This will probably be a lot to read....... you've been warned.
Some background info - in college right now, got out of a 3 year relationship a little over 6 months ago. First love, broke my heart, all that stuff, you know the story.
About 2 months ago I started hanging out with a new group of friends, everyone's pretty cool and all that. To make a long story short I started to like one of the girls in our group, problem is her boyfriend is also in our "group" of friends. We all usually hang out 2-3 nights a week and have a good time. This girl is really the first girl I've been the least bit interested in since my breakup with ex girlfriend. Her boyfriend is a pretty cool guy, no problems with him or anything.
Here's my dilema - Whenever I hang out with the group, I tend to feel like an ass and uncomfortable. I really like this girl a lot, and her boyfriend is a pretty cool guy. But if I got the chance I'd go after his girl in a second. They act very strange around eachother, they act more like brother and sister than gf/bf. I've never really seen anykind of affection between the two of them, and I've maybe seen them touch eachother twice in the past 2 months. I've got a few suttle hints over the past 2 months that she may be interested in me, nothing big though. Oh and they've been going out for about 1 and a 1/2 years.
So, do I go for it and tell her how I feel and risk not being able to hang out with everyone (even though I allready feel really uncomfortable when I'm around them)
Or, do I not say anything at all and always have the question in the back of my head about what if I had said something? Would something have happened between us?
I'm sure some of you will think I'm an ass for even thinking of saying anything to her considering she's allready in a relationship, but I've had it done to me and I really dont feel like being "the nice guy" anymore. If she says no, no harm done, if she says yes then it wasn't meant to be with her current relationship.
Some background info - in college right now, got out of a 3 year relationship a little over 6 months ago. First love, broke my heart, all that stuff, you know the story.
About 2 months ago I started hanging out with a new group of friends, everyone's pretty cool and all that. To make a long story short I started to like one of the girls in our group, problem is her boyfriend is also in our "group" of friends. We all usually hang out 2-3 nights a week and have a good time. This girl is really the first girl I've been the least bit interested in since my breakup with ex girlfriend. Her boyfriend is a pretty cool guy, no problems with him or anything.
Here's my dilema - Whenever I hang out with the group, I tend to feel like an ass and uncomfortable. I really like this girl a lot, and her boyfriend is a pretty cool guy. But if I got the chance I'd go after his girl in a second. They act very strange around eachother, they act more like brother and sister than gf/bf. I've never really seen anykind of affection between the two of them, and I've maybe seen them touch eachother twice in the past 2 months. I've got a few suttle hints over the past 2 months that she may be interested in me, nothing big though. Oh and they've been going out for about 1 and a 1/2 years.
So, do I go for it and tell her how I feel and risk not being able to hang out with everyone (even though I allready feel really uncomfortable when I'm around them)
Or, do I not say anything at all and always have the question in the back of my head about what if I had said something? Would something have happened between us?
I'm sure some of you will think I'm an ass for even thinking of saying anything to her considering she's allready in a relationship, but I've had it done to me and I really dont feel like being "the nice guy" anymore. If she says no, no harm done, if she says yes then it wasn't meant to be with her current relationship.
