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shadow9d9

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I agree that it is a self-esteem issue... I'd never want my wife to get any "enhancements"... I do understand that it would be difficult to walk around being a girl without a chest, but there are many worse things.. I'd rather no chest than a fake one... My opinion.

 

bluestrobe

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I read through most of the pages and couldn't find a current "size" of the OP's g/f. Fake boobs are easy to spot and I lose respect for women who I see with them.
 

AreaCode707

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Lola, let them be. They aren't female and they will never get it, because it's way too easy for them to push off their various views (from "all women should look like porn stars" to "all women should cover their faces") on people they don't know and don't understand.

Like I said earlier, I would never get a boob job because I don't want the medical risks and it isn't my type of thing to do anyway, but I understand your reasons for wanting one. Just figure they don't and won't understand and let it go.
 

DAGTA

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Originally posted by: HotChic
Lola, let them be. They aren't female and they will never get it, because it's way too easy for them to push off their various views (from "all women should look like porn stars" to "all women should cover their faces") on people they don't know and don't understand.

Like I said earlier, I would never get a boob job because I don't want the medical risks and it isn't my type of thing to do anyway, but I understand your reasons for wanting one. Just figure they don't and won't understand and let it go.

I think men understand in a similar way. Men are constantly surrounded by the message that women like a large penis. Much like how women are constantly surrounded by the message that men like large boobs. If there was an easy surgery, similar to breast implants, to increase the size of the penis, there would be plenty of men getting that surgery. Their reason for doing so would be insecurity about their size.
 

MustangSVT

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personally I like her the way she is. But she wants them done.. talks about them once in awhile..
 

Cuda1447

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Originally posted by: bluestrobe
I read through most of the pages and couldn't find a current "size" of the OP's g/f. Fake boobs are easy to spot and I lose respect for women who I see with them.

My g/f wasn't actually wanting one. She'd consider it. But she doesn't actually want one right now or anything. We were just curious about somet things.
 

bob4432

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Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: PrinceofWands
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: Stojakapimp
Originally posted by: Cuda1447
Originally posted by: JinLien

I prefer natural and a GF that isn't insecure therefore the subject hasn?t arise with any GF yet.

Its not always about being insecure. Im not sure why everyone thinks that?

Sure it's about being insecure. Why else would people get them done? It's because of the fascination that our culture has with huge boobies, and if you don't have them, then you feel insecure about it. I'm curious to know what the other reasons would be, except for things like cancer etc...

how about because girls do not want to have to buy 75$ push up bras to fill out normal women's sized tops and dresses. because they don't want to shop in the little girls deptartment anymore.

And that is pretty much the definition of being insecure...ie shopping in the little girls dept makes you feel bad, due to social pressures and personal insecurities...and the same is basically true for the bra thing...if you don't want to spend the money, don't buy it. You'll not be thought less of for your chest size by anyone who matters, so your purchas to fit a social stigma is a sure sign of insecurity once again.

*shrug* I'm not attacking you, merely pointing out that the statements you make support his comment about insecurity, not refute it.

Just picutre me screaming this because i am DONE trying to make people see a different point of view...

i was annoyed by it. it didnt make me feel bad. i felt annoyed. what the HELL kinds of social pressures come with not being able to fit into tops that I LIKE... not my husband, not random people in a magazine... ME.
In all honesty, i usually never wore bras if i didn't have to, but unless i wanted to spend big bucks to have clothes made for me, i had to get a push up bra to fill in any sort of clothing that appealed to me. Some people actually like looking nice and having clothes that fit. :roll:
GAH! stop digging trying to find reasons that women get this done for self esteem or insecurity issues or that just because they have the oppertunity to do something because they want to makes them wrong.

I am not self absorbed at ALL, but i can guarentee that if you saw me in real life, if you didn't know who i was, you would stare at my chest if i walked by and would have no idea that i had a BA.

LOLA - please relax, you don't need to defend your position. i would say 95% of these people on here wouldn't even have a chance with a chic like you.

i too probably won't respond any more becasue people are pretty set in their ways on this topic(?), but like you said, if they viewed you walking down the street, they would stare and wish.

just out of curiosity, what is your BA in? you can pm if you want to answer so as not to have all the jealous haters on here bag on everything a good looking chic does. if you don't want to answer that is cool to, i was just curious

in all honesty, i am rather surprised by the results, but i guess it is just the demographics of the board. if we had this topic on a car site or sports site, i am sure the responses would have been different.

