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My dad is in intensive care unit, on life support.

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deanx0r

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I am in complete disarray. I dreaded this moment all my life, I knew it was coming, but not so unexpectedly like this. I have to talk about it, to someone, anyone. Please have a prayer for him.
 
sorry to hear man. hope he pulls through. what happened?


losing my dad was the hardest thing. i am still not over it and think about him every day. 🙁
 
Very sorry for your situation. To be perfectly honest, you need to find a flesh and blood person to sit with and talk, or not talk and just be there with them.

Do not do this on an internet forum.
 
Can't help you with the prayers part, but I can offer my best wishes for your dad, and hope he pulls through...

Try to remember him in better, happier, healthier times.

If possible, try to give him hope...

(obviously, we don't know what's wrong with your dad, so hope may not be an option)
 
deanx0r said:
I am in complete disarray. I dreaded this moment all my life, I knew it was coming, but not so unexpectedly like this. I have to talk about it, to someone, anyone. Please have a prayer for him.
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I'm Deeply Sorry for you and your family.
Does the Hospital have a Chaplain to help you sort things out??
Hang in there; It's tough but you'll make it.
 
Sorry to hear that dude.. My father passed away last year, and it was completely unexpected as he was only 60 🙁
 
Thanks everyone for your replies. My dad suffered from a stroke on Tuesday that incapacitated most of his brain. His kidneys and heart are now failing him too. He is currently unconscious, in a deep coma. The prognosis is very bad. His chances of recovery are very slim.

I just had lunch with him on monday, and he seemed just fine. The more I think about it, the more I believe he knew something was going to happen. With our recent talks, he finally made peace with me and my mother. On monday, he insisted at the very last moment that I have lunch with him, as if he knew it would be our last time together. For months, he kept telling me he might die any day now, but I kept blowing him off because I didn't want to talk about it. But he always insisted he didn't want to be kept alive by machines either as a vegetable or suffering. He wanted to go painlessly with dignity. The least I can do now is to honor his wish.

I really don't know what to feel right now. I am somehow happy because we made amends and he knows he is leaving us peacefully, with good memories. But at the same time, I am angry that he has to go so early and young, and I am also filled with regrets that I was on bad terms with him over the past few years and that I didn't spend more time with him.

Thanks for listening folks.
 
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in this difficult time. I know how you feel since I lost my mom last October. She was in the hospital for 2 months before she passed away. Try to focus on the good times and the fact you two made amends. How old is your dad?
 
deanx0r said:
Thanks everyone for your replies. My dad suffered from a stroke on Tuesday that incapacitated most of his brain. His kidneys and heart are now failing him too. He is currently unconscious, in a deep coma. The prognosis is very bad. His chances of recovery are very slim.

I just had lunch with him on monday, and he seemed just fine. The more I think about it, the more I believe he knew something was going to happen. With our recent talks, he finally made peace with me and my mother. On monday, he insisted at the very last moment that I have lunch with him, as if he knew it would be our last time together. For months, he kept telling me he might die any day now, but I kept blowing him off because I didn't want to talk about it. But he always insisted he didn't want to be kept alive by machines either as a vegetable or suffering. He wanted to go painlessly with dignity. The least I can do now is to honor his wish.

I really don't know what to feel right now. I am somehow happy because we made amends and he knows he is leaving us peacefully, with good memories. But at the same time, I am angry that he has to go so early and young, and I am also filled with regrets that I was on bad terms with him over the past few years and that I didn't spend more time with him.

Thanks for listening folks.
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How old is he?

Sorry to hear about your situation. It's never easy. :\
But it's good too hear about the place you are in with your relationship with your father as it will be a help in the time ahead.
 
I lost my father in 2006. Stroke and then pneumonia while trying to recover. It was unexpected and I know what you mean about disarray. My father seemed to be recovering nicely when the pneumonia got a hold of him. It was a roller coaster of emotion. I spent Christmas day 2005 in the hospital worrying.

All I can say is, hang in there. It's a rocky road, but it smooths out after a while.
 
deanx0r said:
Thanks everyone for your replies. My dad suffered from a stroke on Tuesday that incapacitated most of his brain. His kidneys and heart are now failing him too. He is currently unconscious, in a deep coma. The prognosis is very bad. His chances of recovery are very slim.

I just had lunch with him on monday, and he seemed just fine. The more I think about it, the more I believe he knew something was going to happen. With our recent talks, he finally made peace with me and my mother. On monday, he insisted at the very last moment that I have lunch with him, as if he knew it would be our last time together. For months, he kept telling me he might die any day now, but I kept blowing him off because I didn't want to talk about it. But he always insisted he didn't want to be kept alive by machines either as a vegetable or suffering. He wanted to go painlessly with dignity. The least I can do now is to honor his wish.

I really don't know what to feel right now. I am somehow happy because we made amends and he knows he is leaving us peacefully, with good memories. But at the same time, I am angry that he has to go so early and young, and I am also filled with regrets that I was on bad terms with him over the past few years and that I didn't spend more time with him.

Thanks for listening folks.
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Love and honor for each other is eternal. It can be forgotten, but it will never cease. It will always exist.
 
Best wishes to you and your family during this very trying time in your lives. You defintely need some family and friends with you. Call them.
 
deanx0r said:
I am in complete disarray. I dreaded this moment all my life, I knew it was coming, but not so unexpectedly like this. I have to talk about it, to someone, anyone. Please have a prayer for him.
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Went though the same thing with my dad 9-years ago, he was in and out of life support for many months before he gave up. People say as time goes by it will get easier, it doesn't.
 
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