I think fear is at the core of liberalism, and love/trust is at the core of conservatism. Liberalism is about control. Conservatism is about self-empowerment.
This is an important distinction.
Control is a reaction to fear. I think in terms or politics and society the fear behind liberalism is the fear that someone might withhold things (opportunities, money, whatever) from me, fear that if you live your life in a way I dislike that it might affect my life, fear that if you get that job, there will be nothing left for me. Fear that if you make tons of money, its means theres less money out there for me. So these people seek control as a means of trying to create guarantees and safeguards against those circumstances they fear (re-distributive wealth policies).
Liberals try to control the world and people to enable their comfort and happiness. Which, as we know, is an endless quest. (*Think about fear created with Global Warming alarmists). Trying to control others does nothing in the way of making oneself happy. By extension, voting in this mindset so that government can try to control others will also shockingly not lead to a happier, more comfortable life.
The conservative (and moderate, independent, but for the sake of expediency, the conservative), on the other hand, relies on himself to meet his own needs. And the trade off of being free to live his life as he wishes is also understanding that he has to make peace with how you live yours. By extension, aware that he wants to be able to hold onto this liberty and freedom forever, the conservative votes accordingly, so that everyone can remain free and in charge of his or her own life.
But heres the crucial difference, I think, particularly in where misery on the left stems: The conservative does not worry, so to speak, about you. The conservative knows that you were born with the same access to self-love, self-empowerment, self-determination and self-reliance that we all were, no matter the circumstances into which you were born. (*Think about the millions of people this country has allowed to crawl up from poverty into prosperity the conservative KNOWS this is possible.)
The conservative believes that if you want prosperity, or a good job, or a good education, you can make it happen but you have to work hard. The conservative hopes and intends that the free markets bring you all of the affordable and positive opportunities and resources that you need. The conservative also knows that on the other side of that hard work is great reward material and, more importantly, emotional, spiritual and mental.
The conservative understands that not only is it a waste of time to try to control you, its actually impossible. Humans were born to be free, and if we put a roadblock in front of you, youll find another way around it. So we see attempts at control as a waste of resources, energy and time at best, and at worst, creating detrimental results that serve to hinder peoples upward mobility or teach dependence. We see much more efficiency, as well as endless opportunity, in leaving you to your own devices. We want the same in return, but Obama and his progressive policies are specifically counter to this belief. Hence, at an undefinable emotional level, conservative Americans are responding with outrage to these policies.