My wife says that I was rude, what would you have done?

[brianmanahan]

man, this forum is filled with anusholes

 

[highland145]

man, this forum is filled with anusholes

Is that an oxymoron?

 

[BarkingGhostar]

I'll be honest, that attitude is worse than the ops lol.

God forbid a woman work a job and get pregnant. Hell, some of the guys at Hooters might be more turned on by that

When the volume and size of the 'third boob' is greater than the two real boobs then it is game over and a loss of appetite.

 

[Lanyap]

It was pretty impressive you would of had to be there. It was like I thrusted straight from the floor to mid air flight.

Funny the shit we take for granted not being fat. Just recently I was sitting on the floor with this chick whos not exactly fat but bigger being about 6" shorter and the same weight as me. We both went to get up and she goes how did you do that? I'm like do what? She said you got up without using your hands you just went straight to your feet and up, as she pushed herself off the floor with her arms. I was like oh i dunno never paid attention just how I get up.

I'm 62 now but just a few years ago I could do this. I haven't been as physically active the past few years so I probably can't do it now. I'll have to give it a try again.

 

[lxskllr]

I'm 62 now but just a few years ago I could do this. I haven't been as physically active the past few years so I probably can't do it now. I'll have to give it a try again.

That's how I do it. It's a matter of personal pride. I couldn't do it this minute cause my back's being an asshole, but normally that's how it's done. Got in the habit from karate. If you used hands to get up, you got pushups. All pushups were knuckle pushups :^D

 

[GagHalfrunt]

When the volume and size of the 'third boob' is greater than the two real boobs then it is game over and a loss of appetite.

It's freaking Hooters man, loss of appetite might have nothing to do with the size of the woman and everything to do with the quality of the food.

 

[Herr Kutz]

You did the right thing by shaming that fat fattie. Maybe she’s happy with her body because the PC group brainwashed her, but the realty is she should be ashamed and disgusted like any normal person would be. She should be paying you for the lesson. At least she is exactly where she should be—the gym.

 

[shortylickens]

You did the right thing by shaming that fat fattie. Maybe she’s happy with her body because the PC group brainwashed her, but the realty is she should be ashamed and disgusted like any normal person would be. She should be paying you for the lesson. At least she is exactly where she should be—the gym.

you're one of the anusholes brian was talking about.

 

[Herr Kutz]

you're one of the anusholes brian was talking about.

Maybe she’ll go out with you, shorty.

Inb4 “fat chance”

 

[BarkingGhostar]

It's freaking Hooters man, loss of appetite might have nothing to do with the size of the woman and everything to do with the quality of the food.

But one has to be able to see the food over the mega-pregnant bulging that covered the horizon.

 

[mindless1]

I have to say this up front. I'm over 55, a grouchy guy with back issues, and my tolerance level for stupid is very low. Two weeks ago I started going to the gym to mainly work on my core and back muscles, and overall upper body strength. Last week I was talking with a trainer named Nick, a guy in his mid 30's, and looked to be in very good shape (my wife said she wouldn't mind him as her trainer), so I set up an appointment with him for yesterday for my first paid session ($35).

My wife and I go to the gym yesterday, and I show up at the front desk for my training session on time, and check in for my appointment. I don't know the reason why, but Kyle was unavailable. I asked to reschedule for next week, but the guy at the front desk said "I can find you another trainer, hold on a minute."

At that point you say no. Bait and switch BS, just no.

He got on the phone and then told me that "Chrissie will be with you shortly." After about 5 minutes Chrissie shows up. She is in her late 20's, about 5' 2" tall, must weigh at least 300 pounds, and there isn't an ounce of muscle on this woman. I control the expressions on my face, introduce myself, and she walks me into the workout area. My initial reaction in my brain was "How the heck could this woman ever be hired as a fitness trainer", but I said to myself "Don't judge too quickly", and went on with the session.

Unfortunately you are now suffering due to being too heavily forced on having social skills. The correct response was already no but now it is "I have nothing to learn from you."

I tell her what my primary focus is (back, core, and upper body), and she then walks me around to the various machines. She explains how the machines operate, but at first doesn't show me how they work. I then ask nicely if she could demonstrate how the machines work so I know that I'm not doing them improperly. Reluctantly, she tries to demonstrate the next 3 machines, but can barely operate them on the lowest weight setting, which is 10 pounds.

Classic case of slacker retardism where someone thinks that if they can memorize something, that makes them fit to DO something. Sadly I see this a lot, people who should just have some sense brutally beaten into them because they're cheating everyone who sought them for something they simply, cannot do effectively.

By this time I'm getting pissed. I stop the training session and then ask her to follow me back to the front desk. I immediately tell the guy that I want my money refunded for this session, because I don't need someone who can't do the machines, and only can tell me how they work. Chrissie then says "You are only saying this because I am a little overweight."

Then you say, "obese cow, you are too stupid to know what the word little means, and need to become a student before a teacher." This is not politically correct, which is a good thing. The truth is the only way to solve some problems.

I then said to Chrissie, "No, I tried to look passed your BIG weight issue, but you can't even operate the machines, and I don't feel confident that you are giving me proper guidance." Chrissie walks off in tears as my wife meets me at the front desk.

