Need Advice

[sonz70]

So, I have a date tonight. A real date, like... This girl from work (my IT job) asked me out to the bar here in town, I said yes. So, it's been a while since I've been on a real date (5 months to be exact). Now, I'm going over to her place to meet her, after shes done work, we both live within walking distance of the bar (about 15mins walk),

So, since neither of us are driving, what do I do at the end of the night?, offer to walk her home. Wait for her to ask me too?. Or say goodbye at the bar?


I know I'm going to get flamed for this, but perhaps in thr 50+ posts that poke fun at me, the 3 or 4 atot'ers who date regularily can provice some insight.

Thanks

 

[stan394]

the girl who took the promotion from you?

 

[nater]

I'd walk her home either way (if date is good/bad). What you do at that point is up to you

 

[sonz70]

Originally posted by: stan394
the girl who took the promotion from you?

No different girl, different department.

 

[stars]

See how the night goes then decide. If it goes well walk her home. If not, say goodbye at the bar.

 

[Cattlegod]

you gave a bj to some dude like a month ago and you need help with getting a chick back to her place? i call shens on the whole escort thingy.

 

[Rip the Jacker]

offer to walk her home.

 

[nater]

Originally posted by: Cattlegod
you gave a bj to some dude like a month ago and you need help with getting a chick back to her place? i call shens on the whole escort thingy.

oh is this that guy?

 

[state 08]

I think it may depend on how intoxicated both of you are.

If you appear more drunk than her, wait for her to ask you. If she seems a little tipsy, you should ask her. If both of you are just buzzed, then I think you should just go with the flow, and be a gentleman and just offer to walk her. But what ever you do, I don't think it'll be cool to say good bye at the bar.

BTW, what happened with your other girlfriend?

 

[Cattlegod]

Originally posted by: nater

Originally posted by: Cattlegod
you gave a bj to some dude like a month ago and you need help with getting a chick back to her place? i call shens on the whole escort thingy.

oh is this that guy?

sure is

 

[sonz70]

Originally posted by: Cattlegod
you gave a bj to some dude like a month ago and you need help with getting a chick back to her place? i call shens on the whole escort thingy.

It's obviously very different circumstances. I actually like this girl. Anyone who I got paid from was just that, a customer. Ask anyone who is a stripper/prostitutue/bartender. Theres a big difference between the people you get paid to dance/screw/flirt with, and having a real date/relationship.

 

[Cattlegod]

Originally posted by: sonz70

Originally posted by: Cattlegod
you gave a bj to some dude like a month ago and you need help with getting a chick back to her place? i call shens on the whole escort thingy.

It's obviously very different circumstances. I actually like this girl. Anyone who I got paid from was just that, a customer. Ask anyone who is a stripper/prostitutue/bartender. Theres a big difference between the people you get paid to dance/screw/flirt with, and having a real date/relationship.

QFT!

 

[sonz70]

Originally posted by: state 08
I think it may depend on how intoxicated both of you are.

If you appear more drunk than her, wait for her to ask you. If she seems a little tipsy, you should ask her. If both of you are just buzzed, then I think you should just go with the flow, and be a gentleman and just offer to walk her. But what ever you do, I don't think it'll be cool to say good bye at the bar.

BTW, what happened with your other girlfriend?

She called it off after she found out about the Escort thing

 

[DAGTA]

Originally posted by: sonz70

Originally posted by: Cattlegod
you gave a bj to some dude like a month ago and you need help with getting a chick back to her place? i call shens on the whole escort thingy.

It's obviously very different circumstances. I actually like this girl. Anyone who I got paid from was just that, a customer. Ask anyone who is a stripper/prostitutue/bartender. Theres a big difference between the people you get paid to dance/screw/flirt with, and having a real date/relationship.

STDs disagree.

 

[Otaking]

Originally posted by: sonz70

Originally posted by: state 08
I think it may depend on how intoxicated both of you are.

If you appear more drunk than her, wait for her to ask you. If she seems a little tipsy, you should ask her. If both of you are just buzzed, then I think you should just go with the flow, and be a gentleman and just offer to walk her. But what ever you do, I don't think it'll be cool to say good bye at the bar.

BTW, what happened with your other girlfriend?

She called it off after she found out about the Escort thing

:shocked:

 

[Kadarin]

Just give her your *real* business card...

 

[Andres3605]

just walk her home either case (good/bad)

 

[Otaking]

How'd she find out?

 

[spidey07]

This is not a date.

This is having cocktails after work to see if the possibility of a date can happen.

Offer to walk her home. If she accepts your in, if not...oh well.

 

[Rip the Jacker]

one more post and hes 1337

 

[BobDaMenkey]

Offer to walk her home either way dude.

 

[sonz70]

Originally posted by: spidey07
This is not a date.

This is having cocktails after work to see if the possibility of a date can happen.

Offer to walk her home. If she accepts your in, if not...oh well.

It's not cocktails though, were going to a club/bar.

 

[cavemanmoron]

Originally posted by: nater
I'd walk her home either way (if date is good/bad). What you do at that point is up to you

 

[AdamSnow]

What bar are you going too?

I can be downtown London in about 20 minutes... I can take pics of your evening for ATOT...

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: sonz70

Originally posted by: spidey07
This is not a date.

This is having cocktails after work to see if the possibility of a date can happen.

Offer to walk her home. If she accepts your in, if not...oh well.

It's not cocktails though, were going to a club/bar.

You're going to a club/bar and there are to be no cocktails?

I'm confused.

Look - easy way to break the ice with a co-worker is to ask out for cocktails. Still isn't a date. Its a "pre-date" to get to know each other a little outside of work.