DAGTA - i think you hit the nail on the head :thumbsup:
 

IFICUDIWUD

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My wife had 3 children and is 51 yrs old. I am 52 and reall do enjoy my wifes breasts. Its as if they had been rejuvinated. This was not a decision of mine but my wifes. And oh by the way unless the breasts are yours you really have no say in the decision as far as that goes.. you may have a preference and an opinion but you know what opinions are like.
 
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Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: PrinceofWands
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: Stojakapimp
Originally posted by: Cuda1447
Originally posted by: JinLien

I prefer natural and a GF that isn't insecure therefore the subject hasn?t arise with any GF yet.

Its not always about being insecure. Im not sure why everyone thinks that?

Sure it's about being insecure. Why else would people get them done? It's because of the fascination that our culture has with huge boobies, and if you don't have them, then you feel insecure about it. I'm curious to know what the other reasons would be, except for things like cancer etc...

how about because girls do not want to have to buy 75$ push up bras to fill out normal women's sized tops and dresses. because they don't want to shop in the little girls deptartment anymore.

And that is pretty much the definition of being insecure...ie shopping in the little girls dept makes you feel bad, due to social pressures and personal insecurities...and the same is basically true for the bra thing...if you don't want to spend the money, don't buy it. You'll not be thought less of for your chest size by anyone who matters, so your purchas to fit a social stigma is a sure sign of insecurity once again.

*shrug* I'm not attacking you, merely pointing out that the statements you make support his comment about insecurity, not refute it.

Just picutre me screaming this because i am DONE trying to make people see a different point of view...

i was annoyed by it. it didnt make me feel bad. i felt annoyed. what the HELL kinds of social pressures come with not being able to fit into tops that I LIKE... not my husband, not random people in a magazine... ME.
In all honesty, i usually never wore bras if i didn't have to, but unless i wanted to spend big bucks to have clothes made for me, i had to get a push up bra to fill in any sort of clothing that appealed to me. Some people actually like looking nice and having clothes that fit. :roll:
GAH! stop digging trying to find reasons that women get this done for self esteem or insecurity issues or that just because they have the oppertunity to do something because they want to makes them wrong.

I am not self absorbed at ALL, but i can guarentee that if you saw me in real life, if you didn't know who i was, you would stare at my chest if i walked by and would have no idea that i had a BA.

Please accept my apology if I offended you, it was not my intent. From a purely psychological aspect, what you are describing IS insecurity. It is caving/conforming to social norms established thru media pressures. There is no inherent 'right' way to be, so any example you're trying to match is a created one, not a real one. I understand it was your desire, and that's fine. I never said you shouldn't have done it, or shouldn't be allowed to have it done...only that people usually get it done because of the reasons already stated.

You equate a large chest with looking nice, myself (and others) may equate a small chest to looking nice. *shrug* see my point? It's just an opinion, there is no 'rightness' to fit. You did what you wanted, bravo.

As for wanting clothing that fits, sounds to me like you missed an opportunity. If no one makes good clothes for smaller chested women, then there's an immense market waiting to be tapped. I'm sure many women would thank someone sincerely for providing clothing made for them. Hell, there's clothes for big & tall, fat, pregnant, etc...why not small chests too?

If I saw you in real life, no I wouldn't likely stare at your chest. I tend to stare when I see a chest that matches my interests...ie small. I pretty much never glance twice at anyone C cup or over as it doesn't excite me at all. I might have to stare if you were nipping or something, just because that's sort of an attention drawer....but otherwise nope. So for me, it's not about having a boob job, it's about looking better smaller. Again, personal opinion, but one held by millions.
 
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Originally posted by: DAGTA
Originally posted by: HotChic
Lola, let them be. They aren't female and they will never get it, because it's way too easy for them to push off their various views (from "all women should look like porn stars" to "all women should cover their faces") on people they don't know and don't understand.

Like I said earlier, I would never get a boob job because I don't want the medical risks and it isn't my type of thing to do anyway, but I understand your reasons for wanting one. Just figure they don't and won't understand and let it go.