At this point you ask for a free year in addition to the refund because this is not the BS you signed up for.

The guy behind the front desk said to me, "That was completely uncalled for." I told him to "Just shut up and give me a refund, or set me up an appointment with the original trainer Kyle." I got a refund.

Finally you were assertive, BUT, I would have brought the front desk guy down about a dozen notches for not acknowledging that this employee was unfit to be doing this job.

On our way out of the gym, my wife told me that I was rude. I then explained what had happened, and again she said I was rude and should have handled it differently. I don't know, maybe I am a total ass, but from my perspective, even with hindsight, I don't know how I would have handled it any differently.

It was rude of you to waste their time for as long as you did before calling them out for being a joke, which isn't really rude at all, but I am considering that you possibly did not convey what happened to your wife as well at the time as you did here after you had time to compose this description.

So you are now free to tell me what I did wrong and what you would have done in this situation.

1st wrong was not to say no sooner. 2nd wrong was not to stand your ground with your wife and tell her that no, you have nothing to learn from someone who isn't somewhere that you want to be, which is the truth, and that it was offensive to you on a moral and financial ground that this happened.

You need to explain to her that someone this unfit to do this job needs to be told this or else they will continue to cheat people out of their money and goals.

You do not train to become greater than your master. That's silly kung foo movie nonsense. Either you did not explain the situation well enough to your wife or she is a politically correct idiot and is beyond logic.

Fix you or fix her? Or settle for years of smiling when putting up with bullsheet because there are other fringe benefits.

The way I'd look at it is whether your wife is ahead of you fitness wise. If she is, tolerate it until her advice ceases to get you further on your fitness path. Once you have greater fitness, you have displayed better judgement towards that goal and it is her that needs to be reminded that she is lagging behind.

 

[dabuddha]

I agree with you. You are paying for a service and a personal trainer should be able to demonstrate the proper use of a machine. Or else why pay for a trainer and you still have to figure out the machine on your own.

That being said, she was the one that brought up her weight, not you. However I feel like you escalated it by mentioning her "BIG weight issue". That was unnecessary and I'm probably as much of a curmudgeon as you seem to be and have as little patience for stupidity and poor performance as you say you have. Fat chicks are known for being sensitive about their weight so if there was a place for your improvement, you could have said everything else verbatim as you posted it and have been 100% in the right but just have omitted those 3 words and have been beyond any reproach.

Going forward, you are stuck at that gym for the next year until your membership expires. Good luck as your name will be known and by all the employees. I wouldnt expect any extraordinary customer service or perks thrown your way as everyone will know Krissy's account of the story with perhaps with whatever exaggerations she create.

Ok that made me seriously LOL

 

[Ventanni]

Personally, I think you were rude and should have handled it directly with management and not her.

At the same time, if this gym company has any sense of responsibility in them, it's quite possibly the best thing that could have happened for their bottom line. Personal trainers are one of the few job positions where image is important. The same is true with plastic surgeons and financial advisors; their image needs to portray success, and for that reason, most people want them driving a really nice car. In the personal training industry, an overweight personal trainer obviously does not carry the message that the exercises they're asking their clients to do are effective at either losing weight or strengthening muscle. There's just no if's, and's, or but's around that.

If this gym learns from this, they'll realize that overweight personal trainers are bad for their long term bottom line. It just took a rude, crotchety old man to tell them that haha.

 

[ImpulsE69]

So here's the question. If the chick had been hot but didn't know how to use the machines or even a guy, would you have just been like 'oh that's okay' or did the same thing? Whatever your answer is, that's your answer.

 

[Gerle]

"I was talking with a trainer named Nick, a guy in his mid 30's, and looked to be in very good shape (my wife said she wouldn't mind him as her trainer), so I set up an appointment with him for yesterday for my first paid session ($35)."
then
"Kyle was unavailable"
then
"original trainer Kyle"

Where did Nick go, how did he become Kyle, and was he really Kyle the whole time?

 

[Midwayman]

I feel like she brought it on herself by bringing up her weight. I probably would have just said No the instant they brought up someone severely obese in order to 'train' me.

 

[compcons]

Some guy who let himself go joins a gym.
Intent is to work on gut, weak ass back and "upper body".
Bases personal trainer decision on who the wife wants to bang.

Dude apparently will pay anyone to hold his hand around the gym so allows desk jockey to select anyone in the list of "Who is working today".

Gym staff member begins to show the guy around the gym.
Out of shape guy who doesn't know how to use gym equipment judges some staff member based on appearance and the amount of weight she can lift.

Out of shape guy acts like an ass and verbally lashes out at gym staff member.

Comes on internet forum to ask if he was rude.

There must be a forum posting where this nice personal trainer who has been recovering from a horrible car accident is trying to get back into shape after being bed-ridden and then a wheelchair for 6 years. She has gotten a gig consulting as a trainer to pay her medical bills. Some rude asshole is not impressed by her inability to do her job the way she once did. She knows how to use the equipment, but its very difficult and painful even with no weight. This old, out of shape, asshole gives her crap for not being able to lift any weight and drags her to the front and berates her in front of her co-workers. He treated her like a servant rather than a person. She ended up crying and remembering how her dirty uncle used to treat her as a child.

The forum Topic is "Are All Old People Stupid and Rude?"

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