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My mom's an effin old-school-chinese-who-can't-stop-discriminating

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erikiksaz

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First, it was my brother's girlfriend. She's taiwanese. My mom called her a slut, a hoe, a good-for-nothing XXX, even yelled at her parents. About a year later, she calms down, learns that my bro's gf is not a slut. BUT, initially she thought that all young girls were, and this has not changed.

Second, it was my sister's husband. He's caucasion. My mom called him and his whole nationality money grubbing "BAC GUIY" which means "white devil." She also thought he was going to marry her, steal her money, and leave her. Needless to say, she loves him now. He's not a money grubbing white devil to her anymore. BUT, what she initially thought has not changed.

To her, those two people are just exceptions to her rule. Her rules:

1) all teenage girls are whores
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2) all other nationalities besides chinese are evil, and have tried to hurt us chinese people in one way or another
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I have teenage girl cousins, plenty of them. "Mom, why isn't cousin Lucy a whore?" I ask. No reply. "Why wasn't Chris (my older sister) a whore?" No reply. And with her being extremely hardheaded, what can i possibly do to get through to her? She never thinks she's wrong, even when you shove the truth down her throat with a large helping of evidence.

What can i do? I have a korean girlfriend now, and she thinks all korean people are evil, and no good. I asked her what korean people did to us chinese, and she didn't say anything. Why does my mom discriminate? I hate her for this. Does she never learn from past experiences? Is there ANY POSSIBLE FSKING WAY I CAN SHOW/TEACH HER?

 
Originally posted by: erikiksaz
First, it was my brother's girlfriend. She's taiwanese. My mom called her a slut, a hoe, a good-for-nothing XXX, even yelled at her parents. About a year later, she calms down, learns that my bro's gf is not a slut. BUT, initially she thought that all young girls were, and this has not changed.

Second, it was my sister's husband. He's caucasion. My mom called him and his whole nationality money grubbing "BAC GUIY" which means "white devil." She also thought he was going to marry her, steal her money, and leave her. Needless to say, she loves him now. He's not a money grubbing white devil to her anymore. BUT, what she initially thought has not changed.

To her, those two people are just exceptions to her rule. Her rules:

1) all teenage girls are whores
rolleye.gif

2) all other nationalities besides chinese are evil, and have tried to hurt us chinese people in one way or another
rolleye.gif


I have teenage girl cousins, plenty of them. "Mom, why isn't cousin Lucy a whore?" I ask. No reply. "Why wasn't Chris (my older sister) a whore?" No reply. And with her being extremely hardheaded, what can i possibly do to get through to her? She never thinks she's wrong, even when you shove the truth down her throat with a large helping of evidence.

What can i do? I have a korean girlfriend now, and she thinks all korean people are evil, and no good. I asked her what korean people did to us chinese, and she didn't say anything. Why does my mom discriminate? I hate her for this. Does she never learn from past experiences? Is there ANY POSSIBLE FSKING WAY I CAN SHOW/TEACH HER?
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man that sucks.
 
erik, sounds like the typical hardcore traditional chinese parent to me. my parents believe eating american food makes you sick. they say i'm asian so i should eat asian food. don't waste your energy buddy. as hard as it may seem, it is possible to learn to ignore them.
 
I feel you, man. The only thing I can tell you is that old school Chinese women are all hard-headed and stubborn. You can't reason with them about anything because they're always right.
 
just ignore it and go about your own thing...that's what i did with my parents...plus i never tell them anything about my relationships...
but i used to hear all this shiet all the time...cantonese this, taiwanese that, vietnamese this, white ppl are..., black ppl are..., blah blah blah....i have friends of all different races and i tell them straight up that they're wrong and that's the end of it...cuz i'm still gonna do what i wanna do regardless of what they say...and they've learned to accept that...took some time...but what can they do...its as tho they don't trust your judgement of ppl and wanna keep you sheltered....or maybe just keep you from leaving the family....
 
Originally posted by: FatAlbo
I feel you, man. The only thing I can tell you is that old school Chinese women are all hard-headed and stubborn. You can't reason with them about anything because they're always right.
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I've tried arguing with both my parents all my life. Hasn't gotten me anywhere accept into arguments about how right their ways were because they were my parents. I feel for you man. My girlfriend's Vietnamese and my parents didn't take kindly to her in the beginning but after 2 years, I guess they finally warmed up later. I think they'd kill me if I ever brought home a Japanese girlfriend, which I ought to dooooo... 😀

I hope it gets better man, I can totally relate.
 
doesn't sound like you'll get much accomplished arguing with your mom.. from what you say, give it time and your mom will start to warm up to your girlfriend..
 
My grandmother and my parents were like that. (Except with them, black people could never be trusted, then white people slightly more trustworthy, followed by asian people in general, but vietnamese people of course were the most trusthworthy. Further, the same degrees applied to how "good" children were, ie: vietnamese children best, everyone else, worse).

My parents eventually learned. My uncle (same side of family as my mother and this grandmother) was never like that. They all came here in 1976.

My grandmother is still trapped in the old world though.

My grandmother is 72, I think it's far too late for her ideas about people to change. Sometimes I think she might turn around because in all the years she's lived here, she's finally seen that vietnamese people can screw up REALLY bad and that their kids are not simply the best as she thought. It seemed like she was changing her ways, but doesn't hesitate to state many of her old beliefs as fact.

It was pretty damn absurd. She would promise (threaten from my perspective) to take me back to Vietnam to find me a wife. What a load of malarkey. That's the kind of discrimination she had against non-vietnamese folk. Thank god it's a idle threat to me.

Oh, the worse part to is that she is a devout catholic. Fairly good for the most part, but contradicts herself enough in my eyes to make a poor impression.

How old is your mother? How long has she been this way?

BTW, I take you haven't sustained too much damage, still allright with chinese girls? If you are, then you're lucky. I've gone through all of my life with severe distaste for *all* east asian females and the Roman Catholic church. You can bet at least a small part of it is still due to spite.
 
Originally posted by: ChineseSkaterNoRice
I am NOT going to date a chinese girl ... EVAR ... 😀

[edit] they remind me too much of my mom 😕
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And I thought I was the only one with this mentality.
 
my parents are sometimes likt that too. hardheaded and never think of other possible reasons for why certain things happens. :disgust: piss me off!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
she's just nutz.


the old chinese people i know call white people gwai low too, but its sorta a joke🙂

never heard that whore bit, maybe its just her😛
 
I've come to the conclusion that Chinese are the most racist people on the face of this earth (and I'm Chinese). Not only do they distrust other races, but northern chinese dont like southern chinese, people in HK disdain people from the mainland, ABC's make fun of FOB's, etc...

I think it mostly comes from the Chinese belief that they were the center of the universe for the past 5,000 years. This arrogance has bred a disdain for all other cultures.

Your best bet is to develop a thick skin and not let her ignorance get to you. There is nothing that you can do or prove to your mom to change her mind. Its just too engrained in her. Sorry, but no amount of reason helps....

and notfred that was totally innappropriate, you make me sick
 
racism erodes with each generation, yes it still exists in america, but is quickly disenagrating and is far less than what it was 20, 40, 100 years ago
 
ask ur mom if she likes the commies in china, cuz their economy is way behind
or is she only thinking of taiwan only

and dont worry about the whole superiority thing, just remind her of the aliens above us making fun of us and deciding on how to divy up our planet
 
anywho, just thought i put in my .02...asian parents suck just keep on keepin on...my parents have some screwed up views, i just ignore em...once i brought home a dominican and she was like "whats that black guy doing in my house?" apparently she doesn't like black people...and then i told her he was dominican and she was apparently fine w/ that...weird...

how come im not offended when people use the word beloved patriot? surprised...but not offended...is there something wrong w/ me? btw, im chinese..
 
The wonderful thing about the melting pot America is is that these things tend to take care of themselves in a generation or 2. You have white, blacks, asians, hispanics, gentiles, and jews all falling in love with one another, getting married, and having kids. The new grandparents in a lot of cases seem to come around when presented with their grandchildren no matter what the ethnic background. If they don't then it really is their loss.
 
Originally posted by: gopunk
Originally posted by: ChineseSkaterNoRice
I am NOT going to date a chinese girl ... EVAR ... 😀

[edit] they remind me too much of my mom 😕
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but that's what's so great about them
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😕!



just tell your mom that she is a sell out for giving you american names. then flash a gang sign at her and yell Azn prid3 4eva!
 
just so you know i get the same thing from my family, my mom knows better then to be openly racist but ive gotten the "no racial dilution speech from some of my aunts" so i flashed a gang sign at her and yelled "eastside till i die!"
 
and here my parents would be happy if i had any girlfriend, white, black, asian, jewish, latina, short, tall, catholic, protestant, hindu, animist, whatever.

<---- needs a GF.
 
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