My brother definitely has some control issues to deal with . . .

[noproblems]

His 11 yr. old daughter is slightly overweight (about 10-15 lbs.) He started locking up all the food in the house about 2 yrs. ago to get her to diet. He deprives her of all 'unhealthy foods' Problem is, the kid now gorges herself as a sneak-theif when he's not around. . . i.e., at friend's houses, school, stores, etc...

The kid obviously needs to develop sound dietary habits through a more constructive approach. Since, like all kids, she craves at least occaisional inclusion of foods that are not particularly healthy, it would seem to me that his solution is fairly naive and not very thoughtful. Now, not only is she overweight, she has been placed in a corner that forces her to be devious; thereby lowering her self-esteem. And, this gorging stuff can hardly help her develop 'sound' eating habits. Funny thing is, he is fully aware of her gorging yet continues his feeble attempts to manipulate her diet.

 

[Jugernot]

People will only lose weight if they want to lose weight...

 

[yobarman]

Yeah that's terrible. Kids these days need education. Positive reinforcement works a lot better than negative. But the bottom line is to sit down with her and explain everything about proper diet.

 

[amdskip]

He does need some real help with the whole situation. Unlock the food but eat as much healthy food as possible and try to stop her from sneaking food from other sources.

 

[Lithium381]

if she's not overweight, he should lay off and stop making her have false images of herself. she's at the age where her peers will provide most of the pressure to lighten up if she is indeed overweight by any significant amount......

he needs to unlock everything and only buy healthy stuff and let her eat what she wants

 

[Mayhem1869]

maybe he should eliminate the presence of the "junk food" instead of the availability.
maybe let her eat fruit, pretzels, etc. whenever she wants to.

 

[vi edit]

Could try and encourage her to go out for a sport of some sort. Increase physical activity, and if you have good teammates, and a coach that isn't and f'hole it can promote better self esteem.

 

[TommyVercetti]

When she is strutting down that cat walk in Milan, wearing a Geogio Armani dress, and when her photoshoots start appearing on the cover of Vogue, Vanity Fair and Maxim, then she will thank her dad.

 

[noproblems]

When she is strutting down that cat walk in Milan, wearing a Geogio Armani dress, and when her photoshoots start appearing on the cover of Vogue, Vanity Fair and Maxim, then she will thank her dad.

This seems more naive than his approach and somewhat seems to reflect our society's negative prediposition to appear unrealistically 'perfect' like a model.

 

[Transition]

I suggest unlocking the food cabinets and tainting all food w/ Habanero peppers. When the girl asks why everything burns when he eats it tell her it's gods way of telling her she's going to hell if she gets any fatter.

 

[Crazymofo]

well at least I can say hes trying to help her albiet teh wrong way... its still a lot more then most parents out there...

 

[noproblems]

I suggest unlocking the food cabinets and tainting all food w/ Habanero peppers. When the girl asks why everything burns when he eats it tell her it's gods way of telling her she's going to hell if she gets any fatter.

I can't wait til I gain insights by becoming a golden member like you.

 

[Yossarian]

your bro needs to read some books or talk to a professional because his method of parenting blows donkeys.

 

[conjur]

Is your niece active in any after-school programs (athletic)? Or does she lead a sedentary life?

10-15lbs overweight is nothing to worry over but it should be monitored so she doesn't keep gaining weight. And, perhaps your brother could purchase some healthier food at home and impose a bit of <gasp> real parenting skills and get his daughter active and teach her about eating properly?

 

[Transition]

Originally posted by: noproblems

I suggest unlocking the food cabinets and tainting all food w/ Habanero peppers. When the girl asks why everything burns when he eats it tell her it's gods way of telling her she's going to hell if she gets any fatter.

I can't wait til I gain insights by becoming a golden member like you.

Thank you, thank you.

 

[Wag]

He's not heavy, he's your brother.

 

[noproblems]

Is your niece active in any after-school programs (athletic)? Or does she lead a sedentary life?

She is active with other stuff; i.e., sports and karate.

10-15lbs overweight is nothing to worry over but it should be monitored so she doesn't keep gaining weight. And, perhaps your brother could purchase some healthier food at home and impose a bit of <gasp> real parenting skills and get his daughter active and teach her about eating properly?

You know, I hate to say it, but I think at this point she probably needs counseling too: to deal with what she has become, as a result of his attempts and her subsequent actions.

 

[SagaLore]

She's 11, she will go through a growth spurt and will be thin again on her own. What this father is doing is making her a potential anorexic later in life by forcing a stereotype on her.

 

[TommyVercetti]

Ok look, the Prom is THE most important day of a teenage girl's life. If you don't go to prom, then your life isn't complete. It's a known fact, as reported in Seventeen Magazine. Fat girls do not get dates to the prom. So being fat = no dates for prom = not good.

 

[conjur]

Originally posted by: noproblems

Is your niece active in any after-school programs (athletic)? Or does she lead a sedentary life?

She is active with other stuff; i.e., sports and karate.

That's great...then her weight will stabilize on its own, most likely. She's hitting that pre-pubescent stage and hormones/estrogen are ramping up so her body will go through changes. Your brother needs to be beaten upside the head with a 12gauge clue stick! :|

10-15lbs overweight is nothing to worry over but it should be monitored so she doesn't keep gaining weight. And, perhaps your brother could purchase some healthier food at home and impose a bit of <gasp> real parenting skills and get his daughter active and teach her about eating properly?

You know, I hate to say it, but I think at this point she probably needs counseling too: to deal with what she has become, as a result of his attempts and her subsequent actions.

You're probably right and it sounds like you'd make a better parent of your niece than your brother would. :frown:

 

[noproblems]

Originally posted by: Wag
He's not heavy, he's your brother.

:music:Smile on your brother. Everybody get together, try to love one another through manipulation, right now.:music:

 

[noproblems]

Originally posted by: TommyVercetti
Ok look, the Prom is THE most important day of a teenage girl's life. If you don't go to prom, then your life isn't complete. It's a known fact, as reported in Seventeen Magazine. Fat girls do not get dates to the prom. So being fat = no dates for prom = not good.

Yes, you are right about her weight being a problem. I simply wish people could further develop their higher level thinking skills and thereby surpass societal expectations of appearance. Perhaps your original response. . .:

Originally posted by: TommyVercetti
When she is strutting down that cat walk in Milan, wearing a Geogio Armani dress, and when her photoshoots start appearing on the cover of Vogue, Vanity Fair and Maxim, then she will thank her dad.

. . . is all too reflective of our ignorance, or, more specifically, our unwillingness to conjure up any of our 'higher level' thinking skills regarding a person's appearance.

 

[her209]

Kick his ass???

 

[lowtech1]

It is easy to say when they are not your kids, and to make matter worst....you don't have kids of your own. If you really want to help, then go learn it for your self then come back to give his family constructive help. Other wise, it is best to keep out of it.

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: lowtech
It is easy to say when they are not your kids, and to make matter worst....you don't have kids of your own. If you really want to help, then go learn it for your self then come back to give his family constructive help. Other wise, it is best to keep out of it.

Its easy to NOT say anything when its not your kids.