My dad is in intensive care unit, on life support.

[Zorander]

I'm sorry to hear that. Best wishes for your father.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Sorry to hear that dude.. My father passed away last year, and it was completely unexpected as he was only 60

Mine too, in December, at the age of 65. :'(

Wishing the OP's Dad the best.

 

[Brainonska511]

Sorry to hear that. Wishing you and your family all the best.

 

[911paramedic]

Recent events in my life have shown me that even if you think you, as you said, "are on bad terms" that's not really the case deep down when you really love somebody.

I'm sorry to hear about the news. I don't pray but my thoughts are with you.

 

[Lalakai]

take a minute to sit and think of all the "life" lessons you learned from him, which you will hopefully pass onto your children. When a person does leave us, there's a big hole that seems swallow everything that is good and makes you feel happy; leaving you with a profound sense of emptiness. You have paid a high price for such a painful emotion, but look at it from another view. What would your life have been like without him? For you to feel this bad, means that he did something right in your life. So remember those good things, cry a bit, and it's okay to feel miserable. The next time you say something that came from one of his lessons, smile and tell him "thanks".

good luck.

 

[lxskllr]

Sorry to hear that. Take care. There's nothing anyone can do to make it not suck, but my thoughts are with you.

 

[her209]

Sorry to hear. Will be pulling for your dad to pull through.

 

[Texashiker]

Take care, and best wishes to you and your family.

 

[Pliablemoose]

Am so sorry to hear.

Respectfully, you need to honor his wishes. I think a short trial of life support is appropriate if there's a chance of recovery, so you've done the right thing.

 

[IcePickFreak]

Best wishes OP and family.

 

[moshquerade]

Went though the same thing with my dad 9-years ago, he was in and out of life support for many months before he gave up. People say as time goes by it will get easier, it doesn't.

it does get better actually if you are of healthy mind.

 

[nanette1985]

it does get better actually if you are of healthy mind.

My father died when I was 19 (cancer) - 30ish years ago. It doesn't get better but you get used to it, you come to terms with it. I still miss him and wish he were to share the good times (my kids, etc) and talk to for the bad stuff.

 

[nanette1985]

Thanks everyone for your replies. My dad suffered from a stroke on Tuesday that incapacitated most of his brain. His kidneys and heart are now failing him too. He is currently unconscious, in a deep coma. The prognosis is very bad. His chances of recovery are very slim.

I just had lunch with him on monday, and he seemed just fine. The more I think about it, the more I believe he knew something was going to happen. With our recent talks, he finally made peace with me and my mother. On monday, he insisted at the very last moment that I have lunch with him, as if he knew it would be our last time together. For months, he kept telling me he might die any day now, but I kept blowing him off because I didn't want to talk about it. But he always insisted he didn't want to be kept alive by machines either as a vegetable or suffering. He wanted to go painlessly with dignity. The least I can do now is to honor his wish.

I really don't know what to feel right now. I am somehow happy because we made amends and he knows he is leaving us peacefully, with good memories. But at the same time, I am angry that he has to go so early and young, and I am also filled with regrets that I was on bad terms with him over the past few years and that I didn't spend more time with him.

Thanks for listening folks.

I'm so sorry for your pain, and for your father's pain. Do your best to get through the day, focus on the present, and let go of any issues between you.

I recommend that you find some hospice people to talk to - I find them to be great comfort at a time like this. Your hospital has social workers and all sorts of people who are available to talk to you (ask first how much their bill will be - I was shocked). Hopefully you'll find someone you can connect with to get through this.

Sending good wishes and hopes for the best possible outcome.

 

[Cyco]

Best wishes for you and your family.

 

[CurseTheSky]

Very sorry to hear it. My best wishes and prayers are with you, your father, and your friends / family.

 

[Analog]

sorry to hear about this - you are in my thoughts and prayers. Good for you for spending time with him recently - some people never get that chance.

:rose;

 

[mattpegher]

Best wishes for your father and for you.

 

[moshquerade]

My father died when I was 19 (cancer) - 30ish years ago. It doesn't get better but you get used to it, you come to terms with it. I still miss him and wish he were to share the good times (my kids, etc) and talk to for the bad stuff.

i didn't say it would go away, but i was disputing the poster who says it never get easier. it does get easier, for example, you eventually won't be balling your eyes out about it every single day after awhile.

i know this first hand. i have went through this too.

 

[deanx0r]

Rest in peace dad. They say that good people are always first to drop. Greet grandma for us. We will see you on the other side one day, but not too soon. Farewell father.

 

[lxskllr]

My condolences :'^(

 

[dennilfloss]

Sorry for your loss.

Prayers...

 

[AreaCode707]

Love to you and your family. He'll be waiting for you and will be so proud of the person you're going to become between now and then.

 

[eits]

yhpm

 

[zoiks]

So sorry for your loss.

 

[Tristicus]

When my dad died last year I wasn't sure what to feel. I wasn't distraught, because I got to talk to him and knew it was coming (he had cancer). It didn't really hit me until I went in his apartment and into his room. It's hard, but you'll get through it. Sorry man.