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My Fiance tested positive for HPV...

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Originally posted by: p0ntif
I am pissed that so many people view HPV as harmless. YEAH IT'S AS HARMLESS AS CANCER. what the hell are they teaching you people in sex ed anyway?
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The only reason they say it's harmless is to not alarm people because so many people have it. If it were something that only 10% of people had, they'd be talking about dangers and what not. It's pretty sad.
 
Originally posted by: isasir
Just so you know, HPV goes undetected all the time. It's possible that you do have it and passed it on to her.

(I don't know if you're automatically thinking that she cheated on you.)
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Originally posted by: sic wil
:::Update:::

She got her timeline wrong. She got tested BEFORE her last partner, not after. So, being the man that I am, i check into where he lives, knock on his door, and ask him if he gave my fiance hpv. He asked who she was, I answered, he smiled and said yes. I say, you got some balls, then I knock him in the jaw.

Well, i guess i know where it came from now. Now I might have HPV, but at least I know how. Malicious men like that should be castrated like sheep. Put a rubber band around their balls until they fall off.

Her pap smear showed low risk HPV, and she has no physical warts, nor has she ever. Neither have I. I think we'll be ok. 🙂
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Look buddy. She's had 20+ partners. The real truth is that statistically one of the first 4 gave it to her. I mean if you do the math with 20+ partners she could have gotten it from any of them (probably from one of the first 10 or so). This last guy she slept with probably doesn't know that he has this thing. BTW, how does someone forget whether they got tested before or after? I don't mean to rain on your parade, but maybe thinking these things through will help you.
 
Originally posted by: purbeast0
anyone (guy or girl) with more than 20 partners has really been around. IMO i would not be with anyone who has been with nearly that many people. I have had 2 partners. 1 was a virgin when i was a virgin, and the other one has only had sex with 1 other person before me. and i plan on only having these 2 partners for the rest of my life if things go well.
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They've been around the block and back, IMO
 
Originally posted by: sic wil
Originally posted by: aidanjm
Originally posted by: sic wil
I'm 24, and there's no re-thinking about marrying my fiance. I'd love her if she ballooned to 300 lbs, i'd love her if she got 3rd degree burns all over her body, and i'd love her if she had warts.

No question.

But it does kinda rain on my parade a little, I mean, I'm not gonna be jumpin around and shouting, "Hey! You got WARTS? That's AWESOME! Good for you! Gimme some! Wait, you already DID? How thoughtful!"

:beer:
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so you're blaming her?

maybe you gave it to her.

are warts strictly an STD? what about warts on people's hands? How is that passed on? Just by touching? Maybe you, or her, shook the wrong person's hands or something.
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I'm not pointing fingers. We both don't exhibit symptoms, so it's possible either one of us got it. I'm saying though, it's an STD, and she's had 20x as many partners as i have.

And if I EVER find that STD fairy I swear to God...:|
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Oh Boy...

Here's the deal, if she's had that many sex partners, odds are she was sexually abused as a child.

If she was sexually abused as a child and she's had that many partners you shouldn't marry her because she's unstable, if not now, she will be.

 
Originally posted by: FrustratedUser
Originally posted by: DeadByDawn
http://www.andrew.cmu.edu/user/mfrisby/statistics.htm

"Between 28% and 46% of women under the age of 25 are infected with HPV."


Sounds like it's really common.
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Yeah, it's no big deal.
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It's like saying you got the cold virus.. No biggy...

Well sorta. She is at risk of getting cervical cancer. Plus isn't it really easy to get it even without sexual contact? It's one of the too easy to get, not a big problem dealies. Besides, the HPV virus doesn't always show up plus I heard it's small enough to get through condoms.

Don't be too scurred.. Now if it were Herpes, it's time to call off the wedding....
 
Originally posted by: gigapet
yeah dont listen to the virigns here....its rare for a girl toe escape college with less than 10 partners.
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Uh, no. 20x is a lot, you dont have to be a virgin to see that.

 
I think she stepped out on you and she's lying.....

You said you know she didnt cheat on you, thats the first sign you actually have no idea what is going on.......

People have sex at work, clubs, bathrooms....

Your girl might have made a mistake and did something she regrets, but never thought you'd catch her.....

 
Originally posted by: PingSpike
Originally posted by: sic wil
20x meaning i've only had 1 and she'd had oughly that amount...20 partners isn't considered bad by today's standards, is it?
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Only if it bothers you.

And honestly...I think that would bother the living sh|t out of me.
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Same for me. Daymn.
 
Originally posted by: Buck Armstrong
Originally posted by: sic wil
I would not be waiting weeks, knowing the guy that could gave my fiance HPV could be living on the other side of town. So when she told me who he was, i decided to take action. If no one else here would, then I guess that's a good judge of your character.
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Actually, its not exactly a flattering indication of your character. Your girlfriend chose to fvck this petrie dish after bedding 19 other men in quick succession, and you choose to consider marrying her. Furthermore, he was just doing what guys do (fvcking easy girls), and has no obligation to you whatsoever. She wasn't your girlfriend when he boned her, so he owes you nothing.

Maybe your girlfriend should've made him wear a rubber, or maybe she should be more careful about who she sleeps with. So if you just had to punch someone, well, you punched the wrong one. So don't be surprised when 5 years into your marriage, she mysteriously contracts another STD...I'm sure you'll let her off the hook again, and instead of dumping her, you'll stalk her new lover and punch him, too.

Sucker.
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:thumbsup:
 
Originally posted by: sic wil
I just found out, and I'm shocked. She said she was tested after her last partner and everything came back clean, and I've only had 1 other partner before her, and I was tested after that, and I was clean...so...wow...

I feel kind of, well, devistated. Her pap smear came back abnormal and show mild displasia, too. Now I'm kinda worried for her.

I love her to death, and this little bump definitly won't stop me from marrying her, but it's just....god I don't know how to explain it. On top of this, I blurted out a selfish comment to her, making her feel way more bad than she already does. I feel like an ass. I AM an ass...

So have any of you fellow ATOT people had a similar situation? How did you deal? Got anything to cheer me up?

🙁:Q
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HPV is very, very common, although most of the time it passes and is never detected. Some strains of it are particularly nasty, but as long as she gets regular pap smears she will be ok. As far as where it came from -- either or both of you could have easily picked it up having even one sexual partner, so try not to worry about its source.
 
Originally posted by: sic wil
I'm 24, and there's no re-thinking about marrying my fiance. I'd love her if she ballooned to 300 lbs, i'd love her if she got 3rd degree burns all over her body, and i'd love her if she had warts.

No question.

But it does kinda rain on my parade a little, I mean, I'm not gonna be jumpin around and shouting, "Hey! You got WARTS? That's AWESOME! Good for you! Gimme some! Wait, you already DID? How thoughtful!"

:beer:
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Man your ignorant. She deserves better than you.

 
Originally posted by: Schrodinger
Oh dear god I just googled to see what genital warts were. My peepee retracted into my abdomen 🙁

That sh!t looks nasty.
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You should see them in real life, makes you want to swear off sex...
 
I'm reminded of those STD commercials that make it look like having an STD's is fun.

"Hi, you may not belive it, but I have herpes. But I don't let that slow me down. Now watch me go have fun with that person over there. I'm not going to tell them I have herpes though, because this medication I'm on helps me control the outbreaks so I can keep on truckin. I have lots of love to share and thanks to this medication, I can continue to share with as many people as I want."
 
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