I think men understand in a similar way. Men are constantly surrounded by the message that women like a large penis. Much like how women are constantly surrounded by the message that men like large boobs. If there was an easy surgery, similar to breast implants, to increase the size of the penis, there would be plenty of men getting that surgery. Their reason for doing so would be insecurity about their size.

Agreed.
 

dawnbug

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Originally posted by: chambersc
Originally posted by: Malak
Absolutely not. Of course, I wouldn't ever date someone that shallow.

you assume so much. what if, like im my GFs situation, she's carrying around double-ds. They hurt her back and she wants them reduced. Would you still castigate her for her medical decision then?

I think that's a little different. They're causing her physical pain.
 
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Originally posted by: bob4432
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: PrinceofWands
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: Stojakapimp
Originally posted by: Cuda1447
Originally posted by: JinLien

I prefer natural and a GF that isn't insecure therefore the subject hasn?t arise with any GF yet.

Its not always about being insecure. Im not sure why everyone thinks that?

Sure it's about being insecure. Why else would people get them done? It's because of the fascination that our culture has with huge boobies, and if you don't have them, then you feel insecure about it. I'm curious to know what the other reasons would be, except for things like cancer etc...

how about because girls do not want to have to buy 75$ push up bras to fill out normal women's sized tops and dresses. because they don't want to shop in the little girls deptartment anymore.

And that is pretty much the definition of being insecure...ie shopping in the little girls dept makes you feel bad, due to social pressures and personal insecurities...and the same is basically true for the bra thing...if you don't want to spend the money, don't buy it. You'll not be thought less of for your chest size by anyone who matters, so your purchas to fit a social stigma is a sure sign of insecurity once again.

*shrug* I'm not attacking you, merely pointing out that the statements you make support his comment about insecurity, not refute it.

Just picutre me screaming this because i am DONE trying to make people see a different point of view...

i was annoyed by it. it didnt make me feel bad. i felt annoyed. what the HELL kinds of social pressures come with not being able to fit into tops that I LIKE... not my husband, not random people in a magazine... ME.
In all honesty, i usually never wore bras if i didn't have to, but unless i wanted to spend big bucks to have clothes made for me, i had to get a push up bra to fill in any sort of clothing that appealed to me. Some people actually like looking nice and having clothes that fit. :roll:
GAH! stop digging trying to find reasons that women get this done for self esteem or insecurity issues or that just because they have the oppertunity to do something because they want to makes them wrong.

I am not self absorbed at ALL, but i can guarentee that if you saw me in real life, if you didn't know who i was, you would stare at my chest if i walked by and would have no idea that i had a BA.

LOLA - please relax, you don't need to defend your position. i would say 95% of these people on here wouldn't even have a chance with a chic like you.

i too probably won't respond any more becasue people are pretty set in their ways on this topic(?), but like you said, if they viewed you walking down the street, they would stare and wish.

just out of curiosity, what is your BA in? you can pm if you want to answer so as not to have all the jealous haters on here bag on everything a good looking chic does. if you don't want to answer that is cool to, i was just curious

in all honesty, i am rather surprised by the results, but i guess it is just the demographics of the board. if we had this topic on a car site or sports site, i am sure the responses would have been different.

DAGTA - i think you hit the nail on the head :thumbsup:

ROFL

I'm guessing that BA = Breast Augmentation...the politically correct term for a boob job. :cool:

As for 'having a chance' I don't date insecure women, so it's really irrelevant (not saying she is, just that most women who get such surgeries are). I also don't date based on looks, because I'm not shallow and base. But thanks for playing. :cool:
 

dawnbug

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Originally posted by: PrinceofWands
Originally posted by: bob4432
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: PrinceofWands
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: Stojakapimp
Originally posted by: Cuda1447
Originally posted by: JinLien

I prefer natural and a GF that isn't insecure therefore the subject hasn?t arise with any GF yet.

Its not always about being insecure. Im not sure why everyone thinks that?

Sure it's about being insecure. Why else would people get them done? It's because of the fascination that our culture has with huge boobies, and if you don't have them, then you feel insecure about it. I'm curious to know what the other reasons would be, except for things like cancer etc...

how about because girls do not want to have to buy 75$ push up bras to fill out normal women's sized tops and dresses. because they don't want to shop in the little girls deptartment anymore.

