Marriage

[ILoveLamp]

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: ILoveLamp

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: ILoveLamp

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: ILoveLamp

Originally posted by: rh71
You're asking... you're about to break it off... just go ahead and explain it...

Actually I'm not with anyone at the moment, but friends and people my age are starting to get engaged/think about marriage, and I just wanted to know if any of you were dating someone or in a relationship even though there was no possibility of marriage in the future. I feel like, at a certain point, dating is just a means to get to that one person you want to spend the rest of your life with, so I guess I'm trying to understand the point in staying with someone you know you wouldn't want to marry.

how fat are you?

Hahaha why do you think I'm fat?

"I guess I'm trying to understand the point in staying with someone you know you wouldn't want to marry."

That's why.

same reason i drive my POS car. it costs alot to feed it, get terrible milage out of it, my friend laugh whenever they see me with it, but it's better than walking.

So you're saying you'd rather stay in a relationship you know isn't going anywhere than be single? Pathetic.

And you're asking about love on a geek forum. You = more pathetic

Haha hey, just trying to get some opinions.

 

[SmoochyTX]

Originally posted by: ILoveLamp

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: ILoveLamp

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: ILoveLamp

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: ILoveLamp

Originally posted by: rh71
You're asking... you're about to break it off... just go ahead and explain it...

Actually I'm not with anyone at the moment, but friends and people my age are starting to get engaged/think about marriage, and I just wanted to know if any of you were dating someone or in a relationship even though there was no possibility of marriage in the future. I feel like, at a certain point, dating is just a means to get to that one person you want to spend the rest of your life with, so I guess I'm trying to understand the point in staying with someone you know you wouldn't want to marry.

how fat are you?

Hahaha why do you think I'm fat?

"I guess I'm trying to understand the point in staying with someone you know you wouldn't want to marry."

That's why.

same reason i drive my POS car. it costs alot to feed it, get terrible milage out of it, my friend laugh whenever they see me with it, but it's better than walking.

So you're saying you'd rather stay in a relationship you know isn't going anywhere than be single? Pathetic.

And you're asking about love on a geek forum. You = more pathetic

Haha hey, just trying to get some opinions.

Still waiting for pics....

 

[ILoveLamp]

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: ILoveLamp

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: ILoveLamp

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: ILoveLamp

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: ILoveLamp

Originally posted by: rh71
You're asking... you're about to break it off... just go ahead and explain it...

Actually I'm not with anyone at the moment, but friends and people my age are starting to get engaged/think about marriage, and I just wanted to know if any of you were dating someone or in a relationship even though there was no possibility of marriage in the future. I feel like, at a certain point, dating is just a means to get to that one person you want to spend the rest of your life with, so I guess I'm trying to understand the point in staying with someone you know you wouldn't want to marry.

how fat are you?

Hahaha why do you think I'm fat?

"I guess I'm trying to understand the point in staying with someone you know you wouldn't want to marry."

That's why.

same reason i drive my POS car. it costs alot to feed it, get terrible milage out of it, my friend laugh whenever they see me with it, but it's better than walking.

So you're saying you'd rather stay in a relationship you know isn't going anywhere than be single? Pathetic.

And you're asking about love on a geek forum. You = more pathetic

Haha hey, just trying to get some opinions.

Still waiting for pics....

Well enjoy your wait 😉

 

[Looney]

So you're saying you'd rather stay in a relationship you know isn't going anywhere than be single? Pathetic.

What's so pathetic about it? Does everybody know immediately if the person they're with is the person they want to spend a lifetime with? And even if by chance you do KNOW the relationship won't be anything more, what's wrong with that? As long as you're not leading the other person, and the relationship is consensual, i see nothing wrong or 'pathetic' about it.

 

[Trygve]

Originally posted by: ILoveLamp

Actually I'm not with anyone at the moment, but friends and people my age are starting to get engaged/think about marriage, and I just wanted to know if any of you were dating someone or in a relationship even though there was no possibility of marriage in the future. I feel like, at a certain point, dating is just a means to get to that one person you want to spend the rest of your life with, so I guess I'm trying to understand the point in staying with someone you know you wouldn't want to marry.

I've known a lot of women who are dead-set against getting into any kind of serious relationship, but still wanted their share of casual ones, so that's one common reason. Then there are plenty of people who feel they need to be with *somebody*, and they won't go too long without picking out at least a temporary partner to tide them over until they meet someone they're actually interested in.

 

[tami]

i knew my husband was the one pretty early on in the relationship. for me, it just was a feeling. i saw no cons to marriage (and i still don't).

 

[KarenMarie]

the b/f fell in love with me on ....hour two, date one...

6yrs later... he still wants to marry me, and i am not into getting married. we own a home together, take care of VeggieFrog and rescue kitties together.

that is enough for me right now.
🙂

 

[Scarpozzi]

I would marry my gf....If, for some reason, my feelings changed....I'd find someone new.

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie
my gf got pregnant, so for tax purposes, i married her.

best financial investment of my career.

i feel bad if having an unplanned kid is really the best financial investment you've made.

 

[dirtboy]

I am planning on marrying my SO. I stayed with my ex-gf for awhile, even though I knew from the first date I would never marry her, just for sex.

 

[SacrosanctFiend]

I just broke it off with my fiancee two months ago. I'm with someone new, whom I really like, and, while I'm not excluding it down the road, I'm not even thinking about marriage.

 

[jjones]

Originally posted by: ILoveLamp
I guess I'm trying to understand the point in staying with someone you know you wouldn't want to marry.

Sex. I've prolonged relationships in the past simply because the sex was very good.

