My gf and I just broke up....

[BCYL]

Originally posted by: SnapIT

Originally posted by: Wduaqnug
I think your fault. Making her wait 7years without commitment now too late

I think some of you have a screwy view on relationships and marriage, who says that you cannot have commitment in a relationship without being married?

I was in a relationship with a woman for seven years before i got married, the marriage lasted six months, so much for commitment... Lol...

It's not the ring on the finger, it's the feelings inside that makes you commit to someone...

Thank you... That's exactly how me and my gf felt... The marriage is just a formality...

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: BCYL
It's not like we never talked about getting married... we talked about it before, and I told her my plan... She agreed it would be a good idea... In my culture, parents dont pay for weddings... We have to pay for everything, so it's not like we can get married just like that...

So we know we are getting married someday, I just havent formally proposed yet...

Lately I have been thinking about getting an engagement ring and make the proposal... then this thing happened...

And if you had gotten married this would not be a break-up, it would be a divorce, marriage really does not change how you feel inside....

 

[lilFajita]

i don't think you were being unreasonable in waiting...its not like you could have married her in high school.

i'm so sorry, though. maybe you guys need to experience some other things, so you can really appreciate each other. go out and lve life, do the things you never did cause you had a girlfriend, and maybe time will bring you guys together again.

best of luck

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: BCYL

Originally posted by: SnapIT

Originally posted by: Wduaqnug
I think your fault. Making her wait 7years without commitment now too late

I think some of you have a screwy view on relationships and marriage, who says that you cannot have commitment in a relationship without being married?

I was in a relationship with a woman for seven years before i got married, the marriage lasted six months, so much for commitment... Lol...

It's not the ring on the finger, it's the feelings inside that makes you commit to someone...

Thank you... That's exactly how me and my gf felt... The marriage is just a formality...

Then you realize why it had to end also, the feelings faded away...

MichaelID is right about the "live a little" thing, you have a chance to do that now, and eventually your memory of your gf will fade into something that makes you smile instead of feeling sad that it's over...

 

[dethman]

join the club. sounds like what happened to me.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: dethman
join the club. sounds like what happened to me.

And to me as well..

 

[Mustangrrl]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: dethman
join the club. sounds like what happened to me.

And to me as well..

And it's what happened with me and my ex. But now he's married to a girl who seems to be perfect for him, and it's nice to see him so happy - I had lost feelings for him because he was so negative all the time, but he's a totally different person now, and now I can enjoy his friendship (because he really is a good friend).
You're young dear, have some fun, you'll find the right girl someday who will love you and make you happy.
~robyn

 

[ScrapSilicon]

Originally posted by: Mustangrrl

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: dethman
join the club. sounds like what happened to me.

And to me as well..

And it's what happened with me and my ex. But now he's married to a girl who seems to be perfect for him, and it's nice to see him so happy - I had lost feelings for him because he was so negative all the time, but he's a totally different person now, and now I can enjoy his friendship (because he really is a good friend).
You're young dear, have some fun, you'll find the right girl someday who will love you and make you happy.
~robyn

ten

 

[Sid59]

happened to me and 5.5 years .. just wasn't there anymore.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Oh god please don't tell me this now...

 

[Geekbabe]

Happened to me after almost 12 yrs(the last 3 of which were pretty strained) I felt at first so numb that I don't know how I functioned... but time heals and brings with it new and better relationships.I have somebody wonderful now whom I love dearly

 

[Soybomb]

I can't imagine how hard that is man, after a little over 2 years it was hard and I still miss her alot. Go out with your friends and stay busy.

 

[LeStEr]

Originally posted by: acidvoodoo
sorry bout that

 

[XZeroII]

WOOHOO!!! What's her name and number???

 

[jjones]

Words of advice: Go get laid, you'll forget all about her soon enough.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: XZeroII
WOOHOO!!! What's her name and number???

Completely insensative!!


(but still funny )

 

[LOLyourFace]

the time has come to revenge.

you know damn well what to do.

post scandalous pics of her all over the net. :Q

 

[kuk]

Originally posted by: LOLyourFace
the time has come to revenge.

you know damn well what to do.

post scandalous pics of her all over the net. :Q

ATOT will suffice!

 

[SCSIfreek]

I'm guessing things got very regular/not excited/boring between the two of you. I'm sorry that it had to end this way but try going out and talking it out with friends. Get support from your buddies and family .

Good luck

--Scsi

 

[BCYL]

Originally posted by: SCSIfreek
I'm guessing things got very regular/not excited/boring between the two of you. I'm sorry that it had to end this way but try going out and talking it out with friends. Get support from your buddies and family .

Good luck

--Scsi

yeah that was what happened... The problem was, I like things being regular, and at first she did too... after a while she got bored... I tried to work it out and do more exciting things, but she said the feeling is just not there anymore...

 

[Rudee]

When two people have been intimate, the "friend" thing after a breakup rarely works. I advise you to let her out of your life for good and move on. Every person I know who has ended a intimate relationship and attempted to remain friends has encountered nothing but years of jealousy, hurt feelings and resentment. Move on and don't look back or it's going to be very painful for you in the future.

Consider a good woman as a luxury not a necessity. Get on with your life and enjoy other more important things.

 

[shiner]

I know you are hurting now but here's some advice.....you should never ever marry the first person you fvck. Just doesn't work.....get out there and get some more experiences under your belt before you start thinking marriage. I shudder to think of going through life having only had 1 piece of....well you know....all my life.

 

[B00ne]

I am sorry for u dude - it will take a while...

Originally posted by: Grasshopper27

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
Go ahead and propose to her. This could be her way of telling you that she wants you to step up to the plate and bat.

That will either work, or it will be a disaster!

7 years is a LONG time to be together without a ring on her finger. Most women seem to be willing to wait 3 or 4 years, 7 is a lot.

Of course, Thumper got me after 9 months, so go figure.

Hopper

Omg is it really like that in the states? Then the low marriage and child birth ages that I always hear and see(TV) dont puzzle me anymore...

 

[Centaur6]

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
Go ahead and propose to her. This could be her way of telling you that she wants you to step up to the plate and bat.

Proof positive that you should never EVER seek relationship advice on these boards.

Seriously though, i'm really sorry to hear that man.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Centaur6

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
Go ahead and propose to her. This could be her way of telling you that she wants you to step up to the plate and bat.

Proof positive that you should never EVER seek relationship advice on these boards.

Seriously though, i'm really sorry to hear that man.

that's very true! by the time I'd ended my long term relationship it had been dead in the water several years since I'd decided I didn't want to marry him,no matter what he said or did.