And that is pretty much the definition of being insecure...ie shopping in the little girls dept makes you feel bad, due to social pressures and personal insecurities...and the same is basically true for the bra thing...if you don't want to spend the money, don't buy it. You'll not be thought less of for your chest size by anyone who matters, so your purchas to fit a social stigma is a sure sign of insecurity once again.

*shrug* I'm not attacking you, merely pointing out that the statements you make support his comment about insecurity, not refute it.

Just picutre me screaming this because i am DONE trying to make people see a different point of view...

i was annoyed by it. it didnt make me feel bad. i felt annoyed. what the HELL kinds of social pressures come with not being able to fit into tops that I LIKE... not my husband, not random people in a magazine... ME.
In all honesty, i usually never wore bras if i didn't have to, but unless i wanted to spend big bucks to have clothes made for me, i had to get a push up bra to fill in any sort of clothing that appealed to me. Some people actually like looking nice and having clothes that fit. :roll:
GAH! stop digging trying to find reasons that women get this done for self esteem or insecurity issues or that just because they have the oppertunity to do something because they want to makes them wrong.

I am not self absorbed at ALL, but i can guarentee that if you saw me in real life, if you didn't know who i was, you would stare at my chest if i walked by and would have no idea that i had a BA.

LOLA - please relax, you don't need to defend your position. i would say 95% of these people on here wouldn't even have a chance with a chic like you.

i too probably won't respond any more becasue people are pretty set in their ways on this topic(?), but like you said, if they viewed you walking down the street, they would stare and wish.

just out of curiosity, what is your BA in? you can pm if you want to answer so as not to have all the jealous haters on here bag on everything a good looking chic does. if you don't want to answer that is cool to, i was just curious

in all honesty, i am rather surprised by the results, but i guess it is just the demographics of the board. if we had this topic on a car site or sports site, i am sure the responses would have been different.

DAGTA - i think you hit the nail on the head :thumbsup:

ROFL

I'm guessing that BA = Breast Augmentation...the politically correct term for a boob job. :cool:

As for 'having a chance' I don't date insecure women, so it's really irrelevant (not saying she is, just that most women who get such surgeries are). I also don't date based on looks, because I'm not shallow and base. But thanks for playing. :cool:

I thought the BA comment was funny too. :)

 

Koing

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Originally posted by: bob4432
Originally posted by: Koing
Originally posted by: bob4432
our society is so f*cked up that if a women wants breast implants she is shallow, but if a man wants a drug induced woody, that is all good....wtf???? hypocrites

The guy has a condition that means he can't get an erection. The womans breasts still do their function.

I suppose the man could live without intercourse but what about his quality of life? But then what about the womans quality of life with smaller breasts?

Koing

i can see what you are saying, but i am just making a point about the different sets of "accepted"conditions between the sexes. if a 75yr old male can't get it up because he is old, there is a "accepted medical" remedy, ie a pill, where if a woman wants larger breast the way to fix that is a augmentation, but that part does not seem to be so accepted, especially here.

Indeed.

NOW if we had a pill to increase breasts size = $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ for the makers! Same for penis enlargement. That would make for some very rich companies!

Another thing girls have it much tougher in life then guys do. They get paid less for doing the same jobs, hardly any of them are in the top tier jobs, CEO/ head positions etc, politicians etc but you get the picture.

So much more pressure to look this way or dress this way from the media. Most guys don't give a sh!t but some do. Guys get the pressure but most just DON'T CARE either way.

If some how the world was made that all men had to wear tight spandex boxers on I'm sure a lot of guys would be putting socks etc down their pants. But the fact is the world isn't like that. Womens breasts are pretty much out in the open and men (some) are just complete DAWGS.

Koing
 

oddyager

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As long as she understands the steps involved, the risks, and if it makes her happy, then she has my support 100%.
 

3chordcharlie

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Um... both? I would prefer my SO to remain natural, but if she really wanted surgery, I would support her.
 

EXman

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Originally posted by: chuckywang
I would object since I feel a boob job is a clear sign of a woman who cares too much about her superficial features.

