"After 11 and a half years of being married to my wonderful wife (highschool sweethearts), we are splitting."
It is sad but really true: First loves, high school sweethearts, etc. don't last forever in almost all cases. However, not many pass the gf/bf stage and get married. So, you two did well to commit yourselves to marriage for 11 years. It's very disheartening though to be committed to someone for that long only to be disappointed at the end. At least there aren't any kids in the picture.
"She wants us to still be friends and tells me that I will find someone who is more compatible with me. At the moment, we will still live together, do the same things but are not romantically involved anymore. I am so terribly saddened by this but at the same time I am not sure if it's hurting me to stay with her for awhile until I get up on my feet. She has already moved on emotionally but still cares for me greatly as a friend. At times I just want to ball my eyes out"
Good thing! You both sound like mature people. You definitely have an extremely mature wife, and to some extent that may be why she no longer sees you two as compatible. I do hope that you both remain great friends and find each other to confide in when having difficult times. You can move on feeling better about yourselves and understanding that it was not meant to be. You love this woman a lot, it sounds. But some things in our lives are external forces and beyond our control. You will find someone great who reciprocates your feeling and appreciates you much. It will never be the same as your first, but it will be with a deeper understanding and a higher level of appreciation.
You never know what's in stock for you. Best of luck, Zmatrix!
It is sad but really true: First loves, high school sweethearts, etc. don't last forever in almost all cases. However, not many pass the gf/bf stage and get married. So, you two did well to commit yourselves to marriage for 11 years. It's very disheartening though to be committed to someone for that long only to be disappointed at the end. At least there aren't any kids in the picture.
"She wants us to still be friends and tells me that I will find someone who is more compatible with me. At the moment, we will still live together, do the same things but are not romantically involved anymore. I am so terribly saddened by this but at the same time I am not sure if it's hurting me to stay with her for awhile until I get up on my feet. She has already moved on emotionally but still cares for me greatly as a friend. At times I just want to ball my eyes out"
Good thing! You both sound like mature people. You definitely have an extremely mature wife, and to some extent that may be why she no longer sees you two as compatible. I do hope that you both remain great friends and find each other to confide in when having difficult times. You can move on feeling better about yourselves and understanding that it was not meant to be. You love this woman a lot, it sounds. But some things in our lives are external forces and beyond our control. You will find someone great who reciprocates your feeling and appreciates you much. It will never be the same as your first, but it will be with a deeper understanding and a higher level of appreciation.
You never know what's in stock for you. Best of luck, Zmatrix!