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Milwaukee Ads Wake Parents Up to Risks of Co-Sleeping

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Pretty harsh ads. My wife is pregnant with our first, but as wild as my wife sleeps, I wouldn't personally trust co-sleeping 🙂

But whatever floats your boat...

As reported in the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel, the campaign, unveiled last Wednesday, includes two posters of a baby lying in a bed next to a large knife. In one, the baby is white; in the other, the baby is black. “YOUR BABY SLEEPING NEXT TO YOU CAN BE JUST AS DANGEROUS,” the copy blares.
The second-leading cause of infant mortality in Milwaukee is SIDS, or sudden infant death syndrome, which often results from ”unsafe sleep,” according to the health department’s website. A form of “unsafe sleep” is bed-sharing with parents.

“Is it shocking? Is it provocative?” asked Bevan Baker, the city’s commissioner of health, according to the Journal Sentinel. ”Yes. But what is even more shocking and provocative is that 30 developed and underdeveloped countries have better [infant death] rates than Milwaukee.”

The Journal Sentinel said Milwaukee had an “infant mortality crisis.”

Milwaukee’s infant mortality rate in 2009 was 10.4 deaths for every 1,000 live births, according to the city’s health department. As noteworthy as this overall rate is the racial breakdown: For white babies, the rate was 5.4; for blacks, 14.1, the JS said.

The city has set a goal of reducing the infant mortality rate for blacks by 15 percent, and the overall rate by 10 percent by 2017, the JS said.

“Shame on Milwaukee Co-Sleeping Ads” was the title of Danielle625′s post on Baby’s First Year, a blog on the parenting website Babble. She co-slept with her three children and said co-sleeping — when “done safely” — was harmless, even beneficial, citing a page on the prominent parenting website Ask Dr. Sears.

A commenter on the post wrote: “As a Milwaukee resident and co-sleeper, I am hardly fazed by these ads. Milwaukee has an extremely high infant mortality rate and an alarming African American infant mortality rate. Unsafe sleeping conditions have been cited as a contributing factor to that rate.”

Raquel Filmanowicz, communications officer for the Milwaukee Health Department, said the city ran similarly provocative ads a year and a half ago, and received an overwhelmingly positive response. All ads follow up on the initial shock they may cause by offering a phone number for parents to call to receive a free Pack ‘N Play, a collapsible crib, she said.

“I’ll take some heat,” Mayor Tom Barrett told ABC News. ”Some ZIP codes in Milwaukee have infant mortality rates higher than Third World countries. That’s unacceptable.”

“If the ads make some people uncomfortable, I guarantee it’s a lot less uncomfortable than having another baby die from co-sleeping,” a cause of death that is “so preventable,” he added.

http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/lifesty...es-wake-parents-up-to-dangers-of-co-sleeping/
 
A little harsh, but it gets the point across.

My wife used to unintentionally fall asleep with our baby in her arms in our bed. Scary to think what could happen if she turned over in her sleep.

My friend's wife lets the infant sleep in bed with her.
 
we're on child #3. we didnt co-sleep with the first one. we did with our second and we are currently cosleeping with our third whos three months old.

the nurse went over the risks of cosleeping when we left the hospital and by the time we got home, my wife was so paranoid she didnt want to do it. But in the end she gave in (because you get a lot more sleep) and it works out fantastic. My wife is always aware of the baby in bed. Ive gotten use to it and curl up on the edge of the bed and dont really move from that spot. the baby will wake up, eat and fall right back asleep. And I strongly believe it makes the kids feel more secure.

So cosleeping does have its risks, but its a pretty natural way of doing things. Different strokes for different folks.
 
It's amazing the situation awareness you have of a baby in your bed while you're sleeping. Personally, I just end up sleeping on the very edge of the bed, nearly to the point I'm falling off. That leaves about 98% of the rest of a king-sized bed to my wife and wee one.

That said, you have to be aware of the risks too. One extended (unfortunately) family member lost a child to what was ruled as SIDS, but we all know that she pretty much smothered the baby sometime in the middle of the night. She's an extremely heavy sleeper - so have that the her kids used to cry/scream at the top of their lungs for 10-15 minutes and she still wouldn't get up. Then again, she's also a smoker, a drinker and likely imbibes several other substances as well. And also mentally deficient (legally declared) as well. The only thing she manages to do successfully is let pretty much any military dude with a pulse @ Ft. Drum fuck her and draw welfare checks.
 
When our kids outgrew the bassinet, they moved into our king sized bed. Once they hit about 2ish, they moved into their own bed. They sleep more soundly which is heaven for us sleep deprived parents 😀
 
My wife and I will not be "co-sleeping" with our soon to come son. We see the risk as too high.

I am a heavy sleeper and move a lot when I sleep, so does my wife. If we slept perfectly still it might be different.

