My gf and I just broke up....

[BCYL]

We have been together for more than 7 years... I truely thought she was the one... I even started saving for our wedding, and planned to marry her in around 3 years or so...

But she said last week she doesnt have "those" feelings for me anymore... Right now she just sees me as a good friend... She doesnt know if those feelings will come back or not, but right now she doesnt wanna be with me... We tried to work it out this past week, but today she said it's not working, so we officially broke up on peaceful terms...

We still care a lot for each other, and will still be very good friends...

I dont know how to feel... I can't even remember my life without her... She has always been a very big part of my life, and suddenly she is gone... I would like to think someday we can be together again, but I also dont wanna give myself any false hope...

 

[acidvoodoo]

sorry bout that

 

[conjur]

mmm...sorry to hear. That's a long relationship and it will hurt for some time. Just don't go drinking yourself into a stupor and doing something stupid like stalking her and calling her non-stop

 

[ElFenix]

jeez 7 years and you hadn't put a ring on her finger yet? most people figure out if they're going to get married or not after 3 :Q

 

[zCypher]

damn :Q

SORRY to hear that, man.. that really sucks, I can hardly imagine...

Don't let yourself get down. Most important thing : keep yourself busy!

 

[Scarpozzi]

Go ahead and propose to her. This could be her way of telling you that she wants you to step up to the plate and bat.

 

[ScrapSilicon]

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
Go ahead and propose to her. This could be her way of telling you that she wants you to step up to the plate and bat.

sounds reasonable....uh...g/f pics..?

 

[Grasshopper27]

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
Go ahead and propose to her. This could be her way of telling you that she wants you to step up to the plate and bat.

That will either work, or it will be a disaster!

7 years is a LONG time to be together without a ring on her finger. Most women seem to be willing to wait 3 or 4 years, 7 is a lot.

Of course, Thumper got me after 9 months, so go figure.

Hopper

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
Go ahead and propose to her. This could be her way of telling you that she wants you to step up to the plate and bat.

Interesting idea, but not necessarily a good one. What if the feelings really aren't there, but she says yes anyway? If there's no spark, there's no spark.

 

[SlowSS]

Sorry to hear that...Maybe she just need bit of space to ensure she is doing the right thing, after all, it is a big commitment.

Stay busy and think positive.

 

[EvilYoda]

man, that really sucks....7 years, yeesh. I broke up with my g/f of 3 years 3 months ago, and I know how I'm feeling...just don't sit around and "think" too much...I wasted so much time, but finally realized that I needed to occupy myself with other things, and I'm just now starting to get over her.

Best of luck, hopefully everything will work out how you want them to.

 

[Peetoeng]

Originally posted by: ElFenix
jeez 7 years and you hadn't put a ring on her finger yet? most people figure out if they're going to get married or not after 3 :Q

Perhaps, they started dating when they were 13 years old?

 

[ElFenix]

Originally posted by: Peetoeng

Originally posted by: ElFenix
jeez 7 years and you hadn't put a ring on her finger yet? most people figure out if they're going to get married or not after 3 :Q

Perhaps, they started dating when they were 13 years old?

that is true, in which case it probably wouldn't work out anyway.

 

[BCYL]

I dont think I will propose to her... I dont wanna marry someone who has no special feelings for me and only sees me as a good friend... And she made it clear she would not say yes even if I propose...

I know 7 years is a long time... But we are both in our early 20's only... we met in high school, and have been together from high school all through college...

I was planning to save for a couple of more years, so I can have enough savings to give her the dream wedding... Then get a nice little place of our own without much of a mortgage on our backs...

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: Peetoeng

Originally posted by: ElFenix
jeez 7 years and you hadn't put a ring on her finger yet? most people figure out if they're going to get married or not after 3 :Q

Perhaps, they started dating when they were 13 years old?

Thinking the same thing. Probably HS sweethearts and they've never dated anyone else. Trust me, BCYL, you dont' want to marry someone without living a little first. You will hurt for awhile...and then you will start dating again, and Hillary Heartbreaking Harpie will be fond, but distant memory.

 

[Wduaqnug]

I think your fault. Making her wait 7years without commitment now too late

 

[RbSX]

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
Go ahead and propose to her. This could be her way of telling you that she wants you to step up to the plate and bat.

I agree, 7 years without even going to the plate is a giant load of bs to me.

 

[RbSX]

Originally posted by: Grasshopper27

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
Go ahead and propose to her. This could be her way of telling you that she wants you to step up to the plate and bat.

That will either work, or it will be a disaster!

7 years is a LONG time to be together without a ring on her finger. Most women seem to be willing to wait 3 or 4 years, 7 is a lot.

Of course, Thumper got me after 9 months, so go figure.

Hopper

But that was also with weird circumstances... wasn't it?

 

[Grasshopper27]

Originally posted by: RyanSengara

Originally posted by: Grasshopper27Of course, Thumper got me after 9 months, so go figure.

Hopper

But that was also with weird circumstances... wasn't it?

Umm, no, honest, it wasn't!

Err, umm, I mean... I asked her to marry me, yea, that's it, that's my story! It was my idea darn it!

Hopper

 

[joshs2345]

can I get her phone #?

 

[RbSX]

Originally posted by: Grasshopper27

Originally posted by: RyanSengara

Originally posted by: Grasshopper27Of course, Thumper got me after 9 months, so go figure.

Hopper

But that was also with weird circumstances... wasn't it?

Umm, no, honest, it wasn't!

Err, umm, I mean... I asked her to marry me, yea, that's it, that's my story! It was my idea darn it!

Hopper

 

[y2kc]

she's got the 7 year itch man.... she'll go live a little (use your imagination) and she'll be back (maybe).

 

[ScrapSilicon]

Originally posted by: BCYL
I dont think I will propose to her... I dont wanna marry someone who has no special feelings for me and only sees me as a good friend... And she made it clear she would not say yes even if I propose...

I know 7 years is a long time... But we are both in our early 20's only... we met in high school, and have been together from high school all through college...

I was planning to save for a couple of more years, so I can have enough savings to give her the dream wedding... Then get a nice little place of our own without much of a mortgage on our backs...

oh...go out find a new g/f(sheez ..thought you were older..

)and where's da former g/f pics..?

 

[BCYL]

It's not like we never talked about getting married... we talked about it before, and I told her my plan... She agreed it would be a good idea... In my culture, parents dont pay for weddings... We have to pay for everything, so it's not like we can get married just like that...

So we know we are getting married someday, I just havent formally proposed yet...

Lately I have been thinking about getting an engagement ring and make the proposal... then this thing happened...

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: Wduaqnug
I think your fault. Making her wait 7years without commitment now too late

I think some of you have a screwy view on relationships and marriage, who says that you cannot have commitment in a relationship without being married?

I was in a relationship with a woman for seven years before i got married, the marriage lasted six months, so much for commitment... Lol...

It's not the ring on the finger, it's the feelings inside that makes you commit to someone...