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BigDonJohnson

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Ok, so we work together.

I've always had a thing for her and recently broke up with the gf of 3years. We started talking at work a lot, going out for lunch, etc.

Then we started talking on the phone and text messaging eachother crazily (400 in like 5 days).

The last 3 days she has been here til atleast 3 or 4 AM.

Now today we talked about how she wasnt really looking for a relationship, and didnt want to hurt me or lead me on. I told her I had feelings for her but she never said if she had any for me. She always said she still wants to cuddle.

Now she is on her way over (40 min drive) to watch a movie.

**EDIT** We havent messed around or anything, we just sit and talk and talk. So nothing has went down yet.

WTF is up?! Should I tell her I am willing to wait (I really like her) or what?

EDIT 2 - So she stayed here last night. Got here around 12, starting the cuddling around 3. DIdn't want to leave so we cuddled til 4:30 and she anted to stay over. Asked if she wanted to stay in my bed and she was all over it with a yes. Tagged her for an hour last night and twice since we got up today!

Woohoo, thanks all for your input. It ended up us cuddling in bed and she said she really wanted to kiss and asked if it was bad, and it was go time from there on in!
 
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Now today we talked about how she wasnt really looking for a relationship, and didnt want to hurt me or lead me on. I told her I had feelings for her but she never said if she had any for me. She always said she still wants to cuddle.
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She might change her mind if she knew you user-name here on ATOT BigDonJohnson :p
 
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BigDonJohnson

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Nah, I really respect her and like her enough that I don't feel the need to jump her bones. We just sit and watch movies and talk. I was with the last girl for 3 years so I'm kind of out of the loop a wee bit.
 
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If you tell her you're willing to wait, you'll become her emotional tampon and have to listen to all her worries and crap minus the sex - don't go there.

Best to pretend that she never said that she wasn't looking for a relationship. Don't press the issue, but carry on as the more-than-friends you're acting like right now and I give you odds that you'll end up in a relationship anyways.
 
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opticalmace

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just hit it. it's right there.

so she doesn't want a relationship. hitting it is no relationship!
gogogo.
 

It sounds like she's in it for the messing around. Tell us again why you haven't knocked the bottom out?
 
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BigDonJohnson

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Originally posted by: yllus
If you tell her you're willing to wait, you'll become her emotional tampon and have to listen to all her worries and crap minus the sex - don't go there.

Best to pretend that she never said that she wasn't looking for a relationship. Don't press the issue, but carry on as the more-than-friends you're acting like right now and I give you odds that you'll end up in a relationship anyways.
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Excellent advice. I think that's probably the best way to go about it. And yeah, tonight I'll slip a hand down and see what's up.
 
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Originally posted by: BigDonJohnson
Lol, I haven't touched it because I'm not in a hurry to get in a relationship.
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Touch it or lose it. I'm 100% serious. You wait long enough and she'll start wondering WTF you haven't tried yet. Then she'll chalk it up to you being a p@%^y or her being that unattractive, and cease contact with you for good.
Originally posted by: BigDonJohnson
Originally posted by: yllus
If you tell her you're willing to wait, you'll become her emotional tampon and have to listen to all her worries and crap minus the sex - don't go there.

Best to pretend that she never said that she wasn't looking for a relationship. Don't press the issue, but carry on as the more-than-friends you're acting like right now and I give you odds that you'll end up in a relationship anyways.
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Excellent advice. I think that's probably the best way to go about it. And yeah, tonight I'll slip a hand down and see what's up.
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She says she wants to cuddle, so cuddle.

But then again, you also said that you two work together. What kind of workplace? Minimum wage burger flipping or something corporate?



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BigDonJohnson

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I'm a supervisor at the Best Buy and she is a senior. 2 Totally different departments.

Rhin0: It's easy to hit it when u don't respect it. I didn't want to move too fast but since she doesn't want a relationship, maybe thats a sign that she just needs to get slammed.
 
UncleWai

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She is using you as a diaper,
she will dispose you once she's done sh!tting around with you.
 
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Originally posted by: cmdrmoocow
She says she wants to cuddle, so cuddle.

But then again, you also said that you two work together. What kind of workplace? Minimum wage burger flipping or something corporate?



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i want to know this also

edit: oops, he already answered
 
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Originally posted by: BigDonJohnson
I'm a supervisor at the Best Buy and she is a senior. 2 Totally different departments.

Rhin0: It's easy to hit it when u don't respect it. I didn't want to move too fast but since she doesn't want a relationship, maybe thats a sign that she just needs to get slammed.
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how old are both of you? just curious

edit: son of a biznatch!! you keep answering before i post!! :|
 
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