Wow, I got more of a response than I imagined, usually my threads get a max of 5 replies. Anways, thanks for the advice, I'm gonna grow a pair and just talk to her next time i have the chance. Whats the worst that can happen, right? I mean if she laughs at my jokes and if I notice her iris dilated (sign of interest) I'll go for it, if not, I'll try again someother day. Thanks again ATOT.
IHateMyJob2004
Lifer
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yeah, i wouldn't consider her irises dilating as 100% proof, but if it makes you go for it, hey, what the hell.
neutralizer
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5'8" and 130lbs?!!!!!.............
WHOA!!! hold up and break out the fork lift and feeding trof!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
THAT IS A HUGE HUGE HUGE GROSSLY OBESE PERSON!
...
lol sorry, I was just being a sheeptard from a diff thread.
Sound like a catch, OP. You don't need to lose weight, but you do need to get some balls. If losing weight does that for you, then you can go that route. But if you really want to get some confidence..... TALK to her. Just make sure it's not some boring topic or mundane "hi's" or "how's your day"
Ask her opinion on getting some glasses (even if you don't need them) and start talking to her about other stuff. Ask her if there is a nice place to eat for linch around town.
.....
oh wait... shallow self returning!!!!!!!!!!!!....
DAMN THAT"S A HUGE B!TCH!!!... WOOOHOOO!!! HERE COMES THE FAT TRAIN!!!!!!! .... OMG ARE YOU INTO THE BIGGEST WOMEN IN THE WORLD!!!
....
i'm back.
sorry, I just had to make fun of the other threads with all there shallow crap about women in that height/weight ratio range.
WHOA!!! hold up and break out the fork lift and feeding trof!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
THAT IS A HUGE HUGE HUGE GROSSLY OBESE PERSON!
...
lol sorry, I was just being a sheeptard from a diff thread.
Sound like a catch, OP. You don't need to lose weight, but you do need to get some balls. If losing weight does that for you, then you can go that route. But if you really want to get some confidence..... TALK to her. Just make sure it's not some boring topic or mundane "hi's" or "how's your day"
Ask her opinion on getting some glasses (even if you don't need them) and start talking to her about other stuff. Ask her if there is a nice place to eat for linch around town.
.....
oh wait... shallow self returning!!!!!!!!!!!!....
DAMN THAT"S A HUGE B!TCH!!!... WOOOHOOO!!! HERE COMES THE FAT TRAIN!!!!!!! .... OMG ARE YOU INTO THE BIGGEST WOMEN IN THE WORLD!!!
....
i'm back.
sorry, I just had to make fun of the other threads with all there shallow crap about women in that height/weight ratio range.
The journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step.
Just boost up your confidence and go talk to her.
Good friendship is priceless and also is a GREAT base for any relationship.
Also, always be YOURSELF!!
Just boost up your confidence and go talk to her.
Good friendship is priceless and also is a GREAT base for any relationship.
Also, always be YOURSELF!!
OP...getting in shape probably wouldn't hurt your chances.
You'll be amazed at what just one month of good exercise can do.
You'll be amazed at what just one month of good exercise can do.
neutralizer
Lifer
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Unlike most others, I actually read your post enough to realize the truth: this girl doesn't really exist. She's just in your head. This was made clear to me by your likening her to W ryder in "Aliens 3" when:
1. W ryder was in Alien resurrection, not aliens 3
2. There was no "aliens 3", the third one was singular, "Alien 3"
In light of this, I suggest you start an exercise program to get buff, and lose some weight. This will help you to have confidence later, when you meet a real girl who isn't a figment of your imagination. Use the student rec center weight rooms to even out your exercise, and run on the school track. Always eat protein and carbs after every workout within half an hour, etc. Oh, and watch all four alien movies in a row on the same day. When you make popcorn, use flax oil instead of butter, it's about 50% omega 3, whereas butter is nutritionally useless. Chocolate milk after a workout is the best known recovery drink, and whey protein is not as expensive as it seems if you consider cost per gram of protein, it's on par with eggs. Good luck.
alright, so you like her? get to know her a little bit more before you ask her out. and if you are really that chickenish, just drop her a note. it's not high school, so don't be afraid of losing face. don't think it's a dumb thing either, because a note is like a different form of communication. ofcourse many will say that you should do it like a man, but really, you should honestly think about the alternatives. ask her out to a place you know will make you comfortable, but not lose respect for your standards. like if she doesn't drink, I mean, don't take her to a local wine-tasting event in town, something like that, for example, would ruin a lot.
competition, there are probably a few other guys that have the same motives for the girl like you do. act now and be thankful later, but don't be impulsive, patience is key, but action is also a combo if you are good at timing - practice if you need to, but don't pretend that it's not reality and that everything you do isn't going to put itself together, a picture doesn't create itself, learn to build on behalf of positive critisism. and you'll learn to love yourself. if you're scard of being disrespectful, your self-esteem sucks. but if you are not afraid and you are still disprespectful in many areas of your life, your self-esteem will still suck. be positive all the time and never think negative for anyone, anybody, anywhere.
shake her hand before the hugs. she probably has a comfort zone, you shatter it, and she will shatter her possible hots for you. don't think it's love either. sure, unconditional love may be existant for the fact that she shares the same business office building and being in the same country, but any relationship takes time, so don't call her girl friend unless she starts calling you boy friend.
master your time table. if you can't remember the things that she likes, write them down and know which things she likes on which occasions. ask her what kind of flowers she likes, and then don't be such a reactionary - bring her the same type of flowers the same night or the day later. wait a week, and bring them to her. it's art, my friend, not a math quiz.
