Not really a factor on both accounts from my experience/ observations.Originally posted by: Orsorum
I've wondered about this for the last few years. Some of the thoughts I've had:
1. Friendships. If you get married young, you're more likely to have friends (either single or couples) who know both of you as a complete entity, are comfortable with both of you, etc. If you get married later (late 20s) it seems likely that you both would have built up separate friendship circles that may or may not be compatible.
2. Finances. Same reasoning as before, if you marry young you're more likely to have intertwined finances, joint accounts, and all the pluses and negatives that go with it. If you get married in your late 20s you're more like to have separate finances, houses, cars, etc, and more of an individual ownership attitude toward your possessions.
That's actually all I can think of right now. It's been a long day.
actually, he probably saw it on a special on lifetime... while his girlfriend had his balls in her hand.... hahahahaha
i cant stop laughing at the blurbs...
i cant stop laughing at the blurbs...
Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe
Not really a factor on both accounts from my experience/ observations.Originally posted by: Orsorum
I've wondered about this for the last few years. Some of the thoughts I've had:
1. Friendships. If you get married young, you're more likely to have friends (either single or couples) who know both of you as a complete entity, are comfortable with both of you, etc. If you get married later (late 20s) it seems likely that you both would have built up separate friendship circles that may or may not be compatible.
2. Finances. Same reasoning as before, if you marry young you're more likely to have intertwined finances, joint accounts, and all the pluses and negatives that go with it. If you get married in your late 20s you're more like to have separate finances, houses, cars, etc, and more of an individual ownership attitude toward your possessions.
That's actually all I can think of right now. It's been a long day.
I've been wrong before.
I'm on my first marriage. Wife has been married once before. Of the 30+ friends I've had that married <25 only two are married to the original wife/ husband. They all 100% believed they would make it.
I missed the special on Fox.
Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe
I'm on my first marriage. Wife has been married once before. Of the 30+ friends I've had that married <25 only two are married to the original wife/ husband. They all 100% believed they would make it.
I missed the special on Fox.
How old are you, and how long have you been married?
edmundoab
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wow, I would say thats young.
But we see it ever so often. Maybe reasons to get married because of an "accident"
and that is the best way to bring the baby up.
As much as society thinks its too young, but we do see every now and then couples getting married at a young age.
Hope they know what commitments to expect and also the sacrifices they have to start having at such a young age.
Then, its their choice and one should just wish them all the best for a happy marriage.
They'll cope some how. Where there is a will, there is a way
But we see it ever so often. Maybe reasons to get married because of an "accident"
and that is the best way to bring the baby up.
As much as society thinks its too young, but we do see every now and then couples getting married at a young age.
Hope they know what commitments to expect and also the sacrifices they have to start having at such a young age.
Then, its their choice and one should just wish them all the best for a happy marriage.
They'll cope some how. Where there is a will, there is a way
32, dated for two years, married for 8. I am one of the two I posted about.Originally posted by: notfred
Originally posted by: QuitBanningMe
I'm on my first marriage. Wife has been married once before. Of the 30+ friends I've had that married <25 only two are married to the original wife/ husband. They all 100% believed they would make it.
I missed the special on Fox.
How old are you, and how long have you been married?
Anyway poeple can talk about "vague statistics" all they want. The fact is the percentage of marriages ending in divorce is cut by over half when the age at marriage is >25. Hell I quoted a statistic that was waaaayyyyy lower than my personal observations.
Also people can speak of their personal convctions/ values toward marriage but that is only half of involved parties. I don't care how well you think you know your partner you are not aware of their inermost thoughts. Read any divorce/ breakup threads lately?
Like I said it is too young imo but I would stay the fvck out of it.
In love? It will last forever? Great....why the rush to marriage?
Edit: Also the commitment to make it work thing......does it take work? yes. At the same time that doesn't mean the parties involved really want to stay married. The "work" is usually done for other reasons like kids or not wanting to go through a divorce.
I have a friend in an arranged marriage but he doesn't want to be in it. Will he get a divorce? No......."it is frowned upon"
My 88 year old grandma who was married for 60+ years has mentioned several times if society not looked down on it she likely would not have stayed married. Of course she also says she wouldn't have gotten married to begin with.
Times have changed. If you are not happy not as much stigma comes with divorce. It isn't just the "easy way out".
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JulesMaximus
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just think, as the average life expectancy is going up ( i believe its getting close to 80 now), and you get married at 20, you're hypotheticaly going to be living with this SO for 60 years!!! I'm sorry, but thats just waaaaaaaaaaay too long to go without sex for.
I think the main problem with getting married while your young, and why it fails is.
1) If you get married because she got pregnant
2) Get married and are financially irresponsible
3) Just arent compatible in some key ways, including financial responsibility.
If you are graduating college, starting a new job, and get married at 21, and are financially responsible I think that is a good way to go Especially if you have known/dated that person for years
then again i might be biased
1) If you get married because she got pregnant
2) Get married and are financially irresponsible
3) Just arent compatible in some key ways, including financial responsibility.
If you are graduating college, starting a new job, and get married at 21, and are financially responsible I think that is a good way to go
Especially if you have known/dated that person for yearsthen again i might be biased
Different circumstances for different people. If I found the right woman right now (I'm 21), I would have no problem marrying her - but I would probably want to postpone it until I had finished graduate school, just to get a little more financially stable before undergoing something like that.
alkemyst
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true, the key is though for them to have experienced what they want to experience first.
If they had dated 20-30 people and the like, they may have enough to go on...but anyone dating one person only ending in marriage is going to get to that point where they want to bang someone else. Unless both are very old-fashioned and stay old-fashioned there is no hope.
i have a lot of friends who are happily married -- some even got married after FRESHMAN year of college.
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