Modonna/Whore Syndrome -- Does every man suffer from it?

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Spamela

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Originally posted by: StormRider
Okay, from what I've read many men suffer from the Modonna/Whore Syndrome.

Basically, it's where it's hard to think of "doing the nasty deed" with someone you love and respect. In other words, it's basically when a man thinks so highly of a girl that he puts her on a pedestal and can't even imagine doing the "dirty deed" with her. He can only have sex with her in a "respectable" way -- like only in the missionary position for example.

So he has pent up sexual desires and fantasies and uses prostitutes (or girls he doesn't respect) to satisfy those urges. Meanwhile his wife (or girlfriend) is sexually frustrated because sex is boring with her man.

Now, I've never been in a relationship but I sometimes wonder if I suffer from this. For example, I've never filled my mind with images of girls I've had crushes on when I'm not being "master of my domain", if you catch my drift. Instead the girls are usually faceless.

I couldn't fantasize about someone I have a crush on and then meeting her later in a study group and looking her in the eye -- you know what I mean?

The above seems like reasonable behavior to me and therefore I wonder how many of you guys suffer from it too.

When you are not "being master of your domain", what images fill your mind? Are they girls you have relationships/crushes/friendships with? Or are they faceless girls -- perhaps an image from some naughty video you saw?

What about you girls? Who do you fantasize about when you are "killing kittens"? Is it your boyfriend? Some guy you have a crush on? Some naughty image you saw on the internet? :confused:

i've heard of it, but i don't suffer from it. frankly, it suggests a need for counseling.

 

Walleye

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Originally posted by: AmerDoux
Hey!

me/inserts sign firmly into the ground here

"Do Not Feed The Animals"


Millennium, best thing you can do is to ignore the little ah heck ;)

whatever.
 

Mill

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Originally posted by: Walleye
Originally posted by: Millennium
Originally posted by: Walleye
Originally posted by: Howard
Not only that, SnapIT can rip your arms off.

i doubt it.


my pic is decieving as to size...

So you are 5'2 450?


im 6' 270 lbs.

and im fairly heavily muscled...


Yeah you have 270 lbs of muslce... ok Ronnie Coleman.
rolleye.gif
 

Walleye

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Originally posted by: Millennium
Originally posted by: Walleye
Originally posted by: Millennium
Originally posted by: Walleye
Originally posted by: Howard
Not only that, SnapIT can rip your arms off.

i doubt it.


my pic is decieving as to size...

So you are 5'2 450?


im 6' 270 lbs.

and im fairly heavily muscled...


Yeah you have 270 lbs of muslce... ok Ronnie Coleman.
rolleye.gif


and you tell me to spell your name right... you cant spell muscle right... :p

no, i didnt say i was solid muscle, i am fairly heavily muscled... i also am fairly fat :p
 

TuffGirl

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Originally posted by: dolph
did you really just ask atot who they fantasize about when they masturbate?
OMG ROFTLMAO!!



Stormrider, I believe you have to be in a relationship in order to experience the Madonna/Whore thing. What goes on in fantasies can be so surreal or unrealistic because that's what they are, fantasies. I don't think a pattern or syndrome can applied to that.
 

Mill

Lifer
Oct 10, 1999
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Originally posted by: Walleye
Originally posted by: Millennium
Originally posted by: Walleye
Originally posted by: Millennium
Originally posted by: Walleye
Originally posted by: Howard
Not only that, SnapIT can rip your arms off.

i doubt it.


my pic is decieving as to size...

So you are 5'2 450?


im 6' 270 lbs.

and im fairly heavily muscled...


Yeah you have 270 lbs of muslce... ok Ronnie Coleman.
rolleye.gif


and you tell me to spell your name right... you cant spell muscle right... :p

no, i didnt say i was solid muscle, i am fairly heavily muscled... i also am fairly fat :p

Unlike you, I never proclaimed to be king of spelling. Second, I was drunk. What is your excuse? Ignorance?
 

