Moral Question

[blodhi74]

my co-worker is cheating on his wife ....should I inform her or fvsk it ?? .... I dont know his wife very well

 

[bradruth]

If you don't know her it's really none of your business, even though that guy is a douche.

 

[MartyMcFly3]

Wheres the poll? I say screw it... the wife i mean.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Don't go to her without proof. Maybe mail her a typed anon letter with why you think he's cheating on her?

 

[Heisenberg]

If it's just a coworker then I'd say to stay out of it.

 

[Schadenfroh]

if you do it, do it with proof, and make sure they cannot trace it back to you. you can then pick her up once she divorces.

 

[brigden]

I'd ask her if she likes to shag.

 

[Wingznut]

Would you want someone to tell you if your spouse was cheating?

 

[Looney]

If my gf or wife was cheating on me and her coworker knew, i would have appreciated being told.

 

[Looney]

Originally posted by: Wingznut
Would you want someone to tell you if your spouse was cheating?

Is this a rhetorical question?

 

[blodhi74]

have the proof.... but as I said ... he is just a co-worker and not a friend .... i say fvsk it but my wife thinks differently..... so I am incliend to just fvuk it

 

[rh71]

i'd definitely want someone to tell me.

but some people know (the non-cheating one) and choose to let it go once or twice... is that surprising ? Makes you wonder if you really should butt-in.

 

[fredtam]

Originally posted by: blodhi74
have the proof.... but as I said ... he is just a co-worker and not a friend .... i say fvsk it but my wife thinks differently..... so I am incliend to just fvuk it

Before I say something inapropriate why does you wife say no?

 

[blodhi74]

I have no idea what is going on in their marraige.... but I hold martial wows sacred and will never cheat on my wife ...that is why it is kinnda bothering me

 

[KarenMarie]

It is none of your business.

And... most likely, you will have a sh!t work environment after you rat him out, and in also consider that they will reconcile and both turn on you. But mostly, it is none of your business.

 

[blodhi74]

Originally posted by: fredtam

Originally posted by: blodhi74
have the proof.... but as I said ... he is just a co-worker and not a friend .... i say fvsk it but my wife thinks differently..... so I am incliend to just fvuk it

Before I say something inapropriate why does you wife say no?

women ... go figure

 

[Hayabusa Rider]

All you are going to do is ruin peoples lives for them. Seems they don't need your help. Besides, it will get out who stuck their nose in it, and you will get a worse reputation with your co-workers than those you ratted on. You will not be trusted. Ever.

 

[blodhi74]

Originally posted by: WinstonSmith
All you are going to do is ruin peoples lives for them. Seems they don't need your help. Besides, it will get out who stuck their nose in it, and you will get a worse reputation with your co-workers than those you ratted on. You will not be trusted. Ever.

I am his boss ..... does it change any thing??

 

[Hayabusa Rider]

Originally posted by: blodhi74

Originally posted by: WinstonSmith
All you are going to do is ruin peoples lives for them. Seems they don't need your help. Besides, it will get out who stuck their nose in it, and you will get a worse reputation with your co-workers than those you ratted on. You will not be trusted. Ever.

I am his boss ..... does it change any thing??

Yes, it makes it worse. You will be seen as being vindictive. I take it on faith that you are not but if he chooses, he could sue you and probably win. Do you need that? He could make a very strong case that you were "out to get him", His personal affairs (pun intended) are really not a work issue.

 

[blodhi74]

Originally posted by: WinstonSmith

Originally posted by: blodhi74

Originally posted by: WinstonSmith
All you are going to do is ruin peoples lives for them. Seems they don't need your help. Besides, it will get out who stuck their nose in it, and you will get a worse reputation with your co-workers than those you ratted on. You will not be trusted. Ever.

I am his boss ..... does it change any thing??

Yes, it makes it worse. You will be seen as being vindictive. I take it on faith that you are not but if he chooses, he could sue you and probably win. Do you need that? He could make a very strong case that you were "out to get him", His personal affairs (pun intended) are really not a work issue.

he is a good worker ..... my position is still ....fvck it

 

[Looney]

Well i don't believe telling the wife is 'ratting' out... i think there's a difference in ratting out / tattle-telling on somebody... in these instances, you have something to gain, whether it's an actual reward, or you get satisfaction out of it... and telling on somebody because you're concern over them or what they're doing.

For instance, if he was to gloat over telling the wife or he wanted to get revenge... then it's ratting out. But if he's concern for the wife, then that's just informing her. It's like kids in the playground. If a kid runs up to the teacher yelling 'Teacher teacher, look what Bob is doing!' and is excited that he's discovered that Bob was doing something bad, then that's tattletelling. But if he was to go to the teacher quietly and tell the teacher that Bob was doing was dangerous, and was concern over what he was doing... then that would be responsible behavior.

 

[Medea]

This guy's not one of your friends, so why do you have this need to butt into his life? What's up with that? Does he remind you of the kid that used to take your lunch money or your Twinkies? Mind your own business.

 

[blodhi74]

Originally posted by: Medea
This guy's not one of your friends, so why do you have this need to butt into his life? What's up with that? Does he remind you of the kid that used to take your lunch money or your Twinkies? Mind your own business.

obviously U are just a teen or are cheating on UR wife ..... the vow of marraige is a sacred vow and men of honor take that seriously .... I think this is what is what wrong with sociaty these days ..... children out of wedlock ..... kids bieng given the back seat since mom or dad want to feel happy and instant gratification and get bored with each other after a few years .... marriege is an institution and it does not revolve around UR personal whim.... sacraficies are made to do the right thing and not what U want ..... right now the divorce rate in US in 42% .... have U no comprehension what that does to the kids and the socity as a whole ???


grow up and grow some balls

 

[blodhi74]

Originally posted by: blodhi74

Originally posted by: Medea
This guy's not one of your friends, so why do you have this need to butt into his life? What's up with that? Does he remind you of the kid that used to take your lunch money or your Twinkies? Mind your own business.

obviously U are just a teen or are cheating on UR wife ..... the vow of marraige is a sacred vow and men of honor take that seriously .... I think this is what is what wrong with sociaty these days ..... children out of wedlock ..... kids bieng given the back seat since mom or dad want to feel happy and instant gratification and get bored with each other after a few years .... marriege is an institution and it does not revolve around UR personal whim.... sacraficies are made to do the right thing and not what U want ..... right now the divorce rate in US in 42% .... have U no comprehension what that does to the kids and the socity as a whole ???


grow up and grow some balls

am I wrong
??

 

[fredtam]

Originally posted by: blodhi74

Originally posted by: Medea
This guy's not one of your friends, so why do you have this need to butt into his life? What's up with that? Does he remind you of the kid that used to take your lunch money or your Twinkies? Mind your own business.

obviously U are just a teen or are cheating on UR wife ..... the vow of marraige is a sacred vow and men of honor take that seriously .... I think this is what is what wrong with sociaty these days ..... children out of wedlock ..... kids bieng given the back seat since mom or dad want to feel happy and instant gratification and get bored with each other after a few years .... marriege is an institution and it does not revolve around UR personal whim.... sacraficies are made to do the right thing and not what U want ..... right now the divorce rate in US in 42% .... have U no comprehension what that does to the kids and the socity as a whole ???


grow up and grow some balls

am I wrong

No. That is why I was going to question your wife's view.