Meeting up with an ex for dinner tonight

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yowolabi

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Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower
Should I offer to pay for dinner?

What?! You're already helping her with her business plan for free. She should be paying for dinner as a thankyou.

Note: If you really might get some, than feel free to pay. It'll still be cheaper and safer than a prostitute.
 

Fritzo

Lifer
Jan 3, 2001
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Maybe she wants to work with single moms, and needs you to get a start.
 

arrfep

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Does no update mean too exhausted from all the secks and cannot type?
 
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Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower
Originally posted by: SampSon
Just work on getting into her pants. She is thinking the same thing.

I don't think she is thinking the same thing....she wants help on her business thing.
Because she doesn't know anyone else on the planet who can help her with this? Riiiight...

You haven't mentioned yet if she is single or not. (Or better yet, recently broken up)
 

daveymark

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if you pay for dinner, she owes you

If she's wearing a really short dress, she wants it

No means yes

I learned these things at prom

P.S. while giving her surprise sex, don't forget to grit your teeth and say "We're gonna have some fun - you OWE me."
 

eleison

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Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower
So this was my high school sweetheart....we were together for like 3 years. Since then we've been sort of friends...we talk 2-4 times a year. I haven't seen her for 4 years. But she wants to get dinner and needs help working on a business plan thing that she's trying to do ( a non-profit venture to help children in need).

Obviously, she's not looking to like get back together or hook up or anything, but it still makes me a bit nervous...she's way hot and the idea of getting with her is exciting. lol...

As a person who knows very little about women, there are a few things I noticed in your post:

1) "haven't seen her for 4 years"..... which begs the question, why is she suddenly interested in seeing you now?
2) "she's way hot"... which begs the question, why is she asking you? being hot, doesn't she have tons of guys willing to help her? Or are you an expert in business plans?

personally, I wouldn't take it too seriously... just take it as it is... a nice small dinner with an old friend -- nothing more nothing less.. enjoy the meal, pass the bread sticks.... AND hopefully she doesen't try anything funny like trying to ply you with wine to try and get into your pants :)
 

AMDZen

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If you haven't seen her in four years, what makes you think she's still hot?
 

zinfamous

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Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower
Originally posted by: FoBoT
:camera:'s?

LOL...when we were together, there wasn't such a thing as digital cameras....any pics i have are old 'film" pics. (if you're confused about what that "film" thing is, check out wikipedia)


are you unfamiliar with scanners? amazing, the technology these days...
 

ColdFusion718

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Since you are helping her, she pays for dinner. Anything you get on top of that is just bonus for a job well done. :D

Got it? She is paying for your time, bro. Please do not be like the typical frustrated guy, go against the grain and women will respect you for it (even if they say the opposite).

I was dating this girl about 2 months ago and after she gave me the "it's not you, it's me" spiel, I stopped talking to her. One time she wanted to watch TV on her computer but couldn't figure out how to do it. I said I'd help only if I got dinner in return. I helped her, she took me out to dinner and paid for it (not cheap, not very expensive either).

Since then, I haven't spoken to her. Did she use me? No. Did I use her? No.
 

manlymatt83

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What skills do you have that she would ask you and no one else for help? Is she just asking you for help? Could she ask someone else instead?
 

OneOfTheseDays

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Unless you are the only possible person on the planet she can find for help then you gotta question her motives here. Just reverse the situation.......would you contact an ex you want nothing to do with romantically for advice that you could get elsewhere? The only possible reason I would do such a thing was if I was desperate, lonely, and wanted sex. But hey it's just dinner and as long as you don't pay you have nothing to lose.
 

MichaelD

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/lawnchair
/popcorn

*munch-munch*

I had soooo many things to say to the OP...but you guys took care of it already. :D

UPDATE?