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imported_Tomato

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I've upset more than a few of my friends by being so trustworthy of people. When I first moved to Cali, I didn't know anyone... I gave the benefit of the doubt to everyone who I met and went out with, and was only burned once. I ended up making some really good friends and meeting some wonderful people... many whom I wouldn't have otherwise gotten to know if I hadn't "risked it" (gone out alone with them after a few exchanged e-mails).

Tonight, I'm going to play chess with a guy who I've never met before... we've been swapping e-mails for about a week, and I initially "met" him when he asked for a transcript of a blind date I'd gone on to see if it could be used for a reality show (long story, search for *sigh* if you're curious). I politely declined, but we kept chatting...

As it turns out, we're both chess buffs. He invited me to his place for dinner and a game of chess tonight... I accepted, cuz it's better than staying in and downloading p0rn. :p The guy seems kind and perfectly harmless, but his house is out in the middle of nowhere.

"the address is [removed]. you really need to park on the WEST side of the street. which means you have to turn around at some point and due to the curves and rude drivers, it's a bit intimidating. then you have to find the stairs and then find the address, which you probably won't. it's like a group of guest houses/cottages nestled into the mountains. feels like summer camp here 24/7.

however, parking is the butt kicker usually that throws people, and finding out how to get up into the private offshoot of the area. so... trust me on this one. at night it's rather challenging finding this place.

call me. you'll be here at 8:30 right?"

I've left his address and phone number with two of my trusted friends, so if I disappear, they'll know where to look... does anyone else go out with random strangers on a regular basis? If so, how have your endeavors panned out?
 
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You're going to go ALONE to meet a total stranger?

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I suggest you bring a friend who's close to your heart. A little down and to the left, to be specific.

- M4H
 

tnitsuj

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That is a very very bad idea. You should meet this person at a public place or with friends.
 

damiano

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ask him to meet in a restaurant first
with lot of people around
and bring your chess board
 

tnitsuj

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You also realize that leaving his info with your friends will not help you after he rapes/kills/kidnaps you right? You want to avoid PUTTING YOURSELF IN A BAD SITUATION!!!!!!
 

white

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why can't you play at a coffee shop? anyway, be careful. maybe ask one of your friends to give you a call at a specified time to make sure you're still alive. and if the guy creeps you out, use it as an excuse to leave.
 

imported_Tomato

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Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
You're going to go ALONE to meet a total stranger?

rolleye.gif


I suggest you bring a friend who's close to your heart. A little down and to the left, to be specific.

- M4H

I've gone out over 30 different times with 30 different strangers... alone... since I've been in Cali.

Last one turned out okay... he picked me up, we went out, he dropped me off.

My friends wouldn't go with me. :( Besides, I think it's always easier getting to know a person one-on-one.
 

phreakah

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Originally posted by: tnitsuj
That is a very very bad idea. You should meet this person at a public place or with friends.

i agree with him... just to be safe
 

imported_Tomato

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Originally posted by: white
why can't you play at a coffee shop? anyway, be careful. maybe ask one of your friends to give you a call at a specified time to make sure you're still alive. and if the guy creeps you out, use it as an excuse to leave.

That's a good idea. I'll have someone call me around 10pm-ish... I generally trust my gut instincts, and this guy seems okay.
 

CT2TXtech

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Originally posted by: tnitsuj
That is a very very bad idea. You should meet this person at a public place or with friends.


Great idea. Why dont you try going on Blind Date or Elimidate

 

imported_Tomato

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Originally posted by: CT2TXtech
Originally posted by: tnitsuj
That is a very very bad idea. You should meet this person at a public place or with friends.


Great idea. Why dont you try going on Blind Date or Elimidate

I was going to do the Blind Date thing, at some point. Still might. Dunno, we'll see... if only for a laugh (and the measly $250 + "free date").
 

Looney

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Man you're crazy. I would meet at a neutral place first. Like the library for a game of chess.
 

Hammer

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you might have been alright all those times before, but only takes one bad time to ruin your life, you know? i think you should meet at a more public place.

yeah, i've met strangers, but im a guy. :p
 

imported_Tomato

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Originally posted by: Moralpanic
Man you're crazy. I would meet at a neutral place first. Like the library for a game of chess.

The library isn't open that late. :( Thinking about it, I think it'd be more dangerous to have a stranger pick me up... at least tonight, I'll have my own transportation if things get funky and I want to leave.
 

Nitemare

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I didn't know women knew how to play chess
:evil:

Meet him at B&N for a cup of coffee and a friendly fame outside. If things go ok, then you can meet him alone

Meeting a guy from the internet for the first time in a remote location = BAD
 

huesmann

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Honey, you're playing Russian Roulette if you go to his place first.

Is there any reason you can't play chess at a coffee shop or a public park?
 

geckojohn

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Dezign: as a guy, i would totally understand if a girl was afraid to meet me at my house. You should just tell him that you aren't comfortable about meeting him at your house on a first date. You should meet at a coffee lounge place first, that's in between both of you. I wouldn't recommend driving over to this person's house.
 

imported_Tomato

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Originally posted by: huesmann
Honey, you're playing Russian Roulette if you go to his place first.

Is there any reason you can't play chess at a coffee shop or a public park?

I suggested a coffee shop, but neither of us know of any... and he says the chess set he has is a heavy marble one that isn't transportable.