my dad died

[IceBergSLiM]

Be thankful for the time you had together here and know that he will always be with you.

 

[Nitemare]

Sorry to hear that, mine died when I was 5

 

[Blieb]

 

[Krazy4Real]

Sorry dude. Be strong. You'll get through this.

 

[Vonkhan]

 

[dabuddha]

Sorry for your loss.

 

[Triumph]

Tomorrow is the 5th anniversary of my mother's passing. All I can say is that time really does heal all wounds. The 1st anniversary was tough as hell. The 2nd was not as bad. The 3rd, I felt ok on the date of her death. The 4th, I didn't even remember the day, I realized a few days later that I had missed it. And that isn't a bad thing, I take it as a sign of healing. You will get to the point where you think about your father with fondness and affection, rather than the sorrow which stops you in your tracks. Don't be afraid to grieve, but remember that it doesn't last forever.

 

[Siddhartha]

Originally posted by: Linflas

Losing my dad was one of the toughest things I have dealt with in my life. Hard as it is to believe you will eventually accept that he is gone while keeping his memory very close to your heart. Even though it has been 14 years a day does not go by where I do not think about my father and what his advice to me might have been about happenings in my life.

It has been 13 years almost to the day when my dad died. It made a human out of me. Before that I tried to be a combination of Mr Spock and Macho Man impervious to everything. My dad's passing straighten out that fantasy.

The only advice I would give is that grieving is a process you have to go through. You do not have a choice. Trying to deny what you are feeling will only delay the process and make it worse.

Give yourself time and leeway for coming to terms with you loss.

Oh yeah, ignore anyone who tells you to "be strong". Obviously, they have not gone through what you are experiencing and do not know what the hell they are talking about!

 

[pcslookout]

Originally posted by: jandrews

Originally posted by: pcslookout

Originally posted by: thirdeye
Sorry to hear. I lost my Dad when I was 11.

Wow then you and I both know how it feels to lose a loved one when you are so young. You never get to do the things others get to do with their fathers.

Well, if it makes you feel better a lot of us with dads dont even do those things that a child who loses his father young imagines they might have done with their fathers.

Thats true. A lot of dad's don't even want to learn the pc even if you show them how. Mine never did though he did love his football.

 

[adairusmc]

These things happen

 

[eits]

i couldn't imagine what that's like, but i can imagine time will pass and you'll hurt less

 

[amdhunter]

Sorry to hear about your loss.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Siddhartha

Originally posted by: Linflas

Losing my dad was one of the toughest things I have dealt with in my life. Hard as it is to believe you will eventually accept that he is gone while keeping his memory very close to your heart. Even though it has been 14 years a day does not go by where I do not think about my father and what his advice to me might have been about happenings in my life.

It has been 13 years almost to the day when my dad died. It made a human out of me. Before that I tried to be a combination of Mr Spock and Macho Man impervious to everything. My dad's passing straighten out that fantasy.

The only advice I would give is that grieving is a process you have to go through. You do not have a choice. Trying to deny what you are feeling will only delay the process and make it worse.

Give yourself time and leeway for coming to terms with you loss.

Oh yeah, ignore anyone who tells you to "be strong". Obviously, they have not gone through what you are experiencing and do not know what the hell they are talking about!

from another one who's been there too, i say you've made a great post.

 

[Dacalo]

My condolences. I know how hard it is, my father passed away back in 1999 when I was 20 and I had a hard time as well.

As they say, time heals everything.

 

[LTC8K6]

My condolences.

I lost my dad 2 years ago.

I was in the hospital that Christmas morning, he died shortly after that.

Christmas is still not the same.

You will be okay, though. It's very hard, but you will make it through these times.

 

[Kadarin]

My dad just turned 80, and while he's still healthy, I know deep down that his time left on Earth is getting shorter and shorter. I wonder if he thinks about it? Over the last couple of years I lost both of my grandparents on my mother's side (both were in their early 90s), and I just choose to remember them as the good people that they were.

Best of luck to you, OP.

 

[imported_yovonbishop]

Sorry to hear. In time, you'll have fond memories of your father rather than those of his death. All I can say is to hang in there, and if you need anyone to talk to, I'm sure many of us would be happy to chat

 

[AmdEmAll]

I can't even begin to imagine how difficult this would be.

 

[jmanny]

My sympathy goes out to you.

It's been almost 20 years since my father passed, in time it does get easier. Just try to remember all the good things and good times.

 

[InflatableBuddha]

My sympathies.

I lost my grandmother a year and a half ago and it was the most difficult thing I have experienced in my life so far. I can only imagine what it is like to lose a parent.

Just remember that it is ok to embrace your feelings. You may be sad, or angry, or confused, or a combination - just accept that those varied feelings are part of the healing process.

Surround yourself with your loved ones and help each other through the grieving. Remember that even though your dad has passed, your memories of him will always be with you.

 

[Pacfanweb]

Lost my dad when I was 28. He was 51.

Very tough time. I didn't, and wouldn't, have taken any medication. What that does for you is only temporary anyway....sooner or later, and it's an unfortunate fact of life, you have to face that pain.

My advice is, grieve as hard as you want/feel the need to right now. It's the best time. Don't let any meds hold you back.

I can promise you that it WILL get better with time....it's an old cliche', and one that is 100% true.

 

[ViviTheMage]

 

[shiner]

Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3
I don't even want to imagine the day when my dad dies. He's the person I'm closest to in both my family and just in general. I tell him stuff I don't even tell best friends.

My condolences OP.

 

[shiner]

I dont' remember who said it...but I've always thought the following was very true.

"Every life comes to an end when time demands it. Loss of life it to be mourned, but only if the life was wasted."

I've always taken great solace in the fact that when he does pass there is nobody that will be able to say my Dad didn't make the most of his life and really truly lived it.

 

[BudAshes]

the only medication i recommend is weed. It only works short term and helps you relax and forget when everything is too much.

My dad died when i had just turned 17. Sadly we all knew he was going to die because he was an alcoholic with a failing liver, but as much as I tried to prepare myself it was still a shock when it happened. There's really no way to explain it, but it felt like I lost a piece of myself, or maybe a piece of the shield we place around ourselves to protect us from the tragedy of the world. The good thing is that you can patch that piece up and make yourself stronger than before, you just have to use your memories of him and use your drive to make him proud.

I still have dreams to this day where i'm conversing and hanging out with him like he's still alive, doing stuff we used to do, then i wake up... and I re-remember every detail about him, it's almost like I got to see him again Although sometimes its sad to re-awaken to the reality...