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d3n

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Give her a copy of that Dale Carnigie book, how to win friends and influence people.
 
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Originally posted by: mjuszczak
My friend is a really beautiful girl. She's smart, intelligent, and everyone likes her. And most guys drool over her.

Most people think she's cocky and unppreciative though. Some people think she is so cocky that they can't even stand her. She knows this now, and is so frustrated. She claims to have really low self-esteem, not think she's pretty at all, hate herself, etc.

Well, at first I thought it was all an attention getter. People do stuff for her, and she doesn't say thank you a lot. She says its because she wasn't brought up to show appreciation, even though she appreciates what people do for her.

For instance, today I gave her my old laptop after spending about 6 hours getting it working, and didn't get a thank you or anything. Yet an hour later, she was wondering why people think she's cocky.

Is it really and truly possible to not think you're pretty even though every guy drools over you, and also, to wonder why people think you're cocky and why they think you are unappreciative when people do so much and she never shows any thanks?

Just wondering...
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It is a love/hate relationship?
 
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homercles337

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Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: Cuda1447
She probably does have low self-esteem. Lemme guess, she's always fishing for compliments? Typical.
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Yeah basically.

She ALWAYS wants to know if she looks good. She dresses up PERFECT to where any guy would drool and then sits there and asks me 20 times if it looks OK.

That to me makes me think she's cocky.

To her its because she claims she has low self esteem.
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Let me guess, first generation asian. FTW.
 
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Is she the girl that other girls rarely like? Is she the one that all guys seem to like at first? They ignore the little things cuz she is hot. Then the realize they don't have much of a chance at getting into a relationship with her. That is when stuff starts bothering them, like she never pays for the movie, she only calls when she needs something, and she never once does anything nice for them to show appreciation?
 
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pinion9

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Originally posted by: Pablo
Your closest friends should not be females... unless youre married.
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Yes. Then all of your friends should be female and your wife shouldn't know about them, either! ;)
 
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DaShen

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Originally posted by: mjuszczak
My friend is a really beautiful girl. She's smart, intelligent, and everyone likes her. And most guys drool over her.

Most people think she's cocky and unppreciative though. Some people think she is so cocky that they can't even stand her. She knows this now, and is so frustrated. She claims to have really low self-esteem, not think she's pretty at all, hate herself, etc.

Well, at first I thought it was all an attention getter. People do stuff for her, and she doesn't say thank you a lot. She says its because she wasn't brought up to show appreciation, even though she appreciates what people do for her.

For instance, today I gave her my old laptop after spending about 6 hours getting it working, and didn't get a thank you or anything. Yet an hour later, she was wondering why people think she's cocky.

Is it really and truly possible to not think you're pretty even though every guy drools over you, and also, to wonder why people think you're cocky and why they think you are unappreciative when people do so much and she never shows any thanks?

Just wondering...
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Yes, it is true.

People who are insecure in themselves tend to react in extremes. Some will boast about their talents..., others will self debase themselves. Many, will do both, but will show only one side to different people. Most people are insecure and they do this in different ways, but only some people realize it.

I go through this myself. I take a lot of pride in being smarter than many people and reading a whole bunch of stupid facts. I don't go around bragging all the time (I do it much less than when I was a kid), but it comes out in some of the things I say. I will try to say something funny, and it will come out only as arrogant. The trick is to admit this to yourself (and to people you have hurt) and try to change. The better person you become, the less you will have to rely on telling people how great or how not so great you are, and just be yourself.
 
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manlymatt83

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Originally posted by: jjsole
Typical Victim Syndrome. Selfish, and can't take responsibility for herself.

Probably not too many close girlfriends, and has to resort to friends with guys who think she's attractive, like you. ;)
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COMPLETELY true

She doesn't get along with any girls
 
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Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Women who are very good-looking often do not have incentive to develop a nice personality, given that guys will drool over them and give them free laptops and whatnot anyway.
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haha
 
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Originally posted by: Cuda1447
She probably does have low self-esteem. Lemme guess, she's always fishing for compliments? Typical.
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Yep. Typical girl anyway. I'm guessing it's mostly girls who dislike her? Not much you can do about the caddy BS that girls put each other through. You might try to teach her the basics of good manners and being polite though.
 
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Chryso

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Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Well, at first I thought it was all an attention getter. People do stuff for her, and she doesn't say thank you a lot. She says its because she wasn't brought up to show appreciation, even though she appreciates what people do for her.
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Tell her to learn to show appreciation.
 
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Goosemaster

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Only logical course of action here is to use her like she uses people, and clean up afte ryou are done.

Then dissapear into the night.
 
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Originally posted by: mjuszczak
My friend is a really beautiful girl. She's smart, intelligent, and everyone likes her. And most guys drool over her.

Most people think she's cocky and unppreciative though. Some people think she is so cocky that they can't even stand her. She knows this now, and is so frustrated. She claims to have really low self-esteem, not think she's pretty at all, hate herself, etc.

Well, at first I thought it was all an attention getter. People do stuff for her, and she doesn't say thank you a lot. She says its because she wasn't brought up to show appreciation, even though she appreciates what people do for her.

For instance, today I gave her my old laptop after spending about 6 hours getting it working, and didn't get a thank you or anything. Yet an hour later, she was wondering why people think she's cocky.

Is it really and truly possible to not think you're pretty even though every guy drools over you, and also, to wonder why people think you're cocky and why they think you are unappreciative when people do so much and she never shows any thanks?

Just wondering...
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i think shes an attention whore. i can tell from the way your describing her.

 
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Zap Brannigan

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Originally posted by: batmang
Originally posted by: mjuszczak
My friend is a really beautiful girl. She's smart, intelligent, and everyone likes her. And most guys drool over her.

Most people think she's cocky and unppreciative though. Some people think she is so cocky that they can't even stand her. She knows this now, and is so frustrated. She claims to have really low self-esteem, not think she's pretty at all, hate herself, etc.

Well, at first I thought it was all an attention getter. People do stuff for her, and she doesn't say thank you a lot. She says its because she wasn't brought up to show appreciation, even though she appreciates what people do for her.

For instance, today I gave her my old laptop after spending about 6 hours getting it working, and didn't get a thank you or anything. Yet an hour later, she was wondering why people think she's cocky.

Is it really and truly possible to not think you're pretty even though every guy drools over you, and also, to wonder why people think you're cocky and why they think you are unappreciative when people do so much and she never shows any thanks?

Just wondering...
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i think shes an attention whore. i can tell from the way your describing her.
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More like attention junkie and thats just one of her many problems.......lol

You can't help people like that and she will burn you if given the chance.

Back away from the nutjob.........lol
 
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TheCanuck

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1) Tell her you think she's getting fat to lower her self esteem
2) Console her and then hit it.
3) Afterwards tell her she's not quite in your league.
4) Lather, rinse, repeat=winnar!
 
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