always dress and be ready like she's going to kiss you, but don't always expect it. as unpredictable as some women are, you never know the future, but you can only predict elements of it, and the best you can do, is prepare for it. don't eat garlic before a date, always carry non-artificial sugar gum with you, for the protection of your teeth, and also to preserve your breath if you ever does decide to kiss you. don't ever pull a kiss-me though, because even if she looks like she's ready, the moment she backs away, that's when you know you've lost your chance for potential trustiness in the relationship, that is if you both get that far.
have fun, but don't limit yourself to one chick if you are new to dating. I know a friend who had a girl friend for the first time, married her... and you know the rest. the marriage is totally on and off as far as smiles go. everything my buddy learned growing up, it seemed like none of it was really stretching out of his mind? I mean, you don't have to yell at kids because they don't know how to play a video game... and then you know stuff like that, it's barely been a year or so, 'cuz she had two kids already when they met and got married. I didn't know what to tell my friend, he seemed happy at first, but man, I tell you, me telling him how to act like a father is going to be hard enough, I'm figuring out how to approach him - 'cuz he and his wife do not seem like they are the type that are ready.
anyway, so that's a story that you want to avoid. if you're going to disrespect your girl friend in the future, it's better that you guys don't call each other that and limit how much you see them. 'cuz it's not pretty watching a couple fight in front of other people.
if you ever are able to call her girl friend, think of it as the two of you building, and not you doing all the work, otherwise it's not a relationship, you're just making her your slave, and trying to please an object.
don't give her your e-mail addie, that's too dorky, she'll likely think you're weird and indirect. it's not an internet relationship (for crying out loud). give her your number man. don't stalk her and don't stare at her too much, you're not a paparrazi or somethin'
man, do crazy stuff that will make things way fun.
instead of taking her to eat out, like everyone else, invite her over and cook for her, lay on the sofa and chit chat and then sit on the porch or back yard area and stare the city lights together.
or go downtown and just do whatever comes to mind, bring a camera and take a lot of pictures!
just write down a hundred things and go over the list, memorize everything you like and it will come to your head when you run out of words to say
p.s. not sure if any of this makes sense, but good luck man, lol
competition, there are probably a few other guys that have the same motives for the girl like you do. act now and be thankful later, but don't be impulsive, patience is key, but action is also a combo if you are good at timing - practice if you need to, but don't pretend that it's not reality and that everything you do isn't going to put itself together, a picture doesn't create itself, learn to build on behalf of positive critisism. and you'll learn to love yourself. if you're scard of being disrespectful, your self-esteem sucks. but if you are not afraid and you are still disprespectful in many areas of your life, your self-esteem will still suck. be positive all the time and never think negative for anyone, anybody, anywhere.
shake her hand before the hugs. she probably has a comfort zone, you shatter it, and she will shatter her possible hots for you. don't think it's love either. sure, unconditional love may be existant for the fact that she shares the same business office building and being in the same country, but any relationship takes time, so don't call her girl friend unless she starts calling you boy friend.
master your time table. if you can't remember the things that she likes, write them down and know which things she likes on which occasions. ask her what kind of flowers she likes, and then don't be such a reactionary - bring her the same type of flowers the same night or the day later. wait a week, and bring them to her. it's art, my friend, not a math quiz.
always dress and be ready like she's going to kiss you, but don't always expect it. as unpredictable as some women are, you never know the future, but you can only predict elements of it, and the best you can do, is prepare for it. don't eat garlic before a date, always carry non-artificial sugar gum with you, for the protection of your teeth, and also to preserve your breath if you ever does decide to kiss you. don't ever pull a kiss-me though, because even if she looks like she's ready, the moment she backs away, that's when you know you've lost your chance for potential trustiness in the relationship, that is if you both get that far.
have fun, but don't limit yourself to one chick if you are new to dating. I know a friend who had a girl friend for the first time, married her... and you know the rest. the marriage is totally on and off as far as smiles go. everything my buddy learned growing up, it seemed like none of it was really stretching out of his mind? I mean, you don't have to yell at kids because they don't know how to play a video game... and then you know stuff like that, it's barely been a year or so, 'cuz she had two kids already when they met and got married. I didn't know what to tell my friend, he seemed happy at first, but man, I tell you, me telling him how to act like a father is going to be hard enough, I'm figuring out how to approach him - 'cuz he and his wife do not seem like they are the type that are ready.
anyway, so that's a story that you want to avoid. if you're going to disrespect your girl friend in the future, it's better that you guys don't call each other that and limit how much you see them. 'cuz it's not pretty watching a couple fight in front of other people.
if you ever are able to call her girl friend, think of it as the two of you building, and not you doing all the work, otherwise it's not a relationship, you're just making her your slave, and trying to please an object.
don't give her your e-mail addie, that's too dorky, she'll likely think you're weird and indirect. it's not an internet relationship (for crying out loud). give her your number man. don't stalk her and don't stare at her too much, you're not a paparrazi or somethin'
man, do crazy stuff that will make things way fun.
instead of taking her to eat out, like everyone else, invite her over and cook for her, lay on the sofa and chit chat and then sit on the porch or back yard area and stare the city lights together.
or go downtown and just do whatever comes to mind, bring a camera and take a lot of pictures!
just write down a hundred things and go over the list, memorize everything you like and it will come to your head when you run out of words to say
p.s. not sure if any of this makes sense, but good luck man, lol
Youll be fine - just be yourself! Dont jump from 0 to 60 right away - get to know her as a friend first.
radioouman
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Alright dude... you are worried about losing some weight and gaining some muscle? I think that you are emo.
I call shens on the whole deal!
The OP has emo written all over it!
But, if its true.. get a Halo 2 t-shirt.. rumor has it, the ladies will flock to you by the hundreds!
The OP has emo written all over it!
But, if its true.. get a Halo 2 t-shirt.. rumor has it, the ladies will flock to you by the hundreds!
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