My sister is living on the streets of wilmington, delaware

[KarmaPolice]

I have no experience in family and hardcore drug use..but let me try and put myself in your shoes.


If my brother was on the street doing coke or something....ruining his life(which would never happen). First I would try and talk him into coming home. If he didnt and decided to keep doing that stupid ******, I would bring him back to the family..where he would see my mom brocken beyond all belief. At that point if he didnt turn around and fix his life..I dont know..if he totally doesnt respond to my mom I dont know if he would deserve our help...but I would probably force him to stay.

 

[Gnurb]

Originally posted by: eakers

where are your parents in all of this?

My father died awhile ago (alcohol related). My Mom is totally broken up since Julie ran away, she's been in and out of the hospital, she couldn't even file the missing person report before I flew home and did it. She lost her job last week because of this, and she really can't do anything but sleep and cry. :-(

 

[KarmaPolice]

I am no profesional...or nor do I want to be resposnible for what you do..but I think bringing her home to see your mother would be good. I dont care how ****** up I am if I ever did that to my mom I think it would wake me the ****** up..

then again..that depends on the relationship she had with your mother while growing up.

 

[d33pt]

Originally posted by: Gnurb
My sister and I were really close (age difference of 2 years), but we grew apart over the past year as she started doing these drugs and hanging out with this guy that she left with. I also moved to Boston 5 years ago to go to college, and she stayed in the PA/DE area. My options are to go to Hawaii and work on a month to month basis (they understand the situation with my sister), or move back to Newark, DE. I have been interviewing with a small R&D company there.


It is a hard choice --obviously Hawaii is great, but I really love Julie and I think she's about the only person I would consider doing this for. Yesterday I was thinking of taking the Hawaii job, today I am thinking I should move back to Delaware and try to see her every couple days, maybe volunteer at one of the Friendship or Mission houses so I can get to know the area and the people better.

I really think you need to move back to DE and take that job. Hawaii is a great opportunity, but those opportunities will come again later. You do NOT want to leave for hawaii, and then have something bad happen to your sister. That's a big regret you'll have for the rest of your life. Just do it.

 

[NuclearNed]

Perhaps you could get a counselor/minister/mediator to organize an intervention session with her, yourself, and your family - just like the "Intervention" tv show. She needs to know how concerned you and the rest of the family are with her lifestyle.

 

[eakers]

Originally posted by: Gnurb

Originally posted by: eakers

where are your parents in all of this?

My father died awhile ago (alcohol related). My Mom is totally broken up since Julie ran away, she's been in and out of the hospital, she couldn't even file the missing person report before I flew home and did it. She lost her job last week because of this, and she really can't do anything but sleep and cry. :-(

that is horrible.
Best wishes for your family. You are really good to be taking care of this.

 

[Adul]

Originally posted by: bennylong
intervation

i was thnking the same thing

 

[Metron]

Originally posted by: FallenHero

Originally posted by: potato28
I think you need to get forced therpy for her, or next time(if theres a next time) she gets arrested make sure to tell the police to hold her and wait for your call or something...

legally they can't do that.

Untrue (at least in Texas)...

You can swear out a mental health warrant to have an individual committed to a facility for psychological evaluation.

 

[rudder]

Originally posted by: FoBoT

Originally posted by: Gnurb
can I help her?

not likely

she will have to decide to get off teh drugs first, you can't help her with that

true, but there maybe deeper issues like depression, etc. If she had a lcear mind she may realize she needs helps. Obvously in her current state she feels like all is good. definetly a tough decision.

 

[altonb1]

wilmington is NOT that bad of an area. I lived in Newark for 2 years when i was 1st married (about 11 years ago) and I still travel through the area semi-regularly when we visit the inlaws in jersey. I'm not saying you should not be worried, but it is not like living on the streets of NY, LA, Philly, Baltimore, DC, etc. I'd say with the hot weather we have had the last few days, your biggest worry is that she didn't die from the heat while on a binge.

I don't know how you can get through to her, but somehow you have to get her off the streets and back to reality.

 

[Gnurb]

oh my god! she just called me from my mom's house in colora, md. She called my mom and asked if she could be picked up from Wilmington. She said that she felt like she went insane for the past 2 weeks. I'm still going there for the weekend and will work on getting her help. Thanks for the suggestions folks. I've been talking to my other sister in california and we sort of have a plan.

 

[Nocturnal]

Just like that Intervention program, if they don't want to quit what they're doing, they're not going to quit, ever. They honestly need to want to stop doing what they're doing in order to get help and get better.