OK and by that statement let's not let them go to the mall and buy make-up, nice clothes, killer shoes, sexy underwear, diet pills, diet coke, an "ab-lounge XL"' and anything else that dare I say might make them a little more feminin. :roll::shocked:

Why is it superficial? And who are you to Judge? Who am I? I still think the nerds were don't know what they are missing.

On the other hand a great looking 20yo woman I know embarrassed the crap out of me today while in front of my female co-workers she whispers loudly "notice anything about my ..." and grabs her shirt around the chest area. "I had a breast reduction! How do you like them?!" she was so proud I just couldn't think of anything else to say but "Those are so wonderful breasts." as I wanted to dissolve into the backround as all the ladies I work with gasp as I spoke. Insert foot here :p she is only 12 years my junior and only looks 7-8.

Lola if these lame's get you down grab some oil and well let wiz and yourself enjoy what others NEVER will... Your Great purchased RACK!

:D
 

CVSiN

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Originally posted by: Cuda1447
First of all, Lolawiz or anyone else who has had experience with breast augmentation maybe can answer this question for us. After getting the procedure done, do the boobs still feel real? Have then same feeling? How long did it take to recover? Etc...



Now for the guys. If YOUR girlfriend wanted to get it done, would you encourage her, object, or be neutral about it? Explain why.

fakes always suck... only good reason to get them done would be after breast cancer when they had to remove one. or both..
otherwise natural is better... and if my girl was that self consious about not having C-DDs then i dont want her aroudn anyway.
Id rather have a woman that is secure with herself.
 

CVSiN

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Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: JonnyStarks
Originally posted by: Cuda1447
Originally posted by: JinLien

I prefer natural and a GF that isn't insecure therefore the subject hasn?t arise with any GF yet.

Its not always about being insecure. Im not sure why everyone thinks that?

For what other reason would you get it done?

to not have to buy special bras to give you fake breasts, to not have to shop in the girls department of stores, to make oneself feel sexy sans clothes. to walk on the beach and not hunch over to hide yourself.

No matter what anyone says, apperance is imoportant. maybe not ALL the time, but a lot of the time.
I could go on and on and on and on.


everything you just said is signs of insecurity...
which are all the wrong reasons to get them done..
a woman should be happy with what they were given.. instead of mucking up perfection...
id rather have a girl that is proud of her atheltic small A-Bs than some insecure drama queen that needs 5 lbs of silicon mounted to her chest to feel normal..

 

CVSiN

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Originally posted by: bob4432
lola don't listen to these people who don't have a clue.

come on all you guys that love to look at the pr0n or look at women that have nice bodies with proportinally sized breasts, why don't we bring up the male version of boob jobs - the pen!s pumps, enhancements??? come on guys lets talk about that since everybody has the joy of talking all this sh!t about women....

what about cialis, viagra??? in the case of men, it is all about self esteem so quit judging because if you had some issue (regardless of whether it was mental, physical, or you just couldn't last more than a 2 pump chump) where your woody wouldn't get wood, i am sure you would be talking to the doc to get some of these drugs, or even an implant and doubt you would admit it

our society is so f*cked up that if a women wants breast implants she is shallow, but if a man wants a drug induced woody, that is all good....wtf???? hypocrites


You are a moron.... flat out and total...
Cialis and Viagra are for men that CANNOT MEDICALLY GAIN AN ERECTION AT ALL... MEANING NO SEX NO REPRODUCTION...
Boob jobs are for the insecure woman that dont think they can fill out a shirt and look like a stripper...
everyone already stated almost 100% that medical reasons needing a reduction or an implant are ok...
why dont you do a little homework about ED before you talk crap..
ED means without the drug you dont get hard at All or cannot stay hard enough to enter into intercourse... its not for sportfvcking as lots of peopel use it for WHICH I AM ALSO AGAINST... that is drug abuse and falls into to same catagory as other illegal drug use.

 
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I would advise against. I'm a medical student and I can tell you surgery is never "minor". I would only go under the knife if i absolutley had to.

Personally i've never really cared about breast size. Provided theyr not really huge...yuk.

You said she didn't want it but had considered:
Why did she consider it? Is it because of you? Something else?
There has to be a reason find that out first.