at work, we finally locked eyes and she smiled at me and I smiled back, it was magical, at least to me. On one hand I feel she?s out of my league but on the other, she dresses in really plain clothes and doesn?t really doll her self up like most women do. I hear her talking to others in the office and she seems really nice, she seems like the perfect girl. I feel like I could probably get her if I lost some weight and gained some muscle tone, but I keeping thinking that maybe my sense of humor might be attractive to her. I really don?t know what to do, I feel so self conscious and afraid that she?ll shoot me down, and then we?ll feel really awkward when we see each other at work. What should I do ATOT?
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WTF!? :confused:

You'll never get her if you're that infatuated with her. You'll just come off as a total creep. I suggest you forget about her, and learn to socialize with women without being completely dumbstruck when they open their mouths to say something or smile at you. Maybe after a little social conditioning you'll be better prepared to actually be intimate with a woman.
 
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RedCOMET

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Originally posted by: Goosemaster

You have nothing to fear but fear itself.

If you fail it will be a trivial moment in your life and will hopefully survive barring any elevator cable snaps + combo brake failure.
If you succeed, well then....
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I agree. I had this girl give me her number and I was sorta a little b tch about calling her. I ended up calling her but no answer on her end. Not suprised though, but what ever. No loss to me.
 
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Manuwell

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1) Post a Pic of teh girl right here (tell her that you're looking for some models or whatever)
2) We'll tell you what to do then.
 
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m1ldslide1

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The person who said you're dead even before you start had it right on. You're infatuated with a complete stranger just because she fits a physical and cultural prototype that you idealize. Get over it - not sure how, but yeah maybe you should hit the gym. Not to win over this girl, but just to spend some time on your self image and try to build up some self confidence. This is a years long process, not weeks long, but if you want a chance at an attractive girl who isn't all freaked out herself then you'd better try something. Cuz this whole "i don't know you but you're perfect and you might like my sense of humor because i'm not self confident" will definately freak her out and that will be that. And you'll probably hate yourself for it too.

$.02
 
UncleWai

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I think you need to tone down your infatuation with her before you start making a move. You are just coming off as creepy right now.
 
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George P Burdell

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Never dip your pen in the company ink. NEVER.


Originally posted by: diegoalcatraz
Now that Jim has left the Scranton branch and Pam called off the wedding, she's fair game. Go for it! Just don't listen to any of Michael's advice.
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I think the girl at Jim's new office is hot.
 
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neutralizer

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Originally posted by: George P Burdell
Never dip your pen in the company ink. NEVER.


Originally posted by: diegoalcatraz
Now that Jim has left the Scranton branch and Pam called off the wedding, she's fair game. Go for it! Just don't listen to any of Michael's advice.
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I think the girl at Jim's new office is hot.
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Definitely. Except I think his heard lies with Pam. I have a pretty good idea how the season will go.
 
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Fineghal

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Seriously. Just ask her to do something.

Getting women to /do/ something with you is not all that hard. Getting them to like you on the other hand...
 
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wfbberzerker

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wow, you sound just like me.

pretty much, it boils down to the fact that you have to make a move and take a chance at some point. i can pretty much guarantee she won't take the initiative and ask you out (chances are, she doesn't know how interested you are in her, because of how shy you are), so its up to you. but get to know her first, if you haven't already. it'd be a little weird if you never so much as said "hi" and then one day you awkwardly sputter out "wanna go out with me?"

but yeah, you gotta stick your neck out at least once. and damn, is it hard to do.
 
AgaBoogaBoo

AgaBoogaBoo

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Wait... both are college students, why can't you just start a conversation saying you heard she works part time too and ask what school, major, yadda yadda yadda?
 
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Howard

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Don't sh1t where you eat. Also:

I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.
 
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