My friend wants to know why everyone hates her

[manlymatt83]

My friend is a really beautiful girl. She's smart, intelligent, and everyone likes her. And most guys drool over her.

Most people think she's cocky and unppreciative though. Some people think she is so cocky that they can't even stand her. She knows this now, and is so frustrated. She claims to have really low self-esteem, not think she's pretty at all, hate herself, etc.

Well, at first I thought it was all an attention getter. People do stuff for her, and she doesn't say thank you a lot. She says its because she wasn't brought up to show appreciation, even though she appreciates what people do for her.

For instance, today I gave her my old laptop after spending about 6 hours getting it working, and didn't get a thank you or anything. Yet an hour later, she was wondering why people think she's cocky.

Is it really and truly possible to not think you're pretty even though every guy drools over you, and also, to wonder why people think you're cocky and why they think you are unappreciative when people do so much and she never shows any thanks?

Just wondering...

 

[KLin]

You need some new friends.

 

[judasmachine]

eating disorder to the rescue!

 

[Cuda1447]

She probably does have low self-esteem. Lemme guess, she's always fishing for compliments? Typical.

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: Cuda1447
She probably does have low self-esteem. Lemme guess, she's always fishing for compliments? Typical.

Yeah basically.

She ALWAYS wants to know if she looks good. She dresses up PERFECT to where any guy would drool and then sits there and asks me 20 times if it looks OK.

That to me makes me think she's cocky.

To her its because she claims she has low self esteem.

 

[Cuda1447]

Oh, and to answer your question. Just cause she wasn't 'brought up' to be polite doesn't mean she can't be. Everyone knows what mannars are.

She probably knows she's pretty, but like I already said has low self-esteem so wants to be reassured that. And yes, you can be a complete idiot and not realize why people don't like you. Cause you're a b!tch.

 

[Baked]

Post the attention whore's pic, you know you want to.

 

[Random Variable]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak

Originally posted by: Cuda1447
She probably does have low self-esteem. Lemme guess, she's always fishing for compliments? Typical.

Yeah basically.

She ALWAYS wants to know if she looks good. She dresses up PERFECT to where any guy would drool and then sits there and asks me 20 times if it looks OK.

That to me makes me think she's cocky.

To her its because she claims she has low self esteem.

Unless by cocky you mean that she likes the cock, she doesn't sound cocky to me. It sounds like she's insecure.

 

[letdown427]

We need :camera:s to make any kind of decision.

 

[CravenTacos]

not to sound racist, but im just assuming she's asian?

regardless, women who are natural beauties are just so used to crap being done for them without them asking, they think it's normal when people do them favors. this is why men who are assholes to women have better luck, because they stand out in the crowd.

but if you don't call her on her $hit, then you're not really her friend. you're just trying to hit it

 

[Kadarin]

Women who are very good-looking often do not have incentive to develop a nice personality, given that guys will drool over them and give them free laptops and whatnot anyway.

 

[spaceman]

because she's a beeeeeootch!!?!?!?

















!?!?!?!?

 

[Triforceofcourage]

Originally posted by: ncircle
because she's a beeeeeootch!!?!?!?

QFT FTW!!!!!













!?!?!?!?

 

[loup garou]

Probably because she's a whiny loser who posts every inconsequential aspect of her life on an internet messageboard.
Oh wait, that's why everyone hates you.

 

[lokiju]

Well if we could see some pics of her we might be able to make a better determination as to why.

 

[dabuddha]

She sounds like an attention whore. How hard is it to say thank you or show appreciation? If a 3 year old child can do it, I'm sure she can figure it out.

 

[ch33zw1z]

find this problem w/ many beautiful people who just dont' get it, both men and women. I usually tell them straight up what they're problem is...they're self centered even if they don't know it yet.

 

[yllus]

I had a friend like that and she also wondered why people thought she was snobby/arrogant. Truth of it was, her wondering why was a lie - she knew exactly what the score was, but chose to milk her looks and all that instead.

Drop 'er - she'll have to wise up on her own (probably when her looks start to fade) someday.

 

[HomeBrewerDude]

she sounds really irritating.

 

[imported_Rat]

Dump her.

 

[Mucho]

Looks like she's got you by your gonads.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: Cuda1447
Oh, and to answer your question. Just cause she wasn't 'brought up' to be polite doesn't mean she can't be. Everyone knows what mannars are.

She probably knows she's pretty, but like I already said has low self-esteem so wants to be reassured that. And yes, you can be a complete idiot and not realize why people don't like you. Cause you're a b!tch.

i know what manners are but not mannars

 

[sswingle]

You say everyone likes her and everyone hates her in the same post

 

[Viperoni]

I think a more important question is: have you hit it?

Otherwise re-iterate what everyone else in the thread has said.

 

[mrrman]

call Dr Phil