Shivatron

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Walleye;

To start off -- so what if your IQ is 130? Or for that matter, if your SAT score is 1270? What are you trying to prove? If you think that posting (unverified) measures of your intelligence gains you credibility here, you're wrong, as the posts in this regard have revealed. (Although I hate to invoke Godwin's Law, the comparison could be made that by all accounts, Adolf Hitler was very "smart" -- does that mean that you should have listened to him? No!)

Oh, and by the way, I too am 17 -- but I have an SAT of 1370 and am in university. (Not that it matters, as I stated above; further, I am sure that there are many people here smarter than me...) So, Walleye, now that you know that I am "smarter" (if you feel that SAT is a good measure of intelligence), does that mean my opinion is worth more than yours?

Secondly, you have stated that "Only how we are percieved in the eyes of our peers is what determines our worthiness of this life and this earth." Well, by reading the posts here, it is very apparant that you are not viewed very highly in the eyes of you peers. So, does that mean you are worth nothing? By your logic, it would seem so.

Despite the fact that I disagree with you on most, if not all, of the points that you raised, I believe that all life is worth something. Having said that, I do believe that a life can go to waste, if no good is made of it. Walleye, you must realize by now that the reason this thread has 4 pages of replies has nothing to do with sex; and everything to do with the fact that you seem to be unable to let go of the fact that everyone here deems you unhealthy.

Ask yourself: Are we all just wrong?
 

Walleye

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Originally posted by: Atticu5
Walleye;

To start off -- so what if your IQ is 130? Or for that matter, if your SAT score is 1270? What are you trying to prove? If you think that posting (unverified) measures of your intelligence gains you credibility here, you're wrong, as the posts in this regard have revealed. (Although I hate to invoke Godwin's Law, the comparison could be made that by all accounts, Adolf Hitler was very "smart" -- does that mean that you should have listened to him? No!)

Oh, and by the way, I too am 17 -- but I have an SAT of 1370 and am in university. (Not that it matters, as I stated above; further, I am sure that there are many people here smarter than me...) So, Walleye, now that you know that I am "smarter" (if you feel that SAT is a good measure of intelligence), does that mean my opinion is worth more than yours?

Secondly, you have stated that "Only how we are percieved in the eyes of our peers is what determines our worthiness of this life and this earth." Well, by reading the posts here, it is very apparant that you are not viewed very highly in the eyes of you peers. So, does that mean you are worth nothing? By your logic, it would seem so.

Despite the fact that I disagree with you on most, if not all, of the points that you raised, I believe that all life is worth something. Having said that, I do believe that a life can go to waste, if no good is made of it. Walleye, you must realize by now that the reason this thread has 4 pages of replies has nothing to do with sex; and everything to do with the fact that you seem to be unable to let go of the fact that everyone here deems you unhealthy.

Ask yourself: Are we all just wrong?

hitler's concepts, ways to rise to power, and all that stuff should be looked at, studied, learned from. He was a great motivator, speaker, tactician, and hero to the german people (non jew, and at that time...) the fact was he was crazy, and that's why he failed in his motives... but we arent debating hitler, anyway...

i brought up my testing scores because someone (i felt) made the allusion that i was stupid. i really hate that. so i represent at least a measure of my intelligence in an easily understandable form.

statistically speaking, do you think a few replies in 1 thread is a measure of my ... how to say it... peacefulness.. benevolence, ... (good traits ...)... ? No, of course not. do you think, statistically speaking, that the bulk of you are the bulk of my peers?

because of the nature of the internet, we only see what we want of people on the internet. you only see my inflammatory side, because that's all you want to see. Now, how Zealous do you think i am about my views? i have said a lot of things here, but i already said words mean nothing, and only action matters.

it is actions that define us as who we are.

