My Mother Passed Away

[Amused]

She has been suffering with COPD for the past ten years as it progressed and her lung capacity was less and less. Thankfully she finally quit smoking when she was diagnosed so she lived a bit longer.

4 weeks ago she broke her hip. The recovery was just too much for her and the progression of COPD was accelerated to the point that in the end, she could not live without a mask forcing air into her with great pain. She opted to have the mask removed, but waited for all her family to get there first. We spent the early afternoon saying our goodbyes and sharing happy memories.

They removed the mask and she slipped into a coma within 15 minutes. We waited over the next 5 hours as her brain slowly died. At 8, the brain stem gave out and her heart stopped as my sister and I held her tight. We were able to make it peaceful by using a PCR to give her tiny doses of morphine every 15 minutes over the 5 hours.

50 years of smoking has broken the hearts of 5 children and 9 grandchildren. To watch such a sweet and gentle woman suffocate to death for so many years has been far too much for many of us to bear.

The mornings are the worst; I wake blissfully until I remember and the pain washes over me as if it just happened again.

Goodbye, mama. You were my anchor. The rock that I clung to. The one person I could turn to when no one else would care or understand.

Now, smoking has taken my rock away. It has deprived me of my anchor and all I have to cling to are memories and a shattered heart.

Jeanne Gates - August 7, 1930 - October 17, 2008
You will live forever in our hearts.

 

[sjwaste]

Sorry for your loss. I've been through it, and I know it's hard. Eventually things look better again.

 

[huberm]

I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.

 

[K1052]

Sorry to hear that Amused.

 

[kranky]

My sincere condolences to you and your family, Amused. It's clear you loved your mom very much. I'm very sorry for your loss.

 

[SearchMaster]

I'm very sorry for your loss, Amused. My mom was about 15 years younger than yours when she passed a few years ago and I feel the same way about her that you feel about your mother.

 

[cKGunslinger]

My condolences.

Not too use this as a platform, but I hope others who smoke take a moment to reflect on their actions and those they may potentially leave behind a bit too early.

 

[MegaVovaN]

Sorry about your loss. Another reminder about smoking here.

 

[Linflas]

So very sorry for your loss.

 

[MmmSkyscraper]

Sorry for your loss :beer:

 

[dguy6789]

 

[mcvickj]

Sorry for your loss.

 

[skyking]

I am so sorry for your loss. My sincerest condolences to you and your family

My mom has done much the same, and lives in constant pain because of it. Your pain and loss are very real to me

 

[DnetMHZ]

 

[MyThirdEye]

Smoking took my grandpa two and a half years ago.

Sorry for your loss.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Amused
She has been suffering with COPD for the past ten years as it progressed and her lung capacity was less and less. Thankfully she finally quit smoking when she was diagnosed so she lived a bit longer.

4 weeks ago she broke her hip. The recovery was just too much for her and the progression of COPD was accelerated to the point that in the end, she could not live without a mask forcing air into her with great pain. She opted to have the mask removed, but waited for all her family to get there first. We spent the early afternoon saying our goodbyes and sharing happy memories.

They removed the mask and she slipped into a coma within 15 minutes. We waited over the next 5 hours as her brain slowly died. At 8, the brain stem gave out and her heart stopped as my sister and I held her tight. We were able to make it peaceful by using a PCR to give her tiny doses of morphine every 15 minutes over the 5 hours.

50 years of smoking has broken the hearts of 5 children and 9 grandchildren. To watch such a sweet and gentle woman suffocate to death for so many years has been far too much for many of us to bear.

The mornings are the worst; I wake blissfully until I remember and the pain washes over me as if it just happened again.

Goodbye, mama. You were my anchor. The rock that I clung to. The one person I could turn to when no one else would care or understand.

Now, smoking has taken my rock away. It has deprived me of my anchor and all I have to cling to are memories and a shattered heart.

Jeanne Gates - August 7, 1930 - October 17, 2008
You will live forever in our hearts.

:`(

I fear my mother going the same way.

How wonderful for your mother to be surrounded by her children upon death. She was able to feel the strength of your love for her and take it with her.

Go do good things in her memory Amused. It will help ease the pain.

 

[mrSHEiK124]

 

[BoomerD]

My deepest condolences to you and your family.

From personal experience, it SUCKS when you lose your parents and YOU become the "elder" of the family...the one everyone turns to.

 

[PrinceofWands]

My condolences to you and yours. I was 18 when cancer, likely from smoking, took my mom.

 

[rasczak]

Originally posted by: Amused
She has been suffering with COPD for the past ten years as it progressed and her lung capacity was less and less. Thankfully she finally quit smoking when she was diagnosed so she lived a bit longer.

4 weeks ago she broke her hip. The recovery was just too much for her and the progression of COPD was accelerated to the point that in the end, she could not live without a mask forcing air into her with great pain. She opted to have the mask removed, but waited for all her family to get there first. We spent the early afternoon saying our goodbyes and sharing happy memories.

They removed the mask and she slipped into a coma within 15 minutes. We waited over the next 5 hours as her brain slowly died. At 8, the brain stem gave out and her heart stopped as my sister and I held her tight. We were able to make it peaceful by using a PCR to give her tiny doses of morphine every 15 minutes over the 5 hours.

50 years of smoking has broken the hearts of 5 children and 9 grandchildren. To watch such a sweet and gentle woman suffocate to death for so many years has been far too much for many of us to bear.

The mornings are the worst; I wake blissfully until I remember and the pain washes over me as if it just happened again.

Goodbye, mama. You were my anchor. The rock that I clung to. The one person I could turn to when no one else would care or understand.

Now, smoking has taken my rock away. It has deprived me of my anchor and all I have to cling to are memories and a shattered heart.

Jeanne Gates - August 7, 1930 - October 17, 2008
You will live forever in our hearts.

My deepest condolences. I know what is like to lose your mother. It feels like the glue that kept you grounded was washed away and you're floating uncontrollably in a sea of tears and sadness.

 

[BrokenVisage]

Sorry to hear that man. RIP

 

[TechBoyJK]

heaven is better than real life anyway. It's like a vivid dream you never have to wake up from. my condolensces, but I know she's still concious in another state. she's gone from the earth, but thats all.

 

[RKS]

I'm sorry for your loss.

While my parents are in relative good health they are getting on in years. This can help remind us to enjoy our families and good health. I'm no longer a spring chicken and this motivates me to make sure I take care of myself so I can be there for my children.

 

[Iron Woode]

 

[amdhunter]