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
the b/f fell in love with me on ....hour two, date one...

6yrs later... he still wants to marry me, and i am not into getting married. we own a home together, take care of VeggieFrog and rescue kitties together.

that is enough for me right now.
🙂

You are going to be common law married soon.....might as well just get a ring out of it.

 

[dethman]

i like relationships for sex and fun. i will find someone to marry eventually.

 

[BlueWeasel]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
the b/f fell in love with me on ....hour two, date one...

6yrs later... he still wants to marry me, and i am not into getting married. we own a home together, take care of VeggieFrog and rescue kitties together.

that is enough for me right now.
🙂

I know you've probably been asked this question before, and if you have just point me to the answer. But why not marriage?

There's a certain bit of maturity to your posts (I'm not calling you old, but it's easy to pick up). You've talked a good bit about your SO in other posts, so I honestly just assumed you were married.

 

[KarenMarie]

Originally posted by: Nitemare

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
the b/f fell in love with me on ....hour two, date one...

6yrs later... he still wants to marry me, and i am not into getting married. we own a home together, take care of VeggieFrog and rescue kitties together.

that is enough for me right now.
🙂

You are going to be common law married soon.....might as well just get a ring out of it.

No common law marriage in the state of New Jersey! And I have loads of rings.. posted a pic..upon request... a while back.. I have loads of all sorts of bobbles from him. Now, there is a certain diamond I have my eye on... and if he wants to call it an engagement ring.. fine 🙂 It will be the longest engagement in history.

Originally posted by: BlueWeasel

I know you've probably been asked this question before, and if you have just point me to the answer. But why not marriage?

There's a certain bit of maturity to your posts (I'm not calling you old, but it's easy to pick up). You've talked a good bit about your SO in other posts, so I honestly just assumed you were married.

Maturity in my posts.. hahaha! I am 42yrs old. VeggieFrog is 21yrs old.
My b/f is a wonderful guy! I am confident that if the majority of women on the planet were to sit and draw a list of the PERFECT guy... if he is not spot on, he is damn close... As for my personal perfection list... well, he has stuff that I never put on my list, cause I never believed it possible that I Would ever find it.

Why not marriage... that is a *me* thing... has nothing to do with him. I am not happy in me, to be honest. There area lot of things that I need to work on to be happy with myself again... and I will not enter into a lifelong commitment with a promise of "for better or worse" when I feel like I am getting all the better and him all the worse. He says I am silly to feel this way, and I am the bestest thing that could ever have happened to him... but it is a me thing.

Also, I HATE where we live... he is not ready to move yet and I think that if I get married now, it is kinda like condoning thay we stay.

I have been married before, and it was a disaster. I only have one chance left... and I will ensure that it is right... I think it is foolish to enter into a marriage and hope things will get better... I believe that a marriage should be entered into when everything is good, with a promise that whatever comes will be worked out.

Problably a LOT more info than you asked for, or anyone here cares about.. but there is it.

🙂

 

[Aharami]

yes

 

[NuroMancer]

Quick question: How old is the boyfriend KarenMarie?

 

[KarenMarie]

Originally posted by: NuroMancer
Quick question: How old is the boyfriend KarenMarie?

I turned 42 on May 18th and he will be 40 on August 16th.
He has never been married and has no children. He says he has been waiting for me.

🙂

 

[Rumpltzer]

I was dating a girl once, and we weren't in love and had no intentions of getting married. We just sort of leaned on one another, I guess, and we were okay with it for about a year. It ended, and that was not a big deal either.

I married a girl in December. After less than two years, it was clear to me that she's the one I want. My wife and I have talked about it and we both agree that being married is not so different than before we were married.

Of course, my girlfriend doesn't agree. She's not too happy that I'm married. 😀

 

[Linux23]

My question is, what are the benefits of marriage? What magically changes when you say "I do"?

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: ILoveLamp
For all of you out there in a relationship, would you ever consider marrying your boyfriend/girlfriend? And if not, why are you continuing the relationship? Just wondering...

I think you're limiting yourself with the assumption that the sole purpose of a relationship is to get married and spend the rest of your life with someone. ("The One", as Hallmark, DeBeers, and the Lifetime Channel have all brainwashed you to think of it as.)

People fall in and out of love all the time. You and your s/o are often not the same people at 40 as you were when you were 20. You change, you grow, and it's entirely possible that you could become more or less compatible with each other. So why be in a relationship if not to get married? Maybe you enjoy the friendship/closeness? Maybe the convenience? Maybe you want kids? Maybe not?

Some people even have polyamorous relationships, because they enjoy companionship with each other, but don't want to lose the excitement of being with new people.

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: ILoveLamp

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX

Originally posted by: ILoveLamp

Originally posted by: rh71
You're asking... you're about to break it off... just go ahead and explain it...

Actually I'm not with anyone at the moment, but friends and people my age are starting to get engaged/think about marriage, and I just wanted to know if any of you were dating someone or in a relationship even though there was no possibility of marriage in the future. I feel like, at a certain point, dating is just a means to get to that one person you want to spend the rest of your life with, so I guess I'm trying to understand the point in staying with someone you know you wouldn't want to marry.

how fat are you?

Hahaha why do you think I'm fat?

"I guess I'm trying to understand the point in staying with someone you know you wouldn't want to marry."

That's why.

same reason i drive my POS car. it costs alot to feed it, get terrible milage out of it, my friend laugh whenever they see me with it, but it's better than walking.

LOL

Nice views and opinions here.

Koing

 

[Landroval]

I married mine almost a decade ago 🙂

 

[Chiropteran]

I don't plan to ever marry anyone.