As for my actions, lets see... i volunteer regularly (at least 5 hours a month)... i will be completing my eagle project soon, and that will include over 500 man hours... so i will be an eagle scout.

I already told you im no idiot.

i have over 30 trophies, medals, and awards for my skill in shooting sports.

i have the skill and knowledge to live most anywhere in the world with only a knife pretty much indefinitely... given that i have warm enough clothes to survive the night.




and i already told you all i hate myself more than i could ever hate anyone else... but i dont expect any of you to understand that.

and i already told you, you cannot determine my actions, you can only judge me.


no, you're not all wrong.
 

DerwenArtos12

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call me a dog, pervert, freak, or horny little boy. i have only met two women outside my family that i coud not do the "dirty deed" with and they are my pseudo sisters. any other girl that i find attractive i could do the dirty deed with. i do not personally see how this could be a problem for males.

and the way you are talking about makes you seem like a frickin stalker dude. and who do i think about while i am killing kittens as you so maturely put it is any number of people. rarely my girlfriend because then the next time i see them which is usually the same or next day it is kinda wierd cause i think of those images i killed kittens to and it is kinda wierd. but the conversatin that follows can be fun. telling your girlfriend exactly what you would dream fo doing to them can be fun if they are open to hearing these things.
 

Mookow

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Originally posted by: Skoorb
Originally posted by: Marshallj
Originally posted by: Skoorb
What? if it's not in the vagina it's not really sex,


I think a lot of people will disagree there...
Well clinton agrees with me :) IMO if it's not in the vagina it ain't sex. Sure it may be called "oral sex", but you're a virgin unless you've put mister happy in his female counterpart.

EDITED, must have read someone else's comments as yours...
 

Mookow

Lifer
Apr 24, 2001
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Originally posted by: Millennium
There are some fvcked up ass sexually repressed people on this board. Get help people. Seriously. I am not even trying to be funny. Get help. Damn.

Well, at least he isnt as bad as imtim82 or whatever that guys name is...
 

Zebo

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Originally posted by: DerwenArtos12
call me a dog, pervert, freak, or horny little boy. i have only met two women outside my family that i coud not do the "dirty deed" with and they are my pseudo sisters. any other girl that i find attractive i could do the dirty deed with. i do not personally see how this could be a problem for males.

and the way you are talking about makes you seem like a frickin stalker dude. and who do i think about while i am killing kittens as you so maturely put it is any number of people. rarely my girlfriend because then the next time i see them which is usually the same or next day it is kinda wierd cause i think of those images i killed kittens to and it is kinda wierd. but the conversatin that follows can be fun. telling your girlfriend exactly what you would dream fo doing to them can be fun if they are open to hearing these things.


LOL and no you're "normal" if there is such a thing.
 

Mookow

Lifer
Apr 24, 2001
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Originally posted by: dolph
Originally posted by: Zugzwang152
Originally posted by: dolph
did you really just ask atot who they fantasize about when they masturbate?

i think about you dolph ;):D

i so did not need to know that.

anyway, here's for you, walleye: most people would consider you as being sexually repressed. sex is a natural act meant to be enjoyed, and if you cannot enjoy it then something is wrong. if you see that everyone responding to this thread disagreeing with you, you might want to reconsider your own ideas. not change, but think about them. there's a reason the rest of us think the way we do, and it's not because we're Godless heathens.

Speak for yourself, man :p
 

DerwenArtos12

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yeah and you wouldn't guess by lookin at me. and i am only normal till you get me in bed. i do enjoy pain. pain for pleasure, oh yeah. i am getting my nipples pierced in about a month. sounds fun huh?
 

Mookow

Lifer
Apr 24, 2001
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Originally posted by: DerwenArtos12
yeah and you wouldn't guess by lookin at me. and i am only normal till you get me in bed. i do enjoy pain. pain for pleasure, oh yeah. i am getting my nipples pierced in about a month. sounds fun huh?

TMI, man... just TMI