Mixed Signals on proposal

[Gibson486]

SO, after doing my homework, I am having trouble with signal processing.

Here is the issue:

I am about to do a proposal next month after 2 months of research. Problem is, I am told not too spend money because of budget constraints. I, however, do seem to think it is appropriate to go all out. The thing I need to make this proposal complete is deciphering this mixed signal. I cannot seem to do it. I could say, screw the budget and go with my gut, but I know this will no go well with others involved. I feel kind of embarrassed asking you guys, because I really thought this was my area of expertise during college. Mixed signals is not as easy as I thought and it gets really complex.

SO, maybe you guys can help me decipher this for my proposal:

My gf says to not get an engagement ring...but I am not sure if she is just saying that or if she really means it. I mean...I invested 2 months in doing research and now I am told that my super secret security research is now useless....so...do I just listen to her, or do I buy a ring anyways?

 

[pcgeek11]

My gf says to not get an engagement ring...but I am not sure if she is just saying that or if she really means it.

Don't get a ring.

She shouldn't say it if she doesn't mean it. Worst case it could be a teachable moment for her.

 

[DesiPower]

L&R? am I missing something....?

 

[IndyColtsFan]

My gf says to not get an engagement ring...but I am not sure if she is just saying that or if she really means it. I mean...I invested 2 months in doing research and now I am told that my super secret security research is now useless....so...do I just listen to her, or do I buy a ring anyways?

Buy her one anyway. Are you thinking she may say "No" if you ask her to marry you?

Do not spend 2 or 3 months of salary on it (or whatever the corny "recommendation" is.)

 

[KB]

She says that now, but she will change her mind when everyone starts asking her to see the ring.
My advice would be to buy a cheap ring, then include in your proposal the offer to buy whatever ring she wants as long as it is under some affordable number (say $5000) or she can add her own money to the pot and get anything over $5000.

 

[IndyColtsFan]

Don't get a ring.

She shouldn't say it if she doesn't mean it. Worst case it could be a teachable moment for her.

OP, don't listen to this advice. A "teachable moment for her" translates into a "no sexy times for you moment."

Just get her a modest ring and make sure you can take it back -- just in case.

 

[Cuda1447]

Don't get a ring.

She shouldn't say it if she doesn't mean it. Worst case it could be a teachable moment for her.

You don't want to teach your future wife a 'lesson' during your proposal.


Ignore this horrible advice. You know her. If you didn't you wouldn't be proposing. Get her what you think she will like, ignore what she says. Don't break your bank to the point where it jeopardizes yours and hers future together, but spend some money and get something nice.

 

[SandEagle]

sounds like she's not interested in marrying you. sorry man, good luck

 

[Numenorean]

Get a ring.

 

[HardcoreRobot]

wife said no ring, i said ooooook... also after doing research

i mentally refused to propose without one, so I bought a nice blue topaz ring from a designer she likes and she was thrilled.

she wore it during the engagement and on occasion now. generally now its just the wedding band which we spent a little more on.

IMO, money very well NOT spent

 

[NoCreativity]

I proposed to my wife with a cheap Kohl's ring. We proceeded to go and pick out a real engagement ring we both liked. I'd say get her a cheaper ring, something that she can wear if she likes it (i.e. no costume jewelry). If she wants a "real" ring, you can both go and pick one out.

 

[Jaepheth]

Spend a few hundred on half round gold wire, gold sheet metal, gold solder, and a jewelry class at your local community college so you can use their acetylene torch, ring mandrels, hammers, flux, etc.
Then make a ring.

 

[lxskllr]

Spend a few hundred on half round gold wire, gold sheet metal, gold solder, and a jewelry class at your local community college so you can use their acetylene torch, ring mandrels, hammers, flux, etc.
Then make a ring.

I made my wedding ring out of copper :^D

 

[darkewaffle]

The tag on this post is awesome "ring; sorry; signals;".

 

[Flipped Gazelle]

If you like it, then you should put a ring on it.

 

[rasczak]

I made my wedding ring out of copper :^D

you cheap bastard. :awe:

 

[Slapstick]

The best advice so far, even if I say so myself. DON"T PROPOSE! Let me repeat that, "DON'T PROPOSE!''

 

[dpodblood]

Buy a ring.

 

[IndyColtsFan]

Here's a nice ring for you, since you're in Boston IIRC:

 

[tboo]

Is this an EE thread?

 

[Gibson486]

Here's a nice ring for you, since you're in Boston IIRC:

here are three options for yours

http://cdn0.sbnation.com/entry_photo_images/99179/1807124892_2a79b643d6_large.jpg

 

[Gibson486]

Is this an EE thread?

I am an EE....but this is not an EE thread, why do you ask:sneaky:

 

[gimmewhitecastles]

Here's a nice ring for you, since you're in Boston IIRC:

how bout this one?

just get her the ring. girls usually like their men to show initiative. that's why they don't admit they "want" something they secretly do want.

 

[IndyColtsFan]

Yeah, or this one:

 

[gimmewhitecastles]

These look nice as well..