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Cuda1447

Lifer
Jul 26, 2002
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She's not trying to make someone else jealous because she has never dated anyone before. I know she has liked guys, but only one to my knowledge, and she couldn't ever get him. I don't think she is trying to make someone else jealous though, almost positive of that.

She's not trying to be seen with a senior either, she's not that personality. She doesn't really care about her status, she's not one of those girls that just tries to be popular at all, its something... else.... deeper.... my head hurts.


Anyone know any good retail knife stores?
 

glen

Lifer
Apr 28, 2000
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You ever had a girl and met her on a nice hello?
You get her name and number and then you feelin' real mellow
You get home, wait a day, she's what you wanna know about
Then you call up and it's her girlfriend or her cousin's house
It's not a front, F to the R to the O to the N to the T
It's just her boyfriend's at her house (Boy, that's what is scary)
It's O.P.P. time
 

zippy

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Okay, Ameesh's first post of 'stab her' was kinda funny just because of the way he delivered it (the only two words he posted). But it's gotten kinda sketchy...with the line being crossed at "Anyone know any good retail knife stores?" and then trounced at the link to a pic of a big knife! :Q

Oh my...

Anyway, why not just ask her why she doesn't want to hang out outside of school and whatnot? Seems like a reasonable thing to be querulous of considering you're taking her to homecoming!
 

Cuda1447

Lifer
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I have, she says she just wants to wait and see how homecoming goes... She doesn't want to know me very much at all before that I guess.
 

MrCraphead

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my opinion, she's probably using you, so don't get too attached, at all, and just live it up. take advantage of the situation. :) You can play her game too......
 

weezergirl

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when will guys realize that some girls are unexplainable. upon encountering a girl of such type you must do two things:
1. don't waste your time trying to figure them out
2. STAY THE HELL AWAY FROM HER.

and if all else fails, Ameesh knows all...stab her.

:p
 

Pastore

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Hate to say it, but it sounds to me like the only time she was interested in you was for a dance. She wanted a date, you were available, she used you, now she's going back to her old self. Making excuses as to why she can't see you, can't go to the next dance with you when she already basically went with you to one? Her parents told her the age difference was no good? I don't buy it. Tread lightly, I think she's using you.
 

Cuda1447

Lifer
Jul 26, 2002
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Well at times she actually acts like she likes me.


OH and a part I skipped over, why she had hated me the year before.


Someone told her that I had said I was dating her. So she just assumed I had said that (which I didnt) and got mad at me about it, with reason. But she never asked me about it until this year, which is odd. You'd think she would atleast ask me why I said that, or give me a chance to defend myself.
 

"The next week I came to school and went to talk to her and she hates me all of a sudden, to make a long story short, she didn't talk to me the rest of the year. Unless it was something like "shut up or Ill hit you" And believe me, I tried everything!! EVERYTHING!!!"

Okay, help me here. You may be concealing a critical detail. Can you elaborate on the above quote?

I'll try to answer your question, even with the absence of a possibly revealing information. Basically, the fact that she consults with her parents for permission to do things, and the fact that she often tells you that she's busy tells me the following:

1) She's not one who prioritises having boyfriends. She prioritises school work.

2) She's not really interested in you [more than a friend]. And she probably didn't like you really, until much later as you pushed on.

3) She misses the attention sometimes and sometimes feels bad about the way she treats you, so she comes to you or finds a way to get you back to talking to her and making her your eye candy. And occasionally she has feelings for you.

4) She probably thinks that it's nice of you to invite her to the homecoming event. However, she's being cautious, respecting her parents by asking their permission; and she doesn't want to feel awkward going to the prom when she's just a sophomore.

5) She's probably not one who is crazy about the prom event (believe me, there are girls who couldn't care the least about proms). However, just because you asked her out, just that courtesy is enough for her to extend it to you. Hence, she will most likely go to the prom, unless you're a really ugly guy that she would rather not be seen with (I doubt this).

Relax. But you really need to get your eyes off her. She's not going to be there really in the long-run, and she's indicated that she's not interested in you really [past friendship]. The only way you could get her if you start treating her meanly, but that would make you a dog/jerk worthy of scorn.
 

Ameesh

Lifer
Apr 3, 2001
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Originally posted by: weezergirl
when will guys realize that some girls are unexplainable. upon encountering a girl of such type you must do two things:
1. don't waste your time trying to figure them out
2. STAY THE HELL AWAY FROM HER.

and if all else fails, Ameesh knows all...stab her.

:p

w3rd up!
 

dfi

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Tell her she needs to be into you as much as you are into her, or it's game over. It's imperative that you use the phrase "game over".

dfi
 

Cuda1447

Lifer
Jul 26, 2002
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Its not Prom, its Homecoming. Sorry if I mistyped before.


And she hasn't made it completely clear she doesn't want me, at times she totally flirts with me. At other times, she just seems cold. But she is always the one intiating conversations now, I don't intiate any anymore because it seems useless. I never know what to say to her anymore anyway.


Game over, rofl.
 

Jfur

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Originally posted by: Cuda1447
Its not Prom, its Homecoming. Sorry if I mistyped before.


And she hasn't made it completely clear she doesn't want me, at times she totally flirts with me. At other times, she just seems cold. But she is always the one intiating conversations now, I don't intiate any anymore because it seems useless. I never know what to say to her anymore anyway.


Game over, rofl.


Sit her down and ask her what is going on. Don't be too explicit about your feelings, just mention that you are interested in knowing her better but find her behavior perplexing. If she is vague or insincere when you raise these issues then CUT HER OFF. As painful as that may be you will be saving yourself *****MAJOR***** trouble and maintaining your self-respect.
 

A5

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Jun 9, 2000
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Eh, you're young; just ride it out and hope you get something out of it. Don't look for anything serious though.
 

Cuda1447

Lifer
Jul 26, 2002
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Ok, Ive made my decision. Going to the kitchen to get supplies for school tomorrow.