My friend wants to know why everyone hates her

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SophalotJack

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Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: Cuda1447
She probably does have low self-esteem. Lemme guess, she's always fishing for compliments? Typical.


Yeah basically.

She ALWAYS wants to know if she looks good. She dresses up PERFECT to where any guy would drool and then sits there and asks me 20 times if it looks OK.

That to me makes me think she's cocky.

To her its because she claims she has low self esteem.

your friend is full of grade BS.

can't believe you even fall for that ******.

she is definitely smarter than you.
 

manlymatt83

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Originally posted by: CravenTacos
not to sound racist, but im just assuming she's asian?

regardless, women who are natural beauties are just so used to crap being done for them without them asking, they think it's normal when people do them favors. this is why men who are assholes to women have better luck, because they stand out in the crowd.

but if you don't call her on her $hit, then you're not really her friend. you're just trying to hit it


Already have.
 

archiloco

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teach her, say that most peopl eliked to be thanked when they have done something nice....tell her "you should say thank you now" and such...if she does not take the hint, then she's prolly never going to be normal.
 

Toasthead

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why be nice to people? She gets what she wants anyways( she DID get you to GIVE her a laptop).

She will start being nice when thats the only way she can get what she wants.

 

Miramonti

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Typical Victim Syndrome. Selfish, and can't take responsibility for herself.

Probably not too many close girlfriends, and has to resort to friends with guys who think she's attractive, like you. ;)
 

PingSpike

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She sounds like a drain and a whiny pain in the ass. Based on your description, I already don't like her.
 
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Yes, someone could be a "goddess" in the looks department yet they are very self concious and have low self esteem.

The cocky thing... well, that would annoy the hell out of me. My biggest pet peeve is people that are not greatful.

There are two different issues here. She needs to become more approachable then people will start to like her more. So what if she was brought up to not show thanks... CHANGE. Make it a point to say thank you... even for the smallest thing. It is better to say thank you too much than not enough.
 

pinion9

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Was it any good? Did she thank you at the end, or was your performance sub-par, as usual?

Seriously, she has low self esteem. Just like a house that is infested with termites, sometimes it is easier to tear it down and start new instead of repairing the damage that is done.

We need a clear plan. You need to reduce this girl to nothing. I am talking about so low that she doesn't even want to commit suicide because then people would have to clean up the mess. I am talking about a total recluse who doesn't speak unless spoken to, and generally communicates with a head nod while looking at her feet. To get her there, you need to be somewhat abusive. When she asks if she looks good, ignore her the first couple times, then tell her she looks like 10 pounds of $hit in a 5 pound bag. Get your friends to make fun of her. Start a website about how nasty she is.

Once she has hit this stage you may begin rebuilding her, slowly. Start with a good foundation. Teach her that if she does what you say, how you say, people will like her, just like an obedient dog. Teach her that she likes what you like. Tell her to put on makeup so she doesn't look like such a trashy whore. Most of all, tell her that guys like girls that put out. Try to get her in a gangbang and have all your friends be really nice to her afterwards, complimenting her, and buying her things. This is called positive reinforcement.

After some time, she will be yours, and she will be liked, because people like you.

Bitch.






Yes, I have a newsletter. ;)

 

pinion9

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Don't forget to spit on her.






OR you could just explain to her that she comes off as ungrateful and that she needs to make a conscious effort to not only say thanks to people, but to actually do things for other people. For example, she could have bought you a sammich or a smoothie for giving you the laptop.
 

postmortemIA

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Originally posted by: pinion9
Don't forget to spit on her.






OR you could just explain to her that she comes off as ungrateful and that she needs to make a conscious effort to not only say thanks to people, but to actually do things for other people. For example, she could have bought you a sammich or a smoothie for giving you the laptop.

or simply spread 'em
 

pinion9

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Originally posted by: postmortemIA
Originally posted by: pinion9
Don't forget to spit on her.






OR you could just explain to her that she comes off as ungrateful and that she needs to make a conscious effort to not only say thanks to people, but to actually do things for other people. For example, she could have bought you a sammich or a smoothie for giving you the laptop.

or simply spread 'em

Indeed. Offering to let you take the skin boat to tuna town. Unfortunately, this isn't really something she should do with everyone.

Her: Could you please hit 8?
Stranger: Sure, no problem. 8th floor it is.
Her: Want a BJ?

In that case, a simple thanks would be sufficient.