FYI: Psycho has NEVER cheated on me nor have I cheated on him. He has been my bestfriend for years and I have been his for years and we love each other enough to be honest.
Ok, my friend is not a drunk. She was very upset and had a drink to help herself calm down and relax. However, when he took her keys from her and started yelling the calmness that once existed was shattered and she yelled back. She drinks on occasion. She does, however, smoke cigarettes. Real cigs, not wacky weed.
Secondly, she went to his brothers because he was someone who knew about him cheating. Her parents did not know so she couldn't go to their home. I live about an hour away, so she couldn't leave her kids in the middle of the night to come to my home.
His entire family has told him that he doesn't realize what he has at home. His sister called him and told him to quit being a p*&sy and leave her if he didn't love her, so he wouldn't hurt the kids or her any longer. His Mom and Dad have told him the same thing. In fact, they have told him that he is literally screwing up.
My friend (lets call her Christy) tried to get him to go to counseling, but he wanted to try to work things out by them sitting down each evening and talking more. In fact, this past Sunday he put the wedding ring back on her finger (FYI: She took it off when he first cheated until she felt he was committed to her again). She accepted it and then he turned around that evening and called his mistress (lets call her Shelly).
UPDATE:
Christy spoke to her hubby (lets call him Vin) last night. Vin said that he finally realized that he needs to tell Shelly not to call him and enforce it. Christy told me that she was going to take copies of all the letters she has (love notes from Shelly) to Shelly's husband (lets call him Jake) this week/weekend. I told her just to mail them but she wants to make sure he gets them. I told her that alot of times the messenger gets shot and it would be better for her to get them to him another way. Christy also said a copy was going in Vin's truck as well. However, Vin still doesn't realize that he is too blame for this situation blowing up the way it did. If he had kept his pants on, hadn't called the girl back, etc. he and Christy would still be working things out on a regular road to recovery. Now, he has to start all over.
Vin called Christy yesterday evening and was fussing because his truck had dents in it. He is more worried about the truck than his marriage and family. Christy told him that he put the dents in there when he and his brother were fighting.
Right now, Christy is sitting at home rationalizing the whole situation. In other words, she didn't kick him out. She will eventually get mad at his brother for kicking Vin's butt. She will stay with Vin for the kids because she doesn't think she can handle them on her own.
I only wish that she knew she was strong enough to handle them alone. Heck, if she can currently handle this situation, a job, and the kids she can handle two kids on her own.
BTW, it becomes my problem when I have to listen to her while she is upset. It becomes my problem when I have to pick up her workload because she can't come in because she has to be at home settling things with him.
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