We are also on opposite shifts though so we don't sleep at the same time so baby can be with the awake one (she sleeps 11pm - 7:00am, I sleep 7:30am - 3pm). Even with her on maternity for the next year we won't really have overlapping sleep schedules.
 
We have friends that have an 18-month old son.

She still breast feeds him (my wife says that as soon as the little one grows teeth, he's off the boob), they still co-sleep, when they have sex, the baby is still on the bed (that would creep me the hell out), and she won't let the kid out of her sight. She even often has reservations about leaving her son with her dad (who is one of the nicest guys you would ever want to meet) while she goes to the grocery store.

No babysitter is good enough to watch her kid. Her mother in law (who raised two kids might I add) was holding her grandson in the living room and he started crying. She starts to console him, then mom comes over, snatches the kid and walks away without saying a word.

She's become so absorbed that I think that kid is going to grow up to be the biggest pussy ever.
 
We have friends that have an 18-month old son.

She still breast feeds him (my wife says that as soon as the little one grows teeth, he's off the boob), they still co-sleep, when they have sex, the baby is still on the bed (that would creep me the hell out), and she won't let the kid out of her sight. She even often has reservations about leaving her son with her dad (who is one of the nicest guys you would ever want to meet) while she goes to the grocery store.

No babysitter is good enough to watch her kid. Her mother in law (who raised two kids might I add) was holding her grandson in the living room and he started crying. She starts to console him, then mom comes over, snatches the kid and walks away without saying a word.

She's become so absorbed that I think that kid is going to grow up to be the biggest pussy ever.

That or a serial killer.
 
I seriously doubt that co-sleeping is the reason why poor people in Milwaukee have such high infant mortality rates. Lack of prenatal and postnatal care, lack of education on the parts of the parents, nutrition and other factors all are much more likely contributors.




Pretty harsh ads. My wife is pregnant with our first, but as wild as my wife sleeps, I wouldn't personally trust co-sleeping :)

But whatever floats your boat...
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child 1: cradle -> co-sleeper attached to bed -> crib next to bed -> crib in separate room -> bed in separate room

child 2: mother co-sleeps with baby in twin bed -> toddler sleeps alone in twin bed

while i would consider my wife a heavy sleeper she's also much more paranoid about child safety so i don't think she slept very well during the co-sleeping.
 
why the hell would i sleep with a baby in my bed? i'm fully aware that anyone in bed with me will receive no blanket, legendary snoring and mad elbows.

In my case, add "and copious amounts of intensely aromatic methane" to your list. 😛

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I understand the people saying that the did it with no problems. But you have to remember that it's OK until something does happen.

The other down side is the dependency. My buddy has a 4 year old that still won't sleep in her room because she always has slept with them.
 
The other down side is the dependency. My buddy has a 4 year old that still won't sleep in her room because she always has slept with them.

That's my issue with it.

It seems that parents do it more to make themselves feel better, or feel that they're being a better parents by keeping their baby close versus actually helping the child out in the longrun.

It gets to my whole pussy comment above. We are raising a generation of pussies in America. Couple that with helicopter parents, and we're all going straight to hell 🙂
 
child 1: cradle -> co-sleeper attached to bed -> crib next to bed -> crib in separate room -> bed in separate room

child 2: mother co-sleeps with baby in twin bed -> toddler sleeps alone in twin bed

while i would consider my wife a heavy sleeper she's also much more paranoid about child safety so i don't think she slept very well during the co-sleeping.

Your wife ditched you and slept with the baby?
 
My wife started to co-sleep with our second child, as he had some health challenges and just wouldn't sleep comfortably anywhere else. This was also when I started sleeping in a separate bed from my wife, as I simply could not sleep with my son in the bed for fear of rolling on top of him, or smacking him while I fought off a dream godzilla.

In the end we got his exzema under control (figured out what he was allergic to) and he could sleep on his own, but funny enough, my wife and I still sleep apart since we both get so much more restful sleep that way.
 
This used to really freak me out when our son was a new born. I a few times literally jumped out of my sleep freaking out thinking we fell asleep with him in our bed with us. We were SOOOOOO tired at times in the first few days.

Thankfully we never actually did it but I did fall asleep while my wife was still up with him and she put him back in the crib without me even realizing it.

My new biggest fear now that he's opening doors is him running out into the garage behind me as I'm backing in. It's really a huge issue for me lately. I'm just so overly cautious after he came running out one time before my wife could stop him and I didn't even know it until moments before he got to me. 🙁

Now it's radio off, window down, constantly looking and listening. No more keep the song or podcast going as I back in like I used to.
 
My new biggest fear now that he's opening doors is him running out into the garage behind me as I'm backing in. It's really a huge issue for me lately. I'm just so overly cautious after he came running out one time before my wife could stop him and I didn't even know it until moments before he got to me. 🙁

Install a cheap slide bolt or chain high up on the door.
 
Our 2 month old splits time between her crib in the other room and her swing in ours.

She can nap in our bed when we are lazy and watching TV, but that's about it.
 
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