My girlfriend got a call yesterday from her exboyfriend's girlfriend. She called my girlfriend and told her that her boyfriend (who is my girlfriend's ex) just got arrested and now locked up in jail. She was crying and venting off my girlfriend that she doesn't know what to do. They have a apartment together, a car shop, and a car to pay for and she is still in school not knowing how to pay for all this with her boyfriend in jail.
My girlfriend feels sorry for the couple and decided to talk to me about it and wants to help them out. The car that they have is under my girlfriends name...how that happen is another story. My girlfriend is thinking of buying the car back at least that'll take care some of their burden.
I'm sitting there listening to this bullsh*t asking her why does she want to help them so much?! This is not our problem and we don't even know why he is in jail. If anything this guy probably deserves to be locked up. But despite that my girlfriend thinks she should be a "good person" to take initiative to assist in their needs. She calls me selfish and all I think for is myself. This guy is in his 30s as we are still only 25-26. They can be playing my girlfriend for all I know.
I trust my girlfriend completely and she does have a giving heart. But to me there are too many unanswered questions that don't make sense to me. She claims that he was arrested for something he did back when he was a teen and now it caught up to him.
So I got in this big argument with her last night and I was so furious and left the house and got a hotel room and spent the night.
Am I over reacting??? Am I really being selfish??
Cliffnote
My girlfriend got a call from exboyfriend's girlfriend
exboyfriend's girlfriend told my girlfriend that he is locked up
my girlfriend feels sorry and wants to help
I get pissed off because I don't know know why she should help
I left the house and stayed at a motel
Am I over reacting
Update **
Spoke to my girlfriend last night. I tried to be calm as possible. I apologized to her about taking off to blow off steam and shes actually going through a tough time lossing her job so being a good boyfriend I try to understand her current situation over all this delimma.
I asked her why couldn't she had taken care of the car issue long time ago. I suggest why couldn't you transfer the car's name to his girlfriend's name. She gave me some bullsh*t answer " it just is, thats the fact and I can't do anything about this." Then I asked her WHY?? She says they don't have the money to pay off the car ($14,500 more to go) to get the name transfered. Call me ignorant but is that true? For one to transfer the registeration under someone's name the car must be pay off first? I do not know the procedures can someone explain?
As to why the ex in jail is still fishy to me. The reason why this person is in jail is because of something he did in the past that caught up to him now. The court contacted him for paper work that he never responded to and now he is paying for the consequences. He is not just locked up but getting deported. This guy did time in the past for 7 years which I knew nothing about and my girlfriend claims she told me (which is more bullsh*t).
What I learned, in a relationship as the man just got to suck it up and be supportive and trusting. Even despite the fact that this isn't fair for me to be in this position. All that because I do love her.
Update #2**
Just yesterday I got home from work I spoke with my girlfriend. And she decided to go see this exboyfriend in jail with the current girlfriend this Sunday. We had plans to go to San Deigo to get away for the weekend and she is canceling it for this. On top of that she expect me to be understanding. Yesterday my girlfriend went to see the current girlfriend and kinda hung out, it was thier first time meeting. The current girlfriend is thinking of moving out of the country with the ex. Her parents does not approve and is going to get a divorce if she does decide to move out of country with this guy (thats her problem). My girlfriend said she will regret for the rest of her life if she doesn't do this (I still don't really understand). I foresee a breakup coming soon or am I still over reacting?
My girlfriend feels sorry for the couple and decided to talk to me about it and wants to help them out. The car that they have is under my girlfriends name...how that happen is another story. My girlfriend is thinking of buying the car back at least that'll take care some of their burden.
I'm sitting there listening to this bullsh*t asking her why does she want to help them so much?! This is not our problem and we don't even know why he is in jail. If anything this guy probably deserves to be locked up. But despite that my girlfriend thinks she should be a "good person" to take initiative to assist in their needs. She calls me selfish and all I think for is myself. This guy is in his 30s as we are still only 25-26. They can be playing my girlfriend for all I know.
I trust my girlfriend completely and she does have a giving heart. But to me there are too many unanswered questions that don't make sense to me. She claims that he was arrested for something he did back when he was a teen and now it caught up to him.
So I got in this big argument with her last night and I was so furious and left the house and got a hotel room and spent the night.
Am I over reacting??? Am I really being selfish??
Cliffnote
My girlfriend got a call from exboyfriend's girlfriend
exboyfriend's girlfriend told my girlfriend that he is locked up
my girlfriend feels sorry and wants to help
I get pissed off because I don't know know why she should help
I left the house and stayed at a motel
Am I over reacting
Update **
Spoke to my girlfriend last night. I tried to be calm as possible. I apologized to her about taking off to blow off steam and shes actually going through a tough time lossing her job so being a good boyfriend I try to understand her current situation over all this delimma.
I asked her why couldn't she had taken care of the car issue long time ago. I suggest why couldn't you transfer the car's name to his girlfriend's name. She gave me some bullsh*t answer " it just is, thats the fact and I can't do anything about this." Then I asked her WHY?? She says they don't have the money to pay off the car ($14,500 more to go) to get the name transfered. Call me ignorant but is that true? For one to transfer the registeration under someone's name the car must be pay off first? I do not know the procedures can someone explain?
As to why the ex in jail is still fishy to me. The reason why this person is in jail is because of something he did in the past that caught up to him now. The court contacted him for paper work that he never responded to and now he is paying for the consequences. He is not just locked up but getting deported. This guy did time in the past for 7 years which I knew nothing about and my girlfriend claims she told me (which is more bullsh*t).
What I learned, in a relationship as the man just got to suck it up and be supportive and trusting. Even despite the fact that this isn't fair for me to be in this position. All that because I do love her.
Update #2**
Just yesterday I got home from work I spoke with my girlfriend. And she decided to go see this exboyfriend in jail with the current girlfriend this Sunday. We had plans to go to San Deigo to get away for the weekend and she is canceling it for this. On top of that she expect me to be understanding. Yesterday my girlfriend went to see the current girlfriend and kinda hung out, it was thier first time meeting. The current girlfriend is thinking of moving out of the country with the ex. Her parents does not approve and is going to get a divorce if she does decide to move out of country with this guy (thats her problem). My girlfriend said she will regret for the rest of her life if she doesn't do this (I still don't really understand). I foresee a breakup coming soon or am